My customers don't like fat people

[erik316wttn]

Two incidents today.

1) A lady had just gotten in line with her kids. The kids wanted to go to McDonalds for lunch, and were starting to get kind of whiny about it. She said "No, we can't go to McDonalds. Eating there will make you sick and fat and ugly." :eek: :eek:

2) I was in a register the first half of my shift that was right by a donut display. A smartass comes up and says "Why'd they put you by the donut display?" Kind of not knowing what he was asking, I replied "Well, this is an express lane and we need at least one person in here right now." He said, "No, why'd they put YOU in here? You look like you've had more than your share of donuts in your lifetime."

Yes, I'm fat, asshole. But I can lose the weight, and you'll always be an asshole.

[theredbaron47]

Wow. My dear jerk, the word is TACT. With a side of MANNERS thrown in for good measure. Maybe a nice big glass of SHUT-THE-HELL-UP while we're at it. (Obviously directed towards the ass you dealt with today!)

[Becks]

People can be so incredibly rude and tactless. What's the matter with them? I hope in their next lives, they come back as less than perfect examples of the human race.

[DGoddessChardonnay]

People can be so incredibly rude and tactless. What's the matter with them? I hope in their next lives, they come back as less than perfect examples of the human race.

What do you mean "in the next life?" They already are less than perfect examples already just in their behavior:p

[NightWolf]

Holy Crap!!! That was just plain uncalled for!

I really honestly think there needs to be legalized beatings for those that truely deserve it. Because he SURELY needs a good beating!

[JustaCashier]

I'm fat too. Bigtime. I've just started going to a Dr. not only because of a leg problem that came up a few weeks ago, but I also was off work sick several days (first time in almost 2.5 years of employment, except for two days I took off for the below mentioned car incident) for being sick prior to my leg situation. The leg problem is what drove me to seek help, but that aside, with prodding from coworkers and management (in a caring way) I decided it was time to overcome my fears of going to the Dr. Got my first physical in my adult life a couple days ago. Hell, I didn't even go when I got hit by a car (essentially knocked down from a slow moving car) almost two years ago, resulting in a sprained knee.

I feel fortunate and thankful, that our family owned Company did not turn me away from employment based my weight, like I suspect, (maybe I'm wrong) that a big Corp. that wants a "pretty people" image might have.

One of the managers, who was one of them that insisted I go see a Dr. is obese too, as is one of the other male employees. We have others that are fat, but probably don't qualify as obese.

I'll joke about my weight, with coworkers and some customers such as if a customer comments on their picture on their Driver's License when I check their I.D. I'll sometimes say that the pic on mine makes me look heavy, or fat. This usually gets a chuckle, and I think puts them at ease with whatever they are worried about with their pic.

So, I can fairly easily take lightheated jokes about my weight, it just depends on the source, and how I perceive it. But, it is incredibly rude for a customer to comment on an employees weight, unless they are a regular, and know the employee well enough to be sure it won't offend them, or if the customer themself is heavy, and may make a joke that the employee could "relate" to.

And when the leg is fully healed, I want to get off my fat butt and start getting some exercise!

Sorry this is so long, as most of my posts seem to be! I hope Raps doesn't put a character limit on my posts! :p

[Lace Neil Singer]

I'm not fat, however, I do have very big hips and a large bust so I've gotten nasty comments before. I just want to tell the guys who make nasty comments that it's not my fault that they think that all women should look like teenage boys... it's their latent homosexuality that's the problem! :lol:

[Primer]

I am also rather large. The last time somebody called me fat, I came back with, "OMG, I'm fat? When did that happen?!? C'mon, can't you come up with something better than that?"

The person who said that to me wasn't exactly skinny herself.

[PuckishOne]

But I can lose the weight, and you'll always be an asshole.
Exactly what I would have said to that waste of skin. The gloves are officially off at that point. But I know that you'd probably have gotten yourself into trouble by responding, so it reflects well on your self-control that you didn't. :)

And to Lace Neil Singer...I actually have said that before!! ;)

[Lace Neil Singer]

And to Lace Neil Singer...I actually have said that before!! ;)
:D Good for you! :lol:

[Becks]

What do you mean "in the next life?" They already are less than perfect examples already just in their behavior:p

I was so mad when I read that that I wasn't clear. I hope they come back as something that falls into their opinion as "less than perfect". Better?

[Brighid45]

I am also a large woman, and have had many insults and nasty remarks sent my way over the years. *sigh* Many of the people sending them are far from perfect specimens themselves, so what gives them the right to say anything?

