I hate my neighbors volume 5

[blas]

Ok, this may be bringing up the dead posts again, but blas has a problem.

As most of you know, I moved on the first of August this year. All was fine and dandy the first few weeks (except of course my computer access was very limited and so were laundry facilities)........but it was still livable, and much better than living with my parents and still having a *before midnight* curfew despite being almost 20....but I digress...

All was great and dandy until SHE and her children moved in.

SHE.....I really can't describe who SHE is because I've never gotten a really close look at her. But, fear not, I hear her EVERY move that she makes next door, along with every blood curdling scream that her children make (oh no, don't start with the "blas, children do scream", this time I feel for the children because I know that they aren't the problem).

Let's start with every morning. I come home from work and my parents house at about 8 am. The parking spot in the back next to mine is empty. I rejoice at the fact that nasty baby's mama isn't home. I turn up the heat, get in my robe, and slump onto the couch to enjoy some well earned after work R&R (considering I work for a living, and I deserve to be able to be lazy when I feel like it).

Then SHE comes home. I can always tell by the loud muffler (or...whatever is left of the muffler she has and the 20 holes in it....or non existent muffler, I can't tell, and never cared to look). Of course, I hear her *outside, mind you* yelling at her kids to get out of the car (because, for gosh sakes, the thought of having to HELP your infant and toddler out of their carseats is just terrible!) and I hear them tumble up the stairs. I hear her tromp like a horny stallion up the stairs and WHAAAAAM! She slams the door and the pots and pans on top of my fridge rattle. Sometimes the wall rattles. I now realize that my peace is gone.

For the rest of the day, all I hear is BANG, CRASH, BOOM, SLAM, CRACK, WHAAAAAAAM......SMACK.......SLAM SLAM SLAM! This woman is incapable of doing ANYTHING quietly. She literally slams her cabinets shut. She slams every door of her apartment when she leaves the said room. She literally tromps like a horse, maybe even an ELEPHANT, around her apartment......and all of that banging and slamming and tromping does shake things in my kitchen. Since all of the apartments are mirror images of each other, I would be amazed if her downstairs neighbor's ceiling fan hasn't came crashing down yet. I mean, if I'm angrier than a mob of hornets, I can only imagine the poor people who live right below her. If it's this bad from next door.....it's probably worse directly below!

She has made living there almost dreadful. Every morning I bring a pair of ear plugs from work home to sleep in.

I swear this woman is psychic, or the world of coincidence is present everytime I go to the bathroom. I swear, every time I go to the bathroom (even just to pee really quick), she knows I'm in there, and there she is on her side, slamming the door and tossing her kid into the tub. I have begun to sneak into the bathroom and barely shut the door and flush the toilet and run away before she can make any noise.

I had a really bad night at work a few weeks ago (those older people getting to me again). All I wanted to do was take a bubble bath. I actually laid in the tub and let the burning hot water and bubbles grow and grow with me in them. It felt great. For about 5 minutes, I shut my eyes and heard my favorite thing in the world: SILENCE.

Then I heard her bathroom door slam shut and a child go into the tub. I then heard her shouting "Knock it the fuck off!" "Quit it and take your fucking bath!" "I mean it, get back in the fucking tub!" and more and more f this and f that and blah blah blah.......I heard her kid screaming and her screaming and little arms and legs pounding on the tub (which I could feel on my side of the wall), and I got so angry I got out of the tub, pulled the plug, and took my shower door (the sliding kind) and flung it shut so hard that it went off of its railings and became uneven and wouldn't shut normally again *till my angry roomie fixed it, lol*. That noise rattled my entire bathroom and hopefully hers too. I know it wasn't the child's fault at all, poor thing, but I was furious that I couldn't enjoy a relaxing bath after a hard day because of her.

I soon discovered that turning the bathroom fan on works wonders. It's oddly very, very loud (which in most cases is annoying, but this fan prevents me from hearing anything except for when she throws stuff at the wall or pounds on things).

