Mistook a girl for a guy!

[customersruinmylife]

Oh dear, I am so embarassed. I was clearing some glasses and I saw a girl getting dragged into the ladies toilets. I only caught a glimpse, and all I saw was a girl and someone tall with an emo hair cut dragging her in.

First thought: Guy and girl going to toilet to have sex. It seriously looked like a guy, and I was very tired and annoyed (St Patricks day 12 hour shift) so I just burst into the bathroom.

Me: RIGHT! GET OUT MATE!

I look and its two GIRLS. The little girl, and a girl who was very tall and with an emo hair cut. She seriously looked like an emo guy. I went red.

Me: Ignore me *runs away*

Thankfully, they were so drunk they forgot about it.

[Ackee]

At least you weren't in the bathroom, reacting with horror as you see them come in, run out screaming to the security, who then goes in and finds...
2 girls

[Kiwi]

my manager did that once, she said "anything else I can help you with sir" and the woman (who looked like a guy) said "actually im a maam"

my manager just about died on the spot and mumbled an "oh im so sorry"

afterward she said to me... would you have made that mistake, I had seen her credit card before so I knew it was a woman however if I had to make a guess.... Id have gotten it wrong to!

[Cia]

Been there, done that and lost the t-shirt. It's embarassing but after awhile all the customers become a blur.

[myswtghst]

This past weekend I was at the Taste of Chaos show in Milwaukee. Bands such as 30 Seconds to Mars played, and there were emo kids in abundance. I always have a hard time telling them apart, and at this show, it was particularly bad. They all have hair that looks like it was cut with a weedwhacker, too much eyeliner, and tight pants on. So don't feel bad! I can't tell the difference either. :)

[VoodooSquirrel]

Happened a lot for me too, we actually invented a name for it.
We called them "Chudes" because you weren't sure if it was a chick, or a dude.

[powerboy]

I have done that a couple of times. Hey, we are human, but it was still embarrassing.

[bigjimaz]

Back when I was but a 12 year old boy and going through 'that time of life' where my body was 5 foot 9 but my voice was still 4 foot 1, I remember answering the phone and having the man on the other end say, "Hi little girl, is your daddy home?" I did what all 5'9" 12 year old man-children do in that situation. I yelled, "I'm not a girl!" into the phone, hung up on him, and ran to my room crying. The guy on the other end of the conversation was my dad's boss. Let's just say that I cried twice that night.

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Then there were the 60's and 70's when it was not impossible to drool over beautiful long hair swaying above a really nice butt only to realize that the hair, and the butt, belonged to a dude. :eek:

[Imogene]

We called them "Chudes" because you weren't sure if it was a chick, or a dude.
I'm sure they'd prefer to be called Androgynous. Chudes sounds close to choades, which is extremely rude.
Speaking as one myself. I get people who have NO idea what sex I am at first glance. But, I quite enjoy it. I prefer to be able to blend in as male OR female.

[asopu10]

You think you have it bad i regually am mistaken for a girl, in fact on my last shift a guy said "excuse me love, erm, sorry, mate" They tend to relise when I look directly at them, but when I'm just stocking or serving them they don't relise. I was recently walking through a market and a women was pulling a cart of flowers through the door, so I held it open for her to make it easier, she then said "Thanks love, erm, I mean mate. I think, sorry are you a guy or a girl" this went on for a min or so, she looked so flusterd and I just started giggling before putting her out of her missery and saying your welcome, have a nice day" and wondering off. I never did tell her my gender, lol!

[Andara Bledin]

I never use any gender-specific pronouns if there's any way to avoid it.

We've got one person that calls in that used to work for my company. She happened to be a man at the time, too. Her voice didn't change post-op, and it was deep and gravelly then.

Every receptionist after me has called her "sir" at some point.

^-.-^

[Dreamstalker]

I've both done that and had it happen to me (been mistaken for a guy, especially when I have my hair short and am not dressed up). No worries.

