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blas
02-07-2007, 02:06 PM
If anyone's noticed, I've been very scarce or pretty much non existent for the past few weeks or so. I know, I know, other CS members have been AWOL for much much longer, but since I used to post regularly, several times a day, and then all of a sudden disappeared, I figured I'd give you all an update of what's been going on.

The Monday after my birthday (so two days later basically), my roomate took the computer sometime after I had gone to work that night. I came home and saw it was gone. At first I freaked out thinking someone had broke in, but then I remembered everything that's been happening for the past few months and it dawned on me. Now, I realize that no one should have to tell someone else that they are taking THEIR own stuff, but since I have furniture, a TV, and a DVD player in storage at my parent's house for when he officially moves out.....well....and considering I was going to buy a laptop that very weekend with my birthday money........I wanted a little bit of notice if he was going to start moving stuff out, simply because I cannot move my furniture nor my TV on my own and I'd need my father or brother's help, and I can't just force them to bring it over on a dime. We had agreed to this months ago that he'd let me know when everything was going to disappear so that I wouldn't have to sit in an empty apartment for a week before I could move all my stuff in.

Well, I sent him an angry text message, saying "Let me know before you move more stuff out so I don't end up in an empty house".....which he replied that the computer was broken........liar. He's the type to text or call and say "Hey, this is broken and won't be here for a few days" and whatnot. If he really didn't want me using it anymore, he could have changed his password. But no, he just took it. And stashed it somewhere, because he's had his own laptop and his girlfriend's computer to use for the past 6-7 months. I know it was his.....but if he wanted me to stop using it....there's more adult ways of going about this than waiting until I leave at night and then taking it.

So now every day I am worried that there will be nothing left and the whole place will be empty, except for my room and my food. Needless to say, as soon as this whole thing is over, I will never speak to him again.

Oh, what next? I found a new roomate. I know I said I'd never do it again, but one of my good friends needed a place to live about two weeks ago. She told me that she had the security deposit money to give my roomate and she had her own computer and she needed a place asap. I ask my roomate, because he's been telling me all along to find a new roomie or get ready to be alone.

His response? He does not know exactly when he is moving out, he hasn't even looked at ANY houses yet........soo.......he will NOT be moving his bed or any of the other things he has still at the apartment until then. Even though he found someone's place to stash his computer and could probably stash everything else at (considering he's at the point where he's moved his DRESSER and ALL of his clothes and ALL of his toiletries and ALL of his small electronics to his girlfriend's apartment, which is sizeable to ours)...........yeah. He blatantly refused to let my friend move in. He said he isn't going to move until he's ready. Well no FRICKEN duh...but since he's moving everything else out, why stop now? When there is someone who NEEDS a place and works with me, so I KNOW that she has the money, I KNOW she is not a slob, I KNOW she doesn't play mindgames......no. The answer was no. I was told to "have a roomate READY for when I move out". Yeah, I'm gonna tell someone to be ready to move when I tell them. I think not.

To top it all off, things are going very slow and very poorly at work, I just got my medical bills from my girly problem, I now owe over $500 in that............

But the good news........I will have my own laptop come this Friday or Saturday, and I will never be without any of you again! Until then, see you at my parents' house every morning.

Cia
02-07-2007, 06:21 PM
You could lie to the idiot and tell him that your new roommate thing fell through so not to worry. I'll bet he will have his stuff out of there so fast it would make your head spin. Reverse psychology. It might work.

BusBus
02-07-2007, 07:28 PM
Is it possible to let the new roomie stay on the couch or share your room for a bit?

Your old roomie is being such an ass! When I decided to move out of an apartment that I shared with a roomie, I gave her three months notice. We didn't have a lease, though, so that made it easier. I gave her plenty of time and I actually set a date.

Good luck with all of this!

blas
02-08-2007, 01:28 PM
I don't want to start on another tangent, but saying he's being an ass is an understatement. He took the garage door opener away from me because one day I dared to take it with me somewhere, and he always demanded that it stay on the kitchen counter, just in case he wanted to ride his bikes (in the middle of winter, eh). I took it with me to a party one night, and the next day he saw that it was missing and flipped out. "What if I wanted to ride my bikes?!" yup...in December and January...uh huh. Of course, leaving it on the counter meant pushing the button, taking my car out of the garage, and shutting the door from the garage, therefore playing "beat the door", and then when I got back....park my car in my spot, go upstairs and inside, hit the button, go back outside, pull my car in, then hit the button from the garage and play beat the door again. Screw that. Well, just so happens around the same time he took the computer, he came home one day to get the mail, literally just stood in the door and whipped the garage door opener on the counter and proclaimed "It's too cold to ride my bikes, I GUESS you can use the garage now."......well lately my garage has been frozen shut.....but you can imagine how much I was fuming when he did that.