So now when I take a bath or shower or even put on my makeup, I put the fan on. Then I get into my bed with my earplugs in my ears. The ear plugs prevent me from hearing anything but pounding and tromping noises.

This is just sad, isn't it? I don't want to report her, because she'll know it's me (I think the reason she does half the stuff she does is....well, most likely she is just that angry and loud, but she knows I hate it *she's heard me yell "Knock it off!"* at her*, and does it even more). This isn't the best neighborhood, I don't want all the ghetto people after me.

I've gotten back at her good a few times, though. Other than the shower door.....one day, every time she slammed a door, I slammed one right back, and after about 5 minutes she stopped and didn't do it again until the next day........another time she was on a cabinet slamming spree, so I slammed all of mine open and shut over and over until she quit (for a few days). The last thing I did....for some reason she was throwing something around (it sounded like a garbage or recycling bag) and it kept hitting the wall. I took my pizza pan (you stick it in the oven to take out your pizza...everyone Italian must have one) and yelled, "OH MY GOD!" and whacked the wall really hard with it. Then I laughed and said "You HAVE to come see this spider I just killed!". Silence was had for another day or so.

Ok, enough of my waaaay too long sob story. Who else hates their neighbors? Anyone who has a roomate or lives in an apartment or duplex or condo or dorm room must share their stories!

I am not kidding....this is the neighbor from hell.

Oh, did I mention she has a friend(s?) that comes over.....and instead of parking in one of the extra, oh, two or three empty spots we have in the back, they park their car horizontal to my neighbors and my vertically parked cars, only more in front of mine, nearly blocking me in? Yup...and the dumb bitch knows I leave at the same time every night for work........

I hope she gets arrested for drug dealing or gets evicted. I'm running out of ideas and I'm going crazy. I'm lucky I can fall asleep and stay asleep long enough to keep myself up at night. It's not so bad that I want out, because I can't afford to break my lease.......I just want it to stop. This woman needs to realize that there are other people who live here, too......some of us like peace and quiet and want to SLEEP!

[thegiraffe]

Holy crap - call CPS or DCF or whatever other children and families protective agency you have. THAT, my friends, is abuse. Verbal, obviously physical, and very likely neglect. Chances are, that'll be the best (and easiest) way to get rid of her. Poor children....

Good luck!

[Spiffy McMoron]

First off, blas, it's great to see you again-it's been a while since you posted. Are you at a friends place, or did you get the internet in your place?

At the risk of getting you angry/jealous, my roommates are awesome-reasonably neat, reasonably quiet, pay the bills on time, etc.

But for the problem at hand-does she have a neighbour on the other side of her apartement? If so, talk to the other neighbour, and the neighbour directly downstairs. If they have the same problem with her (and her friends parking) then you can make a joint complaint to the landlord with them and your roommate. If the landlord hears from more than one other tentant, then he/she will be more inclined to do something about it.

Good luck!

[blas]

Unfortunately, she's the lucky one who lives on the end I'm her only neighbor next door. I'm not sure about the downstairs people...

As much as I'd love to see her children taken away someplace safe and her taken away as well....I really don't want to pursue anything until I have proof. I have never watched her do anything. Noises may be one thing, but the only evidence I have is her yelling at them and that one incident in the bathtub.

I am confident that the other 98% of those noises are just her being noisy. I know that it's her slamming doors, throwing garbage bags at the wall, slamming cupboards, slamming the door, tromping on the floor, etc etc........I really need to build a strong case before I can do anything.

Like I said before, this isn't the projects or Detroit or Chicago or Central Park at night, but this isn't exactly the type of place where you want to be in other people's business. I've kept myself safe by minding my own p's and q's. (imagine the neighborhood by the gas station I worked at, but a level or two less dangerous). I've probably already done damage by getting back at her by stooping to her level with the racket competition.

I would love to go to the landlord office (they own every apartment building on the street)....but she would know it's me complaining, because I'm the only one.

