Holy Cr-!

[Nox]

I'm gay. HOLY CRAP. Just worked that out like two days ago. I have a boyrfriend. OH CRAP. I really care about him and don't want to hurt him, but am obviously not attracted to him because of the whole "recently realised lesbianism" thing. How the hell do I break things off with him without hurting him too badly?

We've been together for about 5 months, and we've known one another for a few months before that. I would honestly say he was the perfect guy for me if I was attracted to guys. I have always identified as bisexual, but now whatever attraction men had for me is gone. (Sorry I keep repeating that but HOLY CRAP I am still freaking out. Holy crap. WHen did that happen?)

Okay, so the TL;DR version of this ramble fest is: I have recently realised that I am a lesbian (HOLY CRAP WUT?!) and I have to end things with my boyfriend. HALP. I don't know how.

[ArcticChicken]

Tell him. The worst thing you can do right now is let it sit, it's not fair to either of you.

[Amina516]

I agree with the above.

Tell him..after that the "break up" part should be easy. Of course, I think you need a minute to let that sink into yourself...you sounds a tiny bit freaked.

[Green_Fairy]

i'm agreeing with all the above. wait til you've calmed down and come to terms with the fact (congrats on the realization, btw ^_^), and tell him. leading him on will do no one any good.
make sure to explain to him that it's reeeeeeeally not him, not his fault. some guys tend to get a complex if you tell them you prefer tacos over hot dogs. get all "omg i turned her gaaaaay" and stuff. let him know that you still care about him as a friend and it's reeeeeeeeeally not his fault.
and...good luck! let us know how it goes

[Nox]

Okay, he dropped by this afternoon and I didn't want to put it off anymore. He took it really well, and I did my best to reassure him that it was nothing he'd done. Thanks for the advice, guys; you were right, as soon as I was honest with him it was okay, and it just would have been worse if I put it off. I'm so relieved, I've been freaking out for days. Now I just have to come to terms with the fact that I am gay - wait, what?!

[Whiskey]

Try to relax! Its a huge thing, but nothing has changed about you. You're still you, but now you date chicks. Chicks aren't much different than men. Don't let anyone get in your head as to what you should or should not be doing (or how you should act).

[telecom_goddess]

We don't know if she has ever dated a woman before, despite identifying as bi. The first time being with a woman is like being a virgin all over again....and 10 times more nerve wracking.

[Whiskey]

edit: nevermind, missed a part.

[Nox]

I haven't dated a girl before, and I had only just gotten used to the idea of dating a guy. I don't know why I am freaking out so much, but I really am.

[trailerparkmedic]

You're freaking out because everything you know has flipped around, right? OMG everything is totally different!!

Deep breaths. You're still you. You just realized you have different preferences. Good luck and congrats!