Wow..wedding war! (minor swearing)

[bainsidhe]

Wasn't the gift basket from a coworker? If the couple really felt the purpose of the event was to get money back for catering, why invite coworkers in the first place? For that matter, why invite the coworker and tell them to bring a guest? Sounds like the couple shelled out some serious cash by inviting everyone they were remotely acquainted with.

Seems like it's better to give nothing than to give something small, even if that's all you can afford. They may not notice if you don't give anything, but you'll catch grief if they don't like your gift.

When a friend/roommate of mine got married, I gave her a nice picture frame that I thought looked nice. I didn't spend a lot on it and I could've spent a lot more, but it wasn't really in my budget. Right after the wedding, she and some friends were writing thank you cards, and I overheard her complaining about some distant cousin that only sent her 20 bucks. Someone she never sees and who didn't attend the wedding anyway, yet she was insulted they sent her a mere 20 bucks when they were FAMILY. What does that mean for me, who was a roommate and close friend and who gave her what I thought was a thoughtful gift? That hurt.

[PepperElf]

Maybe it's me but I always thought that the wedding announcement - not the invitation - usually had stuff about where the couple is registered at? or is that old fashioned these days?

and that you invite people you want to be there, or at least you want to let them feel included even if they can't make it. you don't invite people just to make them get you gifts. (one of my former coworkers did that and managed to offend a lot of people )


although that being said... I haven't read the articles but I do feel one should check to make sure any edible gifts are ones that the couple can actually use. in this day and age there's a lot of allergies, intolerances, and different lifestyles that would make an innocent (or perhaps a naughty) gift one that's either insulting or potentially deadly.

Like ... sending steaks to a vegan couple. Or a nut-of-the-month subscription to someone with nut allergies. All it takes is a few questions to the family of the couple to find out if there's any issues to be considered.


But the rest of the stuff, being rude, demanding money... EWzillas it sounds like.

[PepperElf]

had been seen eating non-gluten free pasta in the restaurant

Yeah that could be a problem then if she tried claiming allergies.


the more i hear the more they sound like bitches