[Misanthropical]

I would say call CPS on her, it does sound like she is abusing those poor children.

As for my neighbors, it's the one two doors down who drives me nuts. I had insomnia on Monday night, so I was up for a straight 24 hours before I could go back to bed. I get the kids off to school and go to lay down and I swear the neighbor's two year old decided to stand under my bedroom window and scream and scream and scream some more till it was time to go pick the children up from school. There is never anything wrong with him, he just loves to scream.

I have never heard this child talk, he only screams. His mother never says a word to him about his behavior, she just stands there staring off into space. The boy can do what ever he wants without having his mother correct him in any way.

[Kika]

Hey, Blas, where in WI are you? I had a similar problem with a neighbor when I lived outside of Milwaukee, and I got them evicted for violating noise codes. Most of the cities in Milwaukee/Waukesha counties have them.

[protege]

Ugh. That sucks.

My parents lived to people like that. They were alcoholics, and were constantly fighting with each other at all hours of the night. Even with their windows closed, we could still hear everything--breaking glass, numerous fights, screaming, etc. Things weren't helped when the cops started coming after they'd beat the kids. The rest of us had enough and were tired of it. However, no charges were ever filed.

The last straw came when the husband had an accident in his garage. He was trying to fix his garage door, when it fell, and pinned him against the wall :eek: His feeble attempts at summoning help were largely ignored. We all thought that it was "Jack and Diane" fighting again and left them to their own devices.

Well, let's just say "Diane" wasn't too happy about that. In fact, she was pissed! But, the guy down the street put her in her place. He said something along the lines of "well, if you weren't so fucking loud all the time, maybe we wouldn't have ignored you." The look on her face was great :lol: and they ended up moving away not even a month later.

[Ryu]

nothing nearly that bad but theres always loud music, usually a lot of bass, into the wee hours of the night every day of the week, its even worse thursday-sunday
but wow that woman is PSYCHO

[Cia]

And I thought the upstairs neighbors in Killeen, TX were bad. They'd fight about if they were having sex or not - she wanted to but he was to tired and on and on. When his or her kid came for a visit they would sit in the kitchen slamming the cabinet doors shut over and over and over and over. She accidently (maybe) broke something of his so they had a big fight over it and he started throwing her things around and breaking them.

[MystyGlyttyr]

Call the police, every time, and say that you think the woman next door is shooting a gun. If the bangs are loud enough, then you could EASILY ;) confuse them for gunshots and if all her banging and flinging around has left any damage on the walls...

Honestly, I don't know. The only bad neighbors I had at least had the decency to shut up at night.

[Cedophile]

Hey Mysty has a pretty solid idea here. Who can blame you for worrying about a stray bullet flying into your living room?

[AFpheonix]

My neighbors now are pretty quiet....although I think the insulation here is great, because I can barely hear stuff outside, too. The do have an awfully squeaky mattress though.......

The neighbors at the apartment I lived in in college though....shudder....
The ones above I think had small elephants for children. Stampeding elephants. The one next to me would get really drunk and sing along to his ranchero music so loud I could hear him singing over the radio.....
When their friends would come pick them up for work at 3 or 4am, the jackasses would keep their radio up really loud while parked outside my window and/or would honk their horn to let the guys know to come outside. :mad:

[DesignFox]

That lady is farking nuts...

I had some bad neighbors in college. But, I'm not the sort of person whose sleep you want to mess with...needless to say, those girls were in for a rude awakening if they thought they could get away with it- I went to the RA's first...when they didn't work I went to the Director of Res. Life. Eventually, they stopped waking me up with their bulls***. I get VERY cranky when I am woken up! I like my sleep and I like my nappy time... all the gods of creation help you if you wake me up before I'm wanting to get up...

