Tweet
Background
In my previous post, I ranted about my sister, Lynn, and her husband (link above). This is a bit of an update to that.
So it's been about 4 months since the last time I discussed this. In that time I have had no contact with Lynn, and merely peripheral contact with my niece and nephew (my mom included my name on the X-mas gifts she gave them).
My mom has been having a really hard time dealing with this. She has tried her best to stay in the lives of her grandchildren (sending X-mas gifts, and Valentine's Day gifts, and going to my niece's X-mas pageant). She has received NO acknowledgement that the gifts were even received. It is 2 months since X-mas and she still hasn't gotten a Thank You note, or phone call.
And the way she was treated at the pageant was horrid. She was ignored by Lynn and her husband, and barely acknowledged by the FIL.
Still, she insists on doing this stuff, because in the phone call where Lynn made her vile accusations about me, she also accused my mom of not wanting to be involved in the lives of her grandchildren. So, now especially, she is determined to prove them wrong.
As for me, I wrote two letters detailing the reasons for my anger, and what Lynn needed to do in order to have any sort of relationship with me. While she did send an e-mail response, she didn't address the issues I mentioned in my letters. And, so, as it has been far longer than I should have given her, she is now officially past the point of no return. Even if she did apologize now, it would have no meaning to me.
I have made the decision not to send any gifts to the children, only contributing to the bank accounts my mom has set up in their names.
So, now, comes the true purpose in writing this post (about time I got to the point, eh
). Am I doing the right thing in distancing myself not only from my sister and her husband, but from my niece and nephew?
My sister made it clear that in order to have a relationship with her kids, I would need to have a relationship with her as well, and that is something I am no longer willing to consider, for obvious reasons.
Well, let me know what you think.
SC
In my previous post, I ranted about my sister, Lynn, and her husband (link above). This is a bit of an update to that.
So it's been about 4 months since the last time I discussed this. In that time I have had no contact with Lynn, and merely peripheral contact with my niece and nephew (my mom included my name on the X-mas gifts she gave them).
My mom has been having a really hard time dealing with this. She has tried her best to stay in the lives of her grandchildren (sending X-mas gifts, and Valentine's Day gifts, and going to my niece's X-mas pageant). She has received NO acknowledgement that the gifts were even received. It is 2 months since X-mas and she still hasn't gotten a Thank You note, or phone call.
And the way she was treated at the pageant was horrid. She was ignored by Lynn and her husband, and barely acknowledged by the FIL.
Still, she insists on doing this stuff, because in the phone call where Lynn made her vile accusations about me, she also accused my mom of not wanting to be involved in the lives of her grandchildren. So, now especially, she is determined to prove them wrong.
As for me, I wrote two letters detailing the reasons for my anger, and what Lynn needed to do in order to have any sort of relationship with me. While she did send an e-mail response, she didn't address the issues I mentioned in my letters. And, so, as it has been far longer than I should have given her, she is now officially past the point of no return. Even if she did apologize now, it would have no meaning to me.
I have made the decision not to send any gifts to the children, only contributing to the bank accounts my mom has set up in their names.
So, now, comes the true purpose in writing this post (about time I got to the point, eh
). Am I doing the right thing in distancing myself not only from my sister and her husband, but from my niece and nephew?My sister made it clear that in order to have a relationship with her kids, I would need to have a relationship with her as well, and that is something I am no longer willing to consider, for obvious reasons.
Well, let me know what you think.
SC
Comment