The bungee bf once went mildly ballistic when finding out I didn't care enough to go off on people about it "WTF you should care you're hot" etc. I don't care that much about it because I don't, I'm a bit androgynous-looking anyway (some days the only giveaway is a "girly" shirt). IMO, there are better things I could be concerned with than flipping out over a stranger getting my gender mixed up.

[felixxkatt]

nothing quite like saying "what can i get for you sir--uuuhr---Ma'am..." lol... that happens everywhere. there is a middleaged woman who is heavyset and wears androgynous clothes and has a short unisex haircut that comes through our cafe a lot... she seems pissed when we think she 's a guy but she never ever even makes an effort to look an eensy bit more feminine! just wear a pink shirt or something and we'd know (or at least have a clue!) as long as they don't get pissy about it shrug it off... :)

[Rapscallion]

Pink shirts aren't really that much of an indicator these days.

Actually, a colleague of mine is slender and somewhat androgynous in appearance. I spent part of the first six weeks keeping an eye out to see which bathroom she went into.

Rapscallion

[RogueThinker]

Ah, the beauty of non-specifics in language interaction. "Can I help you?" needs no modifiers to be polite, does it? Or we could all fake Yorkshire accents and call everyone "luv" :)

OT, what is a choade? I'm too lazy to check UrbanDictionary.

[Rapscallion]

"Choad" or "Choade" is a fine old Elizabethan word (the first Elizabeth - Walter Raleigh and all that) for penis.

Rapscallion

[Buzzy]

I've done that a few times. It's embarrassing!

Oh God, I have to tell this! Last Friday this person came in. About 40 years old or so. Really short and had a few hairy moles on the face. It had long hair, tied back with a neon pink ribbon. Carried a purse and a pink glittery wallet. Had a voice like a girl. But... with facial hair and no curves? Not to mention, a manly shaped face. :confused: I couldn't tell if it was a man or a woman! My best guess would be a transsexual, going to be a woman. I wasn't grossed out or offended, but certainly confused.

[Cyanocobalamin]

Last Friday this person came in. <snip>Carried a purse and a pink glittery wallet. Had a voice like a girl.

Sounds just like the person that came in one day to apply for a job we had advertised. They were still legally male, but lived as female, ie had all the hormones and everything, but had not proceeded with the operation. The PM who was doing all the interviews was of course polite, but when this person left, him, me and my boss all went :wtf: and :headscratch: !

[Plaidman]

I'm normally good at not mistaking woman as men, or men as woman, because I call everyone dude. I also don't care. As harsh as it sounds.

Only once, and once only was I confused, and I kept trying to figure it out. This person came in, (atcally it was yesterday, that's why I'm writing it).

Unisex clothes, unbelivibly androenus looking face. (Cute too in a curious way :lol: )

Then the person talked, and it sounded female, so I'm like, I'm not going crazy. Then the person talked again, (Longer sentence) and it sounded maleish. We had a small converstation, and the person had the tone changing.

Then the person paid, with a debit card. I looked at the name.

Erin.


So I guess I'll never know, cause I don't think I'll see the person again.

[JustADude]

I'm normally good at not mistaking woman as men, or men as woman, because I call everyone dude. ....

Then the person paid, with a debit card. I looked at the name.

Erin....

I'm betting female. From my experience guys tend to have the Aaron spelling. And I'm totally with you on the dude thing (if you couldn't tell from the name).

[junebug87]

My sister's boyfriend gets that all the time. He was at an ice skating rink, and it was ladies night, and he was the only boy on the ice, and no one called him on it...they all thought he was a she.
He's gotten ma'am, her, she, etc. all the time

http://i19.photobucket.com/albums/b160/meredithfresh/n194307314_30722639_1404.jpg

He's on the right, by the way...lol

[Pixagi]

I'm pretty much a androg (people think my boyfriend is gay when he's with me :roll: ) so I've gotten pretty used to people calling me "sir," "young man," and, my personal fave, "big guy."