The lady in the story sounds sort of like my Dad's GF (though not nearly as extreme). At my dad's house, my room is in the basement under the kitchen. When the GF wakes up, she is ALWAYS tromping around like a damn elephant, SLAMS cabinets open and shut, drops things on the floor (I swear she drops bowling balls just to wake me up and piss me off) and BANGS whatever it is she is banging around on the counter. I work primarily at night- so I sleep late! I have tried being reasonable and requesting a little umm...what's that thing... COURTESY from my family in the morning, but she and her lazy ass son who I could write a book about, are the only ones who don't have any consideration... GARR! I hate being home... I like my BF's house...nice and quiet... ;)

[ArenaBoy]

I agree with MystyGlytter on this one. My neighbors are quite consedirate forutnately but if I am woken up which is hard to do in the first place then said awaker will be sorry. I need my sleep and I'm not losing it because of a jackass.

[blas]

I'm in northwest WI, I'm not really sure if I could get her evicted. I did save my lease papers, I'll go over the terms and whatnot again and see about "noise violations" and what the landlords consider a violation.

The funny thing is, except for maybe one or two nights a week (well, duh.....the only two nights I have off a week) they are SILENT......sleeping.

I'd love to get back at them but it wouldn't be fair to the children to pound on the walls or slam my headboard back and forth against the wall, etc etc.......it's not the children's fault. I only want her to suffer. That is why I never seek revenge on them at night. The kids are sleeping.

[Argabarga]

You need to bring the constant noise to the attention of the landlords, you paid for your room and board with the full expectation that you'd be able to, oh , I dunno, sleep in your own bed without being woken up.

Do not shrink from this just because you aren't comfortable with confrontation, nobody is, but you are in the right here, there's no reason you should have to take this

Make a polite and well thought out complaint about the situation, don't embellish it, don't make accusations you can't prove (i.e. abuse), just tell them the current situation isn't acceptable, and let them take care of it

Also don't back down because you fear people will know it was you, there is no shame in standing up for yourself, and if this lady is dumb enough to try any kind of retalliation or just gets louder to piss you off some more, it will only speed her eviction

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Yeah, I'd call someone, too. No, you don't know if she's physically abusing her kids, but hey, if you hear a kid screaming, her swearing, the kid hitting the tub, you could make a case for saying "I think she's throwing around and hurting her child." Which may actually be true, but don't say "She's doing this." say "It SOUNDS like she's doing this."

Also, there is such a thing as noise ordinances, and furthermore, you shouldn't have to listen to some nutjob screaming "fuck" everytime you go in there. Check out your local laws, print them out, and have them on hand to show any cops that show up and also your landlord.

[BusBus]

I have to agree with Argabarga. You really should go to the landlord and file a formal complaint. Landlords do not like the idea of one person making everybody else's life difficult...it's easier to boot one tenant than losing two or three.

Last summer, my neighbour acquired a very "vocal" girlfriend, if you catch my drift. I could hear every single profanity that she would yell while they were going at it on his incredibly squeaky mattress. It's especially fun being woken up by this.

I had enough after a month and filed a complaint with my landlord. He took it very seriously and dealt with it. They were quiet from then on...until last month. The I filed another complaint. Now it's quiet again.

I don't care if he knows that it was me complaining. I was promised quiet accommodations when I moved in and ,damnit, that's what I am paying for.

Get your landlord involved ASAP! The sooner, the better!

[Tanasi]

I would suggest exhausting all avenues with the landlord befoe involving the LEOs. It's not their job to settle tennet disputes that's what the landlord is for.

[powerboy]

Yeah, let the landlords know about it. I use to have neighbor that everytime, my parents went outside, she would shoot a gun at them. We filed with the police, but nothing happened because her brother was an police officer.

[XCashier]

I'm living in an apartment for the first time in 15 years. Hubby and I are careful to walk and talk fairly quietly. My five year old son, unfortunately, doesn't quite grasp the idea that there are people living below, above, and beside us. He can be quite loud (not deliberately, just the usual boistrous kid stuff). We have to remember to take off his shoes and keep reminding him to play quietly.

