Ljt09863
12-29-2006, 03:40 AM
as many of you know, i have had issues with my fiancee(Peter) and his mother. i have had issues where Peter won't stand up to her, where she gets to do alot of stuff that she shouldn't be able to(opening his mail!) and how i prettymuch get told,"too bad. shes my mom she gets to do and say what she wants."
well...lately, she has been doing things to really upset peter. for instance. shes had a realy problem with opening his mail. he really didn't care too much before. the last straw came a few weeks ago. she opened his credit card bill, and then lost it. he was almost late paying it. its a relatively new bill, so he dind't know he could pay online. if he didn't find out at the last minute, he would have been late with the bill because of her. he blew up at her and told her she isn't to touch his mail at all! his mail is to be set on our stairs and left there for us. thats it.
i didn't know this until tonight, but i guess she has been opening his cousins and his cousins fiancees mail as well! the nerve of her! the thing is, i wouldn't put it past those two to report her doing that. i told Peter that. his exact words,"maybe somebody should do it then." i was shocked that he said that.
on christmas eve, we went to his aunt and uncles house. i really like them. they are really nice. extremely religious(i got a bible from the for christmas, along with a body mist gift set. but it doesn't bother me. i can look past it even though im not religious), but i really like them. we were talking about how their daughter had quit her job, and then her husband got fired and lost their house and car.
right away, peters mother starts talking about how peter lost his job. she kept saying over and over,"i just know they are going to lose their car! i know it! they are going to lose it!" first of all, im not working 51 hours a week just to lose this car! im doing what i need to to keep everything! but what really made ismad, is her lack of confidence in her son finding a job. Peter is really good at the bills. he sat down a figured out how long we cn keep going the way we are. we are good for another few months. he told his mother this. now...if she had any faith that her son would be getting a job within a few months, why would she be worried about us losing the car? to me, it was saying that she didn't think he would get another job! maybe im overreacting, but i still didn't appreciate her saying that.
peter and i were talking about it two nights ago. since then, i guess Peter has confronted his mother about it. she claims to have never said that. he doesn't believe her. tonight, peter said,"she is doing alot of things lately thats pushing me out of this house." he is really upset with her.
to get things straight, i do not want peter estranged from his mother. she raised him, and has done alot for him. i jsut want peter to realize that she does lie, and say things that she shouldn't say. i want him to realize this, because it makes things alot easier on me. if she annoys me, or frustrates me, i know i can now talk to him without him getting defensive. i know now that it isn't going to be hard for him to put the baby and me before her.
overall, it works out better for me. its not going to hard for him to see my point anymore.
well...lately, she has been doing things to really upset peter. for instance. shes had a realy problem with opening his mail. he really didn't care too much before. the last straw came a few weeks ago. she opened his credit card bill, and then lost it. he was almost late paying it. its a relatively new bill, so he dind't know he could pay online. if he didn't find out at the last minute, he would have been late with the bill because of her. he blew up at her and told her she isn't to touch his mail at all! his mail is to be set on our stairs and left there for us. thats it.
i didn't know this until tonight, but i guess she has been opening his cousins and his cousins fiancees mail as well! the nerve of her! the thing is, i wouldn't put it past those two to report her doing that. i told Peter that. his exact words,"maybe somebody should do it then." i was shocked that he said that.
on christmas eve, we went to his aunt and uncles house. i really like them. they are really nice. extremely religious(i got a bible from the for christmas, along with a body mist gift set. but it doesn't bother me. i can look past it even though im not religious), but i really like them. we were talking about how their daughter had quit her job, and then her husband got fired and lost their house and car.
right away, peters mother starts talking about how peter lost his job. she kept saying over and over,"i just know they are going to lose their car! i know it! they are going to lose it!" first of all, im not working 51 hours a week just to lose this car! im doing what i need to to keep everything! but what really made ismad, is her lack of confidence in her son finding a job. Peter is really good at the bills. he sat down a figured out how long we cn keep going the way we are. we are good for another few months. he told his mother this. now...if she had any faith that her son would be getting a job within a few months, why would she be worried about us losing the car? to me, it was saying that she didn't think he would get another job! maybe im overreacting, but i still didn't appreciate her saying that.
peter and i were talking about it two nights ago. since then, i guess Peter has confronted his mother about it. she claims to have never said that. he doesn't believe her. tonight, peter said,"she is doing alot of things lately thats pushing me out of this house." he is really upset with her.
to get things straight, i do not want peter estranged from his mother. she raised him, and has done alot for him. i jsut want peter to realize that she does lie, and say things that she shouldn't say. i want him to realize this, because it makes things alot easier on me. if she annoys me, or frustrates me, i know i can now talk to him without him getting defensive. i know now that it isn't going to be hard for him to put the baby and me before her.
overall, it works out better for me. its not going to hard for him to see my point anymore.