OWWWW!!! My eye!!

[Crazyredhead]

I had to go to the emergency room today. It felt like someone was trying to rip out my eyeball with a rusty knife. My left eye was slightly sore all morning. While I was watching the Pittsburgh game something got into my right eye. I went and removed my contacts and while I was removing my left one, my eye exploded in pain. It felt like someone jabbed a hot needle in there.

I looked and looked and couldn't find an eyelash or a piece of dirt, and it hurt like a bitch. I tried to finish the game but it was getting worse. I flushed and flushed and even took a shower (John's idea), but it didn't help. Now I was getting sharp stabbing pains and couldn't see at all. I finally decided to go to the ER.

Now, I know what everyone is going to say here, I know.

I asked my husband for a ride to the ER and he said no. He said that he didn't have a copay. I told him that he didn't need one. He said that is my problem and that he doens't care and that he is not leaving the house. (He hasn't had any in a few days.) So, I had to drive my self, I could barely see through my good eye, it made my hurt eye hurt more.

Needless to say, it was a hairy trip. My eyes were watering so bad and I was seeing double part of the way. I did stop a couple of times till it got a little better. The ER is about 35 minutes away. Well, I did get there okay, and after about 45 min, I got some numbing drops.

Conclusion, I had a corneal abrasion probably caused by my removal of my contact. I have been wearing contacts for 20 years and never had this. I also wear my contacts to bed and never had this problem.

Finding the antibiotic drops was even harder. I went to Walgreens, who didn't have them and they called about 10 other pharmacies in the area, and no one had it. Finally, the last store they called had them, but it was a 30 min drive to get them. Luckily I had 3 1/2 hours till they closed.

I got the drops and have to go see my eye doctor tomorrow. My husband knows that I am severely mad at him and wouldn't talk to him at all tonight. He asked me when I got home and I asked him "do you really care?". I want an apology from him but since I have never in 15 years heard him say I'm sorry, I may be waiting for a long time.

[CanadaGirl]

Wow... it was a little harsh of him to say " i don't care... it's your problem" when you're in OBVIOUS intense pain and could have died on the drive to the hospital since you could barely see. :eek:

I'm guessing hubby didn't want to leave because of the all-important sports event on the tv? Sigh... :(

[JuniorMintz]

I can't believe your husband was being such an ass about taking you to the ER. Honestly, if it were *his* eye he'd probably be leaping off the couch to get his own ass to a doctor, right? :rant:

Anywho, corneal abrasions are nothing to screw around with. I'm glad you got your eyedrops without having to wait too long. What brand of contacts do you wear? Unless your lenses are specifically marked as ok to sleep in, you should *never* wear them to bed. Your eyes need time to breathe, and if you wear lenses all the time you're not only putting yourself at risk for eye infections, but you are also risking causing long term damage to your corneas. For example: People who get LASIK surgery can NOT wear contacts for at least a week before their workup, and about 2 weeks before their surgery. That's because the lenses have the same effect on your corneas as sitting in a bathtub for too long has on your skin-they both get all wrinkly and warped, and while that won't hurt your skin, it can be terrible for your eyes after a while.

Then again, you just got back from the doctor so I'm pretty sure you heard all this already, so I'll can it for now. Just be careful, ok? Stop wearing your contacts, at least until your optometrist gives you the green light.

Take care. And seriously, make your husband grovel for a while. He deserves it.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

I have a similar problem. Years ago, when I was in grade school and didn't have glasses yet, I got hit in the eye with a snowball that had a piece of ice in it. :cry:

Since then, I've had a problem called "corneal erosion" in that eye. Every so often, my eye will be vulnerable to scratching from, say, an eyelash or a speck of dirt. It feels like I have a piece of broken glass jammed in my eye. I usually get this at night upon waking from sleep.

Most of the time, it will be a small scratch and it will heal in an hour or two, but if it's a bigger scratch it can hurt for days. When that happens, all I can do is lie in bed and get up only to eat, go to the bathroom, or go to the eye doctor.

I have special eye drops and ointment I use, and I haven't had an episode for about a year.

[thegiraffe]

I managed to scratch my eye (i.e. corneal abrasion) about a year ago. I couldn't wear my contacts for a month because of it.

