The 28 year old virgin

[telecom_goddess]

I've made a new local friend and just found out she's a 26 year old virgin. She's starting to transition though so it was probably not wanting her body causing issues.

[Seshat]

Just reading some of the blanked out bits.

Breaking the hymen can hurt; yes. Also, I have a remnant fragment of hymen which hurts if it's overstretched or whatever. I plan to have a gyn cut it, I'm just too chicken to ask whenever I'm there.

If you can get a friendly gyn, or even a friendly family doctor, talk to them about the different possibilities for breaking/cutting the hymen. Or even to check if you still have one!

(I'm not saying you're not virgin; but ballet, gymnastics, horse riding, and many other activities that involve flexibility in the legs can overstretch it to the point that it breaks. Sideways splits in ballet or gymnastics is a good example. Plenty of virgins don't have a hymen, for this exact reason.)

[ShinyGreenApple]

Well, as it turns out, the opportunity just didn't present itself, but we had a really fun night anyways. Gay bars are the best things ever, by the way. Even though I'm a straight girl, I always feel so comfortable at them. I kind of think Biscuit swings both ways, but he'll insist he's straight so I don't bother him about it, I mean hell, it frankly doesn't bother me at all.

He and his brother live in a one-bedroom singlewide and take turns sharing the bed with the dog So Teddy got the bed while Biscuit and I took the recliner and loveseat, respectively.

So lots of inappropriate behavior at the club, but most of it switched off the minute we walked out the door. Still, we danced a lot, and looked like idiots while doing it, I'm sure, but he slapped my ass and I slapped his and then I licked his face and he was still speaking to me in the morning and even bought me breakfast. So oh well. Maybe next time

[sms001]

Cool Beans! Glad you had a good time.

'twasn't fated this go 'round, but maybe next, or maybe next. Since you have your game face on, I'm thinking opportunity will knock much more frequently.

[ShinyGreenApple]

Well I mean hell, he hit ME first, usually it's the other way around, it made me very happy. It kind of said a lot that he spent the rest of that song rubbing his crotch on mine after I flippin' licked his face like a dog I've always loved Bad Romance, but now it has a whole new set of memories to go with it.

[depechemodefan]

My two cents.

It's always great to be with someone you are comfortable with. Let him know you have no experience. Tell him what you told us about becoming more secular.

Romance novels were never helpful. Cosmo and advise books I didn't find useful. Like one advise was to lick the guys underarm (My guys thought that was weird, though it's good to ask what the guy likes and tell him what you like). The most useful info. I found about sex was in fanfictions.

ONe funny thing is that I'm very ticklish but during sex I am not. If you end up being ticklish (maybe nerves though) if you put your hand over his hand you won't be.

A few times one particular guy I'm with will say he can't stay hard, he can't use a condom. I once allowed that I then started to hate the guy. So I stopped having sex with him. He said he will get Viagra but I told him no.

Play a lot. Sometimes play if much more fun then actual intercourse. And don't double up on the condom, ie, but on two condoms. One will tear the other.

Maybe the first time would be the best thing you would ever experience. But if it's not, or you didn't orgasm while he was in you, dont' be discourage. Sometimes the best sex can be when he doesn't have his dick in you.

At some point you get to "spit or swallow". I've swallowed before (tmi to me it taste like mushrooms).

[ShinyGreenApple]

Actually, I'm more concerned about orgasming as soon as he goes in >< Not that it would bother him any, I'm pretty sure, LOL. Better than the other way around.

And I'm possibly paranoid, but I think I might want him tested for STDs before I swallow anything that comes out of him. That's a little different than sharing a beer or a straw.

My only big concern with him is that me and at least two other people are 99% positive he's bisexual but he'll insist that he's straight. One of said friends discovered he had a profile on a 'meet gay men' app. Like I said, I couldn't care less if he's bi, but I wish he wouldn't hide it. It's pretty clear he likes women, too, but sometimes I see little signs and such that tell me he's not entirely 'straight'. Either way, I'm more comfortable with him as a friend than I was a year ago. The other night, I was asking on FB the whole "If I were a zombie, how many of you are a good enough friend that you'd shoot me in the head and put me down?"

His answer was that he'd shoot me in the head, but then cut it off and keep it. For skullfucking.