Usually I simply walk away since it's not worth engaging in a war of words with an unarmed opponent ;) but once I did get in a good zinger. To one man who insisted on being really obnoxious and downright cruel about my appearance, I finally said "I'm about to lose 200 pounds of ugly fat--when you walk out the door." The guy turned beet red and walked away without another word.

Anyway, it's too bad you had to endure some jerk's feeble attempt to prop up his non-existent self-respect by flailing at yours. Consider the source and hang in there. :)

[Kiwi]

Two incidents today.

1) Eating there will make you sick and fat and ugly

well I agree with that one, I think maccas is quite discusting (food wise not employee wise.. we all have to pay rent) and at least she was parenting her kids... even if in a strange way. Although if she was saying that directed it at you then how pathetic of her.

but the second guy... what a prick!! How dare he say that to you

perfect responce "well you cant lose ugly, so how unfortunate for you" although that would most likely get you in trouble.

[XCashier]

I am also a large woman, and have had many insults and nasty remarks sent my way over the years. *sigh* Many of the people sending them are far from perfect specimens themselves, so what gives them the right to say anything?
I've never figured that out either. :no:

One time I was having lunch at a salad bar, and after I made my salad I made a small dessert as well. I heard a man's voice behind me, "Are you sure that's on your diet?" I turned around and there was this jerk with a s***-eating grin. He'd said that. The kicker? He was nearly twice my size!!!

I really wanted to say, "No, but it's on your suit!" and smear it all over his jacket. But I'm too nice.

[One-Fang]

Perhaps those who feel they have to make fun of others do so to hide their fears about themselves, and that is why it's the not-so-perfect-yourself types who do it.

[Pagan]

While we do have freedom of speech in the US, we also have the freedom to keep it to ourselves. There's a saying along the lines of "Better to not say anything and have people think you're a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt"! :p

well I agree with that one, I think maccas is quite discusting (food wise not employee wise.. we all have to pay rent) and at least she was parenting her kids... even if in a strange way.

There's nothing wrong with eating at Mickey D's (I love their fries!). Eating too much of anything is really the problem, not what's being eaten. A dietician (sp?) years ago in my hometown said it all comes down to moderation. "Moderation in all things including moderation". (Can't remember who said that one either. My brain cell problem is covered in another rant!)

[One-Fang]

Indeed, maccas can be a part of a balanced diet. And now that they have healthier options, it needn't necessarily be blanket ruled out like that.

I'd hate to think I could stop in and pick up a chicken salad and be considered more disgusting than the person making their own lunch at home, deep frying their own hot dog and chips. (Hot dog as in battered sausage on a stick, not weiner in a bun).

[Kiwi]

I dont want to thread jack, but I didnt say I thought people who ate maccas were disgusinting, I said that the food was disgusting. I believe that junk food like that (in excess sorry I sould have made that clear) does make people look ill.

Sorry if their was any confusing or offence caused, I certainly did not mean it intentionally.

I still think what those people said to the original poster is mean and nasty and they have no right to air their opinions to a cashier who isnt in a posistion to speak her mind back.

[Mighty Girl]

Two incidents today.

"No, why'd they put YOU in here? You look like you've had more than your share of donuts in your lifetime."

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"In that case, you should be standing by the laxatives, shithead"

[Ree]

I agree with kiwi, actually.

The first comment, although rude, was true to a point.

The second comment was completely uncalled for.

I know eating in moderation is the key, but food choice is also important.

Yeah, McD's has healthier choices now, blah blah blah, but when kids are whining for McDonald's, it's certainly not usually for the chicken salad.

They tend to want the fried and cholesterol heavy items on the menu.
So, in that case, yeah, the Mom was saying no and although it was worded poorly, she had a valid reason for doing so.

[erik316wttn]

I agree with kiwi, actually.

The first comment, although rude, was true to a point.

The second comment was completely uncalled for.

I know eating in moderation is the key, but food choice is also important.

Yeah, McD's has healthier choices now, blah blah blah, but when kids are whining for McDonald's, it's certainly not usually for the chicken salad.

They tend to want the fried and cholesterol heavy items on the menu.
So, in that case, yeah, the Mom was saying no and although it was worded poorly, she had a valid reason for doing so.

I don't really have issue with what the mom was trying to do, but how she said it.

Eating at McDonalds will not make you ugly, and the way she said it implied that if you're fat, you're ugly.

[Ree]

Eating at McDonalds will not make you ugly, and the way she said it implied that if you're fat, you're ugly.I agree on that point as well.
I have lived my whole life with a weight problem, so I know how it feels to have people look down on you because they percieve fat as ugly.

I believe this mother was making the same equation.
(She could also have been meaning ugly as in greasy fried foods have often been associated with pimples, and pimples are considered ugly, but not that's not likely the case here.)