And...sorry this is blunt, but it sounds like your husband needs a reality check. Whatever happened to "to love and cherish, in sickness and in health" (or whatever order it's in)? Yeah, that's what I thought. You say he's not said 'sorry' in 15 years. What else has he done? I'm sorry for saying this, but....he just may not be good enough for you. I'm sure you deserve someone who says 'sorry' and can admit they're wrong...among other things. Good luck.

[chryso]

Wow! :confused:
I can not even imagine not taking my wife to the emergency room if she needed it.

[AirHostess]

Ouch I hope your eye gets better...and how selfish of your husband not to take you to the ER!

[AFpheonix]

Wow, and he came away from the whole episode with his testicles intact? You have better self control than I do, my god, they would have been driven up into his abdominal cavity by a pair of crepe soled boots. :mad:

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I have to agree. I wouldn't stay with a man that treated me like that. I think were it me, I'd have come home from the hospital long enough to collect my crap and put it into my car. And I wouldn't have much to discuss, either.:(

[Myra]

Holy wow Husband and I have been angry with each other before, but nothing came in the way of taking care of each other. He took me to ER the afternoon I got home from work and my chest hurt so badly, all I could do was sleep. (Had bad bronchitis) I also schlepped him to ER the night he twisted his ankle on the ice. No complaints, ever. It doesn't matter how angry I am with him over something, if he injures himself, I'll make sure he's taken where he needs to go to get fixed up.

15 years and never an apology? I think it's time for some sort of intervention with this man. I don't mean to be nosy and tell ya what to do, but when you live with someone, you have fights. And people ought to apologize when they know they need to. My own husband is the most stubborn male you'd ever hope to meet, and he will still apologize if he knows he's in the wrong. It takes a real man to recognize that and apologize. You don't deserve someone like that! He wouldn't even drive you to ER? You definately deserve better.

About your eye, OUCH!!! Glad you got the medication you need, and hope you are better soon!!!!!

[Crazyredhead]

Come to find out that he was mad at me for not cooking before I left, or not cooking when I got back @ 9:30pm. I made sure that my kids were fed before bed but he was already in bed.

[Seanette]

Come to find out that he was mad at me for not cooking before I left, or not cooking when I got back @ 9:30pm. I made sure that my kids were fed before bed but he was already in bed.
Well, call the WAAAHHHHmbulance for this self-centered jerk!!!! An adult could not have fed himself? My DH is NOT a cook, but we do keep in stock simple enough stuff (TV dinners, ramen, etc.) that he can and does feed himself when he's hungry. He's also quite capable of visiting a grocery store or getting takeout if he needs to. Our current schedules are so incompatible that there is no way I could cook for him (unless I did so well in advance and he reheated the meal) and still get the sleep I need to function at work, and he's nowhere near selfish enough to even consider asking. Granted, our scheduling problem is probably worse than yours: I work 7am-3:30pm, so I get up between 5 and 5:20, leave by 5:40am to catch the train I need. On a good day, I get home about 5pm, and really need to be in bed by 8 or 9pm to get enough sleep. DH works 2pm-10:30pm, so leaves here around 1:30-ish, gets home ca. 11pm. He usually comes to bed somewhere between 3 and 4am, and gets up at 12pm. No, we really don't see each other during the week.

I cannot imagine any decent human being putting such a petty sulk ahead of a medical emergency, and would have serious reservations about trusting someone capable of such behavior with either my own health or that of my child.

[thegiraffe]

So....he's incapable of opening a can of soup, pouring it into a bowl, and nuking it? Wow...

Sorry, hun, but I think it's time to give him an ultimatum. If he's willing to fight for you, he'll fight for you. If not, it's time to leave. You deserve MUCH better. And....if (when) you leave, take your kids too. They deserve parents who take care of them (i.e. you).

Good luck!

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

Come to find out that he was mad at me for not cooking before I left, or not cooking when I got back @ 9:30pm. I made sure that my kids were fed before bed but he was already in bed.

Oh for pete's sake......

If you can read a recipe, you can cook.

It isn't exactly rocket science to dig something out of the fridge and throw it in the microwave, or to bake a frozen pizza in the oven.

[Crazyredhead]

Oh, he can cook. Better than me at times. My kids had to eat at 9:30-10:00 pm cause he wouldn't cook. I left at 3pm and he layed on that couch sulking all night. He didn't hurt himself, he hurt the kids, by not cooking for them.

Oh, he got the perverbial kick in the nuts today. I went off on him. He is acting all nice now, probably wants some, not going to happen.