Really doubt he woulda said something like that when we first met or even a year ago. And I have been pretty open with him about the way I used to be vs. the way I am now. I think at first he felt a little weird about the general impression I give and the things I've gotten into, but lately he's been one of the main people involved in my 'corruption', so to speak and it's been a lot of fun. I also made sure he's aware that I'm childfree by choice and intend to stay that way. Forever. Tubal as soon as I can afford it, the whole shebang. He has teenagers and I wanted to make sure he knows I'm not hunting for a babydaddy or an extra paycheck. That also seems to have helped a lot.

[ArcticChicken]

TMI WARNING (Though if you've gotten this far you probably know that)

At some point you get to "spit or swallow". I've swallowed before (tmi to me it taste like mushrooms).

Since you brought it up, does anyone know if the rumor that drinking lots of pineapple juice makes it taste better true? My guy tastes super bitter, as in I threw up the one time I took it that far, and I'd like to be able to do something special for him on occasion.

[Greenday]

TMI WARNING (Though if you've gotten this far you probably know that)







Since you brought it up, does anyone know if the rumor that drinking lots of pineapple juice makes it taste better true? My guy tastes super bitter, as in I threw up the one time I took it that far, and I'd like to be able to do something special for him on occasion.

No idea. I've had one girl who couldn't stand the taste, some who claim it really doesn't taste like anything, and a few who actually like it. I haven't drastically changed what I eat or drink so I guess it's a matter of who's drinking it.

[Gizmo]

As for the "signs of gay" thing plenty of very hetro men do have lots of supposedly "gay" tendacies. Half of my male friends have them and my husband certainly does. (although I run in the Sci-fi crowd so its easier to find those tendacies.

With the other things you say about him I'd say hes not gay (or is certainly bi) but the best thing to do is wait and see but don't build it up too much and try not to be too disappointed if it does turn out he's not interested.

[Dasota]

TMI WARNING (Though if you've gotten this far you probably know that)







Since you brought it up, does anyone know if the rumor that drinking lots of pineapple juice makes it taste better true? My guy tastes super bitter, as in I threw up the one time I took it that far, and I'd like to be able to do something special for him on occasion.

I had a boyfriend who's diet was very much meat, potatoes, pizza and junk food, and he tasted rather gross. So he started incorporating canned pineapple into his diet and it got A LOT better.

[depechemodefan]

About how a guy's cum taste, with 2 diff. guys I was with, the both taste the same. Though both drank beer like it was the elixer of life.

Checking for stds is a good idea. Hopefully he shows hte results, not just tell you "it was fine."

[Greenday]

About how a guy's cum taste, with 2 diff. guys I was with, the both taste the same. Though both drank beer like it was the elixer of life.

Checking for stds is a good idea. Hopefully he shows hte results, not just tell you "it was fine."

Last time I got tested, getting a print out wasn't an option for some reason.

[Jester]

Since you brought it up, does anyone know if the rumor that drinking lots of pineapple juice makes it taste better true?

Oh good lord, I'm about to comment on the taste of semen. Because I'm awesome. And because I can.

Now, I have no idea if hefty pineapple juice intake changes the taste of it. But I do know that our body chemistry is very complex, and changing your diet will often change various things within your body chemistry. The most obvious example is how eating asparagus makes your pee smell funny, which is pretty much dead on. (I would add that it makes the smell of your pee far more obvious from fifty paces away, but that's besides the point.) And I know from experience that eating a ridiculous amount of garlic will make you smell like a brewery the next day, as you sweat out garlicness from your pores. So there is definitely a good possibility that this might work.

Of course, since everyone is different, there is only one way to find out if it will work on your guy: give it a try!

As for the "signs of gay" thing plenty of very hetro men do have lots of supposedly "gay" tendacies.

Over the years, many people have thought I was gay, or bi, for reasons I have yet to figure out. I'm not shy. I can dress myself. I can dance. I can talk to women like they're people. I like to cook. None of which is "gay" per se. But beyond these "reasons," I can't figure out why anyone would think I am into guys. I'm not. I like women. They drive me freakin' batty, but I do like them. Amusingly, of all the people who have ever asked if I was gay, not one of them has ever been in a sports bar. Perhaps because I am at my loudest and most obnoxious when watching sporting events. Who knows?

Amusing true story: one of my most bittersweet moments happened while barhopping with some people in Key West years ago. A girl I though was hot was walking behind me and said, "Ya know, you have a really great ass. Too bad you're gay."

[sms001]

A girl I though[t] was hot was walking behind me and said, "Ya know, you have a really great ass. Too bad you're gay."

"Well thanks! But you know, I've always had the feeling that if the right woman came along. . . ."