SGA:
I'm going to assume you've had enough time to pleasure yourself. You're 28. You've had the teen hormone flux..and you get so koo-koo it's not funny.
Ok, my thoughts.
The advice so far about using other items (vibrators, dildos, stuff. )and things to practice with are very very smart. You can observe (somewhat) how those feel and the size of such.
Don't be concerned so much about the hymen, it's a body part. It DOES mean a milestone being a virgin. BTW, I didn't have mine when I lost my virginity. Somehow it was gone. I think the Hymen Gremlin took it. (tampons don't break it, horseback riding CAN). Ok. It IS a milestone, and for you, I think it would kind of emotional; in the sense you want someone that cares a lot to be allowed in, and to "deflower" you (can't think of a better word).
Because you're have emotions about it (this is an assumption on my end, but I think I'm kind of accurate, correct me if I'm not), you have the chance of getting MORE attached to the person who has the privilege. Most women are already somewhat invested in emotional attachment when having sex. Along the lines of "I trust, I care, I like, I'm letting him". Be careful. Understand this please before you go any further than heavy petting. Many men (not all, and this IS a psychology truth) are along the lines of "Ok, I care somewhat, but I'm not truly attached at this point." (Neanderthal males were 'procreate' and females 'nest'. It hasn't really changed much)
I know my body very well. I've kind of had to because of lifelong illnesses, so I like to know what where that those. I'm not ashamed or embarrassed about genitalia, body parts, bodily functions etc. Not saying you are. But I have met a LOT of people who don't know diddly. Explore yourself BY yourself. Explore yourself WITH someone. Know thyself. Shit, go read http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masters_and_Johnson ... it may be dry and technical, but it give you an idea.
Go slow as you start. (but your hormones are going to be going nuts). If it's painful or you feel uncomfortable or it's irritating, say stop. Stop means stop means stop.
Have faith in yourself, trust in him, and say "we need to stop" if you need to.
Hugs
I'm going to assume you've had enough time to pleasure yourself. You're 28. You've had the teen hormone flux..and you get so koo-koo it's not funny.
Ok, my thoughts.
The advice so far about using other items (vibrators, dildos, stuff. )and things to practice with are very very smart. You can observe (somewhat) how those feel and the size of such.
Don't be concerned so much about the hymen, it's a body part. It DOES mean a milestone being a virgin. BTW, I didn't have mine when I lost my virginity. Somehow it was gone. I think the Hymen Gremlin took it. (tampons don't break it, horseback riding CAN). Ok. It IS a milestone, and for you, I think it would kind of emotional; in the sense you want someone that cares a lot to be allowed in, and to "deflower" you (can't think of a better word).
Because you're have emotions about it (this is an assumption on my end, but I think I'm kind of accurate, correct me if I'm not), you have the chance of getting MORE attached to the person who has the privilege. Most women are already somewhat invested in emotional attachment when having sex. Along the lines of "I trust, I care, I like, I'm letting him". Be careful. Understand this please before you go any further than heavy petting. Many men (not all, and this IS a psychology truth) are along the lines of "Ok, I care somewhat, but I'm not truly attached at this point." (Neanderthal males were 'procreate' and females 'nest'. It hasn't really changed much)
I know my body very well. I've kind of had to because of lifelong illnesses, so I like to know what where that those. I'm not ashamed or embarrassed about genitalia, body parts, bodily functions etc. Not saying you are. But I have met a LOT of people who don't know diddly. Explore yourself BY yourself. Explore yourself WITH someone. Know thyself. Shit, go read http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masters_and_Johnson ... it may be dry and technical, but it give you an idea.
Go slow as you start. (but your hormones are going to be going nuts). If it's painful or you feel uncomfortable or it's irritating, say stop. Stop means stop means stop.
Have faith in yourself, trust in him, and say "we need to stop" if you need to.
Hugs
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