[KellyHabersham]

One of my former co-workers at the library had an experience with this a few years ago.......he worked at the circulation desk, and one night came into the staff workroom telling me about being embarassed because he'd addressed a patron as "sir', they totally looked like a man, but said they were female, and that their name was Penelope. However, this individual was NOT a woman, but a man who sometimes did a really bad job at cross-dressing, and (based on conversations I had with him) wasn't entirely playing with a full deck.

[laurenjeannie]

I have issues with this frequently face painting. Short haircuts are now common on little girls, as are long haircuts on little boys, and a lot of them don't dress in a gender specific way. Luckily I have only ever called a little boy 'sweetpea', he gave me a funny look and proceeded to request a Spiderman face. Small children normally don't care, and I just use pet names most of the time, darlin, honey, sweetie, and the like...

I have a friend who is a clown and had a tweenage kid she swore was a girl tell her to pick the design, she did a very pretty princess face in pink purple and blue. The boy was a good sport about it, as was his mother. He ended up wearing it the entire day.

The hardest thing for me is when a little boy asks for a butterfly or a little girl asks for Spiderman, that kind of thing. I have no issues woth this, I will paint them however they want, it's their choice, but then I get parents flipping out about their kid being against the norm.

[Sharsarannon]

I have short hair.
At my old job the outfits were so baggy and unflattering that if I wasn't wearing enough makeup people would frequently refer to me as 'the nice man' or He. That was from behind though.
The funniest is when people do this to my face. I was tallying out the register for the night and someone yelled, "Hey guy!"
I didn't look up, they weren;t talking to me.
This happened twice more before the man was standing in front of me and saying TO me, "Hey guy, d'you know where the exit is?"
I grinned and said in my very female voice, "it's right over there.... There's no way out of that one is there sir. Don't worry about it. "
He was aghast and kept apologizing all the way to the exit.

[Fawn]

Back when I was but a 12 year old boy and going through 'that time of life' where my body was 5 foot 9 but my voice was still 4 foot 1, I remember answering the phone and having the man on the other end say, "Hi little girl, is your daddy home?" I did what all 5'9" 12 year old man-children do in that situation. I yelled, "I'm not a girl!" into the phone, hung up on him, and ran to my room crying. The guy on the other end of the conversation was my dad's boss. Let's just say that I cried twice that night.


OMG.. :eek: ... *lots of hugs*

[justZu]

My son gets this once in a while. He is skinny, about 5'7", and used to have a longish emo kind of haircut. However, he has a very deep voice and a completely male face. He got so tired of being mistaken for a girl, he shaved all of his hair off.

Funny thing, we were working a beer stand together recently(after he shaved his head) and he finished waiting on his customer, gave the guy his change, and the guy says "you ladies have a nice day" :lol:

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Don't take it personally, bigjimaz. People are idiots. As an adult, I've actually heard all three of these thing when answering the phone.

"Hello, Sir."
"Hi there, little girl, is your mommy home?"
"G:censored:d d:censored:n, you have the sexiest voice I've ever heard, woman! Are you married?"

So how a single voice could be interpreted all three of these ways could only be chalked up to the fact that there are some messed up people out there in telephone land.

I was lost once, and had to ask directions, and there was this scary, rough looking guy that was nearby. I was kind of afraid. This person was big and tall, broad shoulders, mullet, arms covered with tatoos, scar running down the side of face, etc. Turned out to be a woman. :jawdrop: A very nice woman, too, I might add. :lol:

[ArenaBoy]

there were emo kids in abundance. I always have a hard time telling them apart, and at this show, it was particularly bad. They all have hair that looks like it was cut with a weedwhacker, too much eyeliner, and tight pants on. So don't feel bad! I can't tell the difference either. :)


I hate the whole emo haircut thing because of that. When I was directing traffic one time I caught a glimpse of a couple. Traffic was held up, so I tried to figure out which is which because of the emo look. Next thing I know, I figured it out. I once dated a girl who looked like a guy a lot of the time, my friends still won't let me live it down.

When I've had long hair I've never been mistaken for a girl at all, strange.