At the end of my rope

[Aethian]

So I thought I had finally gotten ahead in life. The roommates were calming down, the hives on my skin were going, and I wasn't waking up and throwing up what little I had eaten in the day. But then now...

Now I'm shaking, crying, and completely lost.

Found out this morning around 10am that today is the last day of a 7 day notice. I need to take over one of the leases NOW and need to have 700 by 5:30pm today. F'ing hell... I won't have that till next Friday and there are no extensions, apparently this WAS the extension they had from the complex.

I've tried getting loans and that isn't working cause I'm technically living no where and have no bills to give a "current" address. Tried even getting a loan on my car and that didn't work either cause I can't find the clear title to my car. Tried through a bank/credit union and can't do that cause of all the apartment credit checks and now the loan credit checks.

Cause I'm not on the lease yet I can't get help from any of the local places that couldn't even help me when I was still living at the house. I just...don't know what to do anymore...I need help.

[RootedPhoenix]

*hugs you*

[Pixilated]

I'm not sure how much help this is, since it's way past 5:30 now, but if you only found out today that this is the final day of a 7-day notice ... is that even legal?

I am crossing my fingers that you found some kind of solution, even if it was just another extension ...

[rvdammit]

I'm not sure how much help this is, since it's way past 5:30 now, but if you only found out today that this is the final day of a 7-day notice ... is that even legal?

I am crossing my fingers that you found some kind of solution, even if it was just another extension ...

If I've read between the lines correctly Aethian isn't named as a renter on the lease, and the landlord has been in contact with the named renters. This would make the roomates assholes for not passing on the information, but the landlords actions legal. Not a lawyer and all that.

[Pixilated]

If I've read between the lines correctly Aethian isn't named as a renter on the lease, and the landlord has been in contact with the named renters. This would make the roomates assholes for not passing on the information, but the landlords actions legal. Not a lawyer and all that.

Fuck. That's really bad. Aethian, hope you are OK ...

[Food Lady]

Ugh, I wish I could do something.

[Aethian]

Your right rvdammit, I'm not on the lease. That was something that was supposed to be taken care of on the 21st. Nothing happened on Friday, the male roommate disappeared and she came over but wasn't around when I was. When I got over to the office the office staff were leaving. She had to work all day on Saturday and today on Sunday we're supposed to head over to the office. The best I can do is to head in there with a check that won't be good till Thursday.

What pisses me off is that he took off sometime around 1 yesterday, I don't know if he ever fed or watered his dog before he left. But the last time I touched the cage I got yelled at. At 9 I finally broke down and let him out so he could get food and water and also go outside to relieve himself. At 10:30 I was ready for bed and the dog was doing the "dance" in his crate so I took him out on his leash and he mostly pranced around on the grass and then rolled over. I sighed cause the antics were killing me inside. If his owner doesn't do anything to change and fast this cute adorable pitbull is going to become like those that in my profession we fear.

Before anyone asks, YES I have tried talking to them about the constant times in the cage where he's caged up a good 20-22 hours a day. I've offered when I come back before them to take him for a walk so he's not as hyper when they come home. I was told to NOT touch him and he is there dog and not my concern. It kills me...it really kills me.

Right now however it's about a quarter to one and I'm just now eating despite being up since 6:30 this morning. The whole reason why I'm eating so late is because I can't in good conscious make a whole bunch of noise making breakfast when there is someone trying to sleep on the couch in the living room. The only reason I'm eating now is because my BS was 52 and for me that is really low. It's actually kinda hard to get this all written out now cause my fingers hurt so bad.

Getting sick of all of this. I thought my health was going to get better and instead I'm doing nothing but going up in weight, eating less, and having dangerous highs and lows in my BS.

[Aethian]

So I went down to the office at 4:30 to wait for the one roommate who had to work today. I stood outside of the office till the guy in the office came out at 4:58. Neither of them showed up... Finally I get a txt message around 7:20.

