Memory of convenience? (long)

[Crazyredhead]

Does anyone out there know of anyone with a memory of convenience? It is when they only remember something if it benefits them.

My husband has that. The other morning he was trying to get into his bank account. we have had some trouble with the passcode recently and I had to sit on the phone for almost 2 hours with the bank to get it straightened out. Since it was under my husbands name he had to explain all of this to the rep, with my finishing up. I finally got it worked out and explained this to my husband, I went in the bedroom and explained it to him and told him the new password.

Fast forward a couple of weeks. He still has trouble getting in. I figured out that he was going in under the wrong name. I went in and got him in, no prob. This happened twice, with me explaining to him what he was doing wrong.

Well a couple of days ago, he is still having trouble. He is calling the computer stupid and worthless. Come to find out, he is inputting the wrong passcode. :rolleyes: He tried it three times and was locked out. I tried explaining to him that he tried the wrong passcode to many times and locked out and now the passcode has to be changed again.

This time it was written down in the book. I tried explaining this to him, but now I am stupid cause the computer is stupid. I told him that I explained this to him already, but he states that I am stupid, cause I never told him anything.

Now I am getting heated and told him that the computer is only as smart as the person using it. He then retorted that he is not stupid.

I have been using the passcode for a couple of weeks with no problem. He tells me that I am full of shit.

What happened next made me want to smack him over the head. He was hitting the back button and a screen was coming up that needed him to press either OK or Cancel. He was just clicking on the X. I told him that he had to press OK for it to work. He goes silent and stares at the keyboard for like 5 minutes and then says "I don't see OK , where is it?" Oh my God!!! I started laughing at him (wrong thing to do) so hard I couldn't talk. He then said I am not stupid again. I told him to hit the back button and press OK. I know that I should have patience with him, he can't even work the mouse very well.

I tried to get him to tell me what he wants his new passcode to be and he told me that he doesn't want me in his account anymore cause I am always messing it up. I changed it and wrote it down and showed him exactly where it was. Hopefully this is the end but we'll see.

Also he has been having trouble with his password for his work website. Now, this is a error with the website. He has to log on and click on the change password link that changes every 3 months. The link wasn't working so he had to call in to the tech to get this fixed. I asked him if everything was fine. He said that I don't need to know cause he doesn't want me to have access to the site or his password. He said that I will never know it cause he will never tell me. Wrong thing to tell me, that I can never have it.

I went to the computer and pulled up the site and clicked on the I forgot my password link and had his new password in a matter of minutes. I also found that he wrote it down on a piece of paper in his wallet. Now, who is stupid???? :D

[sportsmom]

I understand what you mean about the memory of convenience thing. My hubby has it to a certain extent, but it's more along the lines of him forgetting that we have family coming over or we have to go do something with family. Which actually could be him just trying to get out of spending time with his family, come to think of it. :lol:

I will also tell you that I have a real problem with your husband calling you stupid. I understand people may say stuff they don't mean when they are frustrated, but that is totally uncalled for. I do hope he apologzed and was appropriately ashamed of his actions.

[Crazyredhead]

He don't aplogize. I really haven't heard an apology from him since we got married. He is very verbal when he is upset/frustrated, I just take it with a grain of salt and just ignore him, he hates that.

[Broomjockey]

I completely understand the selective memory thing. My mother does that to me any time she gets annoyed. Past actions become absolutes, comments magically morph to become whatever she wants them to be.

And good luck convincing her that she is in fact remembering it differently.

I do have that cursed 'selective hearing' though. Quite often, I'll miss something vital right in the middle of what someone's telling me. I'll manage to completely blank it. Very annoying for me, because it's usually something I needed to know.

[Greenday]

I'll admit it, I have a memory of convenience. Like whenever my mom asks me to do some chore around the house, I'll just say, "Yea, sure." Then five minutes later I'll completely forget. I can't use the excuse of selective hearing because she just gets pissed if I don't respond to her at all.