One of my neighbors (I suspect the ones below us) smokes heavily, and the smoke is drifting into my apartment. The bathroom and kitchen stink of cigarettes (and have no windows to open to let in fresh air). I recognize that they have the right to smoke in their house, which is why I haven't complained. But if anyone can recommend a good air freshener or something to get rid of the smoky smell, I'd appreciate it.

[Tanasi]

Yeah, let the landlords know about it. I use to have neighbor that everytime, my parents went outside, she would shoot a gun at them. We filed with the police, but nothing happened because her brother was an police officer.

So you're saying your neighbor was taking shots at your parents and the cops wouldn't do anything? I believe a call to the FBI or Cal Attorney General is in order. That's corruption at the highest order.

[Food Lady]

I used to live in a college town one block from the bars. Aside from the outside noise, I had a bunch of jobless insomniac neighbors. It was a 150-year-old house converted into apartments, so I practically heard people breathing and smells drifted through floorboards. I had one neighbor who liked to vacuum at 3 am. The one below me liked his loud, thumping music, and I was a day sleeper. I decided I really needed to vacuum when he had that music on. The one down the hall just played insanely loud music, turned all the way up. He was "special", if you know what I mean. I think a major part of the problem was the structure of the building. But you don't turn your stereo up and vacuum in the wee hours.

Now I have no complaints except for the kids running all over the parking lot--which is prohibited--and the neighbor below us who is very nice, but manic-depressive and sometimes feels the need to put pictures up at 1 or 2am. bang, bang, bang I realize she can't sleep, but as my mom used to scold us, "People sleep at night!"

[blas]

You guys missed quite a show Saturday night....

I was waiting for my date to call (which, like always they DON'T and stand me up, but that's another story), so I was nursing my wounds with a Bacardi (or three) and was watching COPS (haha), so it was about 7 pm or so. I periodically checked here and my myspace for any activity. My roomate INSISTS on keeping his window halfway open in his room (where the computer is) even though it's mid December in Wisconsin (granted, global warming has been kind to us, and at the coldest lately it's been in the 20s or teens at night). Anywho, outside I heard yelling. I heard multiple F bombs and "bitch" and whatnot......coming from the elephant herself. I peeked out the window just to make sure the psycho wasn't throwing her prey at my car. Then I heard stomping going upstairs, and then, like clockwork, SLAMMMM, the door slammed. I muted the TV and heard her screaming at the top of her lungs, and then heard what sounded like a person being thrown against the wall. I shit you all not when I say that my entire kitchen shook as if there were an earthquake (you guys can relax, the kids weren't there, I didn't hear any baby elephant steps or kids yelling). I'm assuming my white trash neighbors were drinking and, of course, the Drama LLama made an appearance and things got way out of control.

This fighting went on until 3 am when I left to go pick up a friend. The fight went from inside to the back parking lot, back inside, back outside, on the porch, back inside, etc etc.........it only got heated once every couple of hours when the elephant woman would flip out and something would crash and shake my kitchen.

Funny fact: I brought my friend over, and not another voice or noise was heard until noon Sunday when they all woke up and the kids were back. Maybe the cops did show up?

Oh yeah....her kids. I realize that it wasn't too long ago I was a child, but when I was a kid, like, a toddler, I was in bed by 6 or 7 every night. This dumbass lets her baby elephants trot and stomp around even when I'm leaving the apartment to go to work at NIGHT.......and I work at 11! I can hear them, it's like two baby elephants tromping around.

Oh yeah, also.....I didn't mention this in the beginning, but a couple of months ago, I was seeing a guy, and he spent the night on weekends. We were going to bed around 7 am one day (I never sleep at night), and just as I was starting to fall asleep, I heard the mother elephant slam her bathroom door (my bedroom is next to the bathroom which is next to hers), and what happened next, I have no idea. It sounded, literally, as if her bathroom sink came crashing down. I know it's impossible, the sink has a counter top and that is just...not possible with that kind of sink, but that has been the loudest noise she has ever created to this day. I have NO idea what she did that day, but I just hope no one was underneath that sink lol.