Female Roommate = FR
Me = well...me...

FR: I just got this. Sorry I was told that it would be taken care of tomorrow?
Me: I thought we were meeting today becayse you said you got out at 4.
FR: Yes. But I was told later that we were doing it tomorrow and you were aware of it.
Me: Nope, had no clue. I went down to the office at 4:30 and waited for both of you.
FR: Sorry. I was told this last night.
Me: Never talked to him at all yesterday.
FR: I'm going to figure out what happened and let you know
Me: K


So yea...another day down and another day with me not knowing what the hell is going to happen.

[RootedPhoenix]

for both of them. This is important, and they just blow it off.

[Pixilated]

for both of them. This is important, and they just blow it off.

Same here. Kudos to you for being concerned about the dog in spite of everything else that's going on. (Depending on how things go, how would you feel about an anonymous phone tip to the local animal cruelty hotline ... ?)

[Aethian]

(Depending on how things go, how would you feel about an anonymous phone tip to the local animal cruelty hotline ... ?)

I've been thinking of doing that myself but they would know it was me. I don't know how I could feign innocence even if it wasn't me.


This morning when I got up to go to work two wet spots were in the dogs crate. So I took him out and he actually cried and tried to hide behind my legs when I went to put him back in.

[cindybubbles]

Any way you could officially offer to take care of their dog? Tell them that this is a favour, since they're obviously very busy.

[Aethian]

I tried that in the beginning Cindy. I was told that they knew what they were doing and I don't know pit bulls. And they are right I don't know pit bulls... I know huskies, malamutes, golden retriever, 100 % mutt, cocker spaniel, and Pomeranian. But I've never personally owned a pit bull. I was also told I didn't know how to crate/cage train even though every single one of my huskies were crate trained from birth...literally...I was there for the birth.

[Pixilated]

I've been thinking of doing that myself but they would know it was me. I don't know how I could feign innocence even if it wasn't me.

This morning when I got up to go to work two wet spots were in the dogs crate. So I took him out and he actually cried and tried to hide behind my legs when I went to put him back in.

Aw, that's awful, poor thing. Good on you to do what you can! It's obvious they have no clue how to be dog owners, much less how to crate-train a dog. A friend of mine had to crate-train her Dalmation and she never had a problem with him. (Of course, she didn't leave him stuck in there 22 hours a day either!)

As for the phone call, I meant if you decide to move out ...

[Aethian]

As a slight update...

I got in touch with my female roommate that hasn't been living at the apartment since he has been "staying" here. She wanted to meet me on the route and collect money in cash I said I would leave her a check on the kitchen counter and reminded her I HAVE to leave by 7:10 in the morning. She finally agreed to take that to the office and I gave a very big sigh of relief, this is what I've wanted to do for over a week now.

Anyhoo I came home today early and I was so happy to come home early cause it meant I could curl up and take a nice nap in my bed. Honestly I wished I was still at the place I had to leave cause I would have taken a nap out on the back porch in one of my swing chairs that are at Mom's. I was more then a bit peeved when I came in and litterally twitched as I took off my shoes and walked further into the apartment. Clothes were spread about, shoes were in various places, and the counter I had cleaned last night was covered with all kinds of *stuff*.

I wanted to clean up everything but it was all his stuff and I don't want him to have a spazz fest cause I touched it. But what got me is I don't think cloud (the pitbull) was fed at all. I started seeing red and carefully started cleaning out my lunch box trying to calm myself down. My chest started to pull and I admit it was really hard to keep even breaths, I had gotten so worked up in that second my fingers even went numb. But I could hear my male roommates voice coming through the wall. I thought if I was calm when I talked to him MAYBE I could make a dent in his thought process.

So I finally put together something to eat and went up stairs to grab a shower and change out of my uniform. It's been about 6 hours since that time and still the male roommate hasn't shown up. Cloud shakes and whimpers softly whenever I go down to