[Phone Jockey]

You look like you've had more than your share of donuts in your lifetime."

What a d*ck!!! OMG...that was genuinely just mean. What did you say to him?

[TequilaSunrise]

See, I have no self-control. I would've either went off on the putz, or just flat out refused to serve him, consequences be damned. Completely uncalled for, no one should have to put up with that.

God, now I'm so angry!

[purplecat41877]

People need to watch what they say to others. There are some words that are hurtful.:mad:

[Lace Neil Singer]

And it's also true that the salads at McDonalds aren't really very healthy, being full of high fat dressing and so forth. If I fancy a salad for lunch, I go to a salad bar; if however I'm PMSing and crave junk, I go to McD's. :D

As for ugly, personality wise these insulting people are the ugliest of all.

[NightWolf]

Man, I just don't care who anyone is, or how "overweight" they are. No one has any right to rip on another person about their weight. Maybe that person has some sort of problem and they can't help it? I've known people that had weight issues they just couldn't control. There are so many options out there for people if they choose. Where I do have a problem with it, is when someone complains that they can't lose weight, yet they keep eating fast food, sugar, and everything else under the sun, and aren't active.

I think of myself as overweight thanks to too much fast food in the past. (which relates to the first comment in Erik's post.) However, I never thought of myself as ugly because of it. Once I went up another pant size at work and started to really feel icky when I woke up, I decided, enough is enough. Time to do something about all this.

Now....I'm down 2 pant sizes, My arms, legs, and chest have all increased in muscle size and I'm eating healthier more now than I ever have been before. A strict diet of chicken, fish, brown rice, cottage cheese, whole grain breads, water, water, and more water. I still eat fast food, but only as a reward for a good week of keeping on my diet. And i never over do it.

But for anyone that thinks they are overweight and are feeling down by others attitudes on it. Think about this: I'd rather die happy and satisfied that I lived a full life and had some great food along the way, than die sad because I was afraid to eat some of the best tasting food out there for fear of gaining weight.

[scorpionf]

As for the first comment, although true to a point, it could have been worded differently.

As for the second comment... It takes all my self control not to punch people like that. I usually settle for a snide remark.

I have always been a firm believer of it's what's on the inside that counts!! An attitude like what this guy has makes him extremely unattractive.

[XCashier]

"In that case, you should be standing by the laxatives, shithead"
:lol: If only we could think up such zingers on the spot when needed. Imagine the look on the creep's face upon hearing that!

[Crow The Robot]

I agree people need to be more considerate, I would never dream, of going up to someone and saying, those things, God what an ass, well, karma's b*tch, at least I hope it is for this dude.
Anyway, i get this stuf for being thin (you can't win, and you are lucky to lose) among the comments I've gotten.
MY GOD do you ever eat?
Are you not eating?
Why are you so f----n' thin???
DAMN, you don't eat much do you?
God, eat something will you?
Jesus, eat something, for god's sake.
I really don't know if they are as hurtful as the one you mentioned, but, people need to stop judging others, because none of us areperfect we all have flaws. So pipe down asshats.

[Rubystars]

I'd rather be too thin than too fat. A lot of the comments directed at 'too thin' people are motivated by jealousy, the ones directed at fat people are motivated by disgust.

I'm obese but I've lost about 40 lbs over the last year, I've got about 100 to go.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I used to be very big, due to compulsive eating disorder. Whenever anyone said anything to me about my size it cut deep, not just cuz of my size but at the same time I was battling clinical depression. Wish people would just engage brain before opening their traps.

I did lose all the weight once I'd gotten over the depression tho. But I can emphasize with anyone who's big cuz of that.

[chainedbarista]

To one man who insisted on being really obnoxious and downright cruel about my appearance, I finally said "I'm about to lose 200 pounds of ugly fat--when you walk out the door." The guy turned beet red and walked away without another word.

awesome, brighid; a great strike at some jackass who likes to 'look good' or 'be funny' at another's expense.

for some stupid reason, idiots like this think that simply because we work there, we have to put up with their insults, and that they can victimize us as they see fit. not so, unwary asshats; come in to my place, say something rude/stupid-I DARE YOU.

i also keep in mind that most of our customers (we've had a steady decline in 'customer quality' since we've opened) are some of the lowest members of society, and need some pathetic way of feeling better about themselves.

[Brighid45]

Crow, no one should be saying anything about your thinness either. In my book, it's just as bad as picking on someone for being large, or other things like skin color. It's just plain wrong. Unfortunately it will keep happening because the two most abundant substances in the universe are hydrogen and stupidity. So all you can do is decide ahead of time what you're going to do when someone says something. Most of the time it really isn't worth your energy and attention to go after someone for being a jerk.