Someone take her away and never let her come back.....she ruins my days.

[ArenaBoy]

Blas, this calls for the lyrics to a song to be posted that may give you a good laugh.

Beck - Truck Drivin Neighbors Downstairs (Yellow Sweat)
WARNING: LANGUAGE AHEAD!!!!

Neighbor 1: Come on, motherfucker. Put your clothes on, come on. Asshole!
Neighbor 2: You lousy puke!
Neighbor 3: Fuck you!
Neighbor 2: Why don't you call your mommy?
Neighbor 3: You're a fucking drunk.
Neighbor 2: Yeah, I'm a fucking drunk...
Neighbor 1: Come on, motherfucker.
Neighbor 2: ...but you're a lousy lowlife who can't do nothin' for himself.

acid casualty with a reposessed car
vietnam vet playin' air guitar

it's just the shit-kickin', speed-takin'
truck-drivin' neighbours downstairs
yeah...yeah

whiskey-stained buck-toothed backwoods creep
grizzly bear motherfucker never goes to sleep

[chorus]
oh, yeah...yeah

belly floppin' naked in a pool of yellow sweat
screamin' jackass with a wet cigarette

[chorus]
oh
oh, my goodness
oh... [etc.]
mmm... [etc.]

psychotic breakdown double-edged axe
growin' hair like a shag rug on his greasy back

[chorus]
oh my goodness
oh my goodness

oh, yeah
come on, honey, feel the grease
grease, grease
come on, honey, feel the grease
oh, my goodness
come on, honey, feel the grease
oh yeah
come on, lay it on me
bring it down one more time
come on, honey...

[LadyMage]

*eyes bug*

EGAD. And I thought my ex-roommate was bad!

Blas, waste no time and bring your concerns to the landlord and the police. The reason I say concerns is, show extra concern for the kids. The phrase "I'm worried about them because it sounds like...(insert possibility here)" will be of great help to this. KEEP GOING to them. Keep it up until they do something.

[Hempress]

I'm lucky with my neighbors. They can be loud sometimes, but so can we. They don't get mad at us, we don't get mad at them. :lol:

Oh yeah....her kids. I realize that it wasn't too long ago I was a child, but when I was a kid, like, a toddler, I was in bed by 6 or 7 every night. This dumbass lets her baby elephants trot and stomp around even when I'm leaving the apartment to go to work at NIGHT.......and I work at 11! I can hear them, it's like two baby elephants tromping around.

Not commenting on the elephant's parenting skills, but my son is only 2 and he goes to bed around 10PM-12AM every night, too. We're all just night owls. As long as he's getting the amount of sleep he needs for his age I don't really care what time he does it. We co-sleep anyway, so it would be awkward to put him to bed 4-5 hours before my boyfriend and I go to sleep.

[Crazyredhead]

Blas, you should get the landlord involved. I'm worried here. I don't want to wish bad luck on anyone but if she is throwing things against the wall, what is to stop her from getting a gun. If the walls are that thin, there is nothing stopping a stray bullet from going through it or a body. If throwing things, slamming doors and people against walls loses its effect for her, what is to stop her from getting a gun and using it? And God forbid she misses her target and the bullet goes through the wall and hits you or someone else, then what?

This is where the kids come in, you may not want to do anything because the kids are not at fault. But what if she goes off the deep end and really hurts one of her kids and it could have been prevented, if only someone had said something.

I don't want to hear that you, or anyone that comes in contact with this woman, got hurt. Report this woman!!!!!!!

[BusBus]

Must I repeat myself? Get your landlord involved!

I don't mean to sound harsh, but if you are not going to do anything about this, then you really can't complain. If it makes it easier, write a letter and drop it off at his office/mailbox. You need to do something!

-BB