Misty
12-12-2006, 08:01 PM
This has been bothering me ever since it happened last weekend. I need wise and impartial opinions, so I thought I’d seek advice here.
My sister has been living with her boyfriend for over two years. They plan on getting married next year.
Last weekend we all went out drinking. My sister is very social and outgoing, especially when she drinks. She spent half the evening talking to some guy at the bar while her boyfriend shot pool about ten feet away. I really didn’t think much of it until the lights came up and they were kicking us all out.
My sister, who was quite drunk at that point, pulled me aside and said, “have you ever met someone who you were so attracted to that you just wanted to have sex with them?” I told her that it was just the beer goggles talking, and she said “no, I really want to have sex with him!” Ooookay.
At this point, her boyfriend is outside waiting for us. She goes back and gives the guy at the bar a kiss on the lips (not a sexual one, the kind you give your grandma), and comes back to me. As we’re walking out, she stops and gives him a longing, dreamy look, and then rushes both of us out of the bar, telling me to “hurry, hurry, hurry,” all the way.
Now, I’m not as drunk as her, but drunk enough to say what’s on my mind. Short version: I called her a stupid, selfish b**** and asked what the hell she thought she was doing back there. She got defensive and said “I’m just flirting! Sorry I’m not as noble as you!”
Now that I look back, I think I was way too harsh. It’s really none of my business, but I just thought her behavior was immature and disrespectful. Also, even though nothing happened this time, I worry that one day she’ll do something while drunk that she’ll really regret; I like her boyfriend, he’s a cool guy, and my sister seems to love him.
Maybe another reason I got so mad is because so many of my friends have great boyfriends/husbands whom they take for granted, while I can’t find a decent guy to save my life.
Anyway, I’d appreciate some advice. Do I owe her an apology?
My sister has been living with her boyfriend for over two years. They plan on getting married next year.
Last weekend we all went out drinking. My sister is very social and outgoing, especially when she drinks. She spent half the evening talking to some guy at the bar while her boyfriend shot pool about ten feet away. I really didn’t think much of it until the lights came up and they were kicking us all out.
My sister, who was quite drunk at that point, pulled me aside and said, “have you ever met someone who you were so attracted to that you just wanted to have sex with them?” I told her that it was just the beer goggles talking, and she said “no, I really want to have sex with him!” Ooookay.
At this point, her boyfriend is outside waiting for us. She goes back and gives the guy at the bar a kiss on the lips (not a sexual one, the kind you give your grandma), and comes back to me. As we’re walking out, she stops and gives him a longing, dreamy look, and then rushes both of us out of the bar, telling me to “hurry, hurry, hurry,” all the way.
Now, I’m not as drunk as her, but drunk enough to say what’s on my mind. Short version: I called her a stupid, selfish b**** and asked what the hell she thought she was doing back there. She got defensive and said “I’m just flirting! Sorry I’m not as noble as you!”
Now that I look back, I think I was way too harsh. It’s really none of my business, but I just thought her behavior was immature and disrespectful. Also, even though nothing happened this time, I worry that one day she’ll do something while drunk that she’ll really regret; I like her boyfriend, he’s a cool guy, and my sister seems to love him.
Maybe another reason I got so mad is because so many of my friends have great boyfriends/husbands whom they take for granted, while I can’t find a decent guy to save my life.
Anyway, I’d appreciate some advice. Do I owe her an apology?