With the new roomate situation......it's too late. She found a different place to live a few days after I had to give her the bad news. I felt that it would be rude to make her sleep on the couch and leave her old stuff behind or even worse, in our garage. I have this huge urge right now to just tear apart his bed and matress and put it in the garage as soon as it warms up and the garage opens again. I felt so mean about telling someone they can't move in with me because roomate said no.

So yeah.....he doesn't even technically live there anymore but he won't let anyone else move in. He isn't insecure about his relationship with his gf....otherwise he wouldn't have moved practically everything over there. I don't understand why he is doing this.

Still waiting for laptop......I can't wait....I can't wait....oh boy oh boy!

rvdammit
02-08-2007, 06:17 PM
Is he off the lease yet? If is there anything stopping from saying "move your gear out by [reasonable date] or I'll consider it abandonned"?

Mighty Girl
02-08-2007, 06:58 PM
Tell him he has 24 hours to get his crap out of there or it will be waiting for him outside in the snow. Then change the locks- NOW. When he wants to get his stuff, he'll have to schedule it with you so you can make sure he doesn't take anything that isn't his. It's not that hard to move even heavy things when all you have to do is get them outside, even a mattress and box spring- just scoot it along and leave it there.

Or better yet- move all his crap to the garage and leave it there- then change the locks. Tell him his stuff is waiting for him in the garage, and if he lets you know ahead of time, you'll be more than happy to open the door for him so he can retrieve his belongings. Then all his stuff will be out of your house and you can get any roommate you want.

blas
02-09-2007, 01:31 PM
Technically he's still on the lease. I think as soon as he finds a house he wants, he will probably give notice to the landlord....HOWEVER.....he probably wont keep the 60 day notice they require. I just find it so damn odd that he's so damn eager to break the lease and get out.....but he wont move his bed or other random shit out.

Since he's still on the lease and hasn't given notice to the landlord, no one can make him get his stuff out. I could be really mean and vindictive and tell the landlord that he's had another residence for the past 6 or 7 months and he only comes home to check the mail (and take shit and hide shit from me), but if that happened and action was taken, I'd definetly end up getting what is coming to me by getting him in trouble. I could also go to the court house and tell the subsidized housing people about a low income welfare case girl who has a very financially stable person living with her for FREE and has been for months....but I don't want to put a young mother and her baby on the street because of some jerk like my roomate and if that doesn't happen, her rent will just increase, and my roomate will know I did it.......and then of course, same situation....I'll get what's coming to me.

I have considered getting the locks changed, but I don't know what to tell the landlord. I planned on the next time he comes home in the middle of the night and takes something to call them and say someone broke in and must have jimmied the locks.....that might work...but then they'd want to give HIM an extra key as well.......I've also considered stealing his key, because most of the time he just comes home, forgets what he came home for, or just quick goes into his room and grabs something and leaves. He doesn't need anything, he wants to see how I've been coping since he took the computer. To some people that seems childish and silly that I rely on the internet so much....but it's the only way I stay connected to certain people and it's what kept me from going out and partying ALL the time and it's better than CNN for gosh sakes. He just comes home to gloat.........and to double check and make sure the heat isn't on and I'm not sleeping with the TV on. I'm putting our cable bill in my name today because he threatened to get it shut off if I didn't do it by today.

I just don't really know what to do. I want his shit out so someone else can move in or I can be alone, either way. I want MY stuff in so I don't have to worry about it disappearing in the middle of the night. I want the key to the mailbox, and I want him GONE. He's made it quite clear to me that he is NOT responsible in ANY way or ANY part for ANY of our bills....so why does he still leave shit there? Rrrrrrr.

MadMike
02-09-2007, 03:06 PM
How much longer is he still on the lease for? If the lease is almost up, I'd just wait it out. And then have the landlord draw up a new lease with just you on it, and not him. I did the same thing after I kicked the ex out. It pissed her off to no end, but my ass was covered.

A close friend of mine got an apartment with the guy she was seeing, and realized too late that they weren't right for each other. The biggest problem I saw was that she's a free spirit, and he's controlling. She kicked him out, but since he was on the lease too, she couldn't keep him from coming by whenever he felt like it. The lease just recently ran out, and she was finally able to tell him to get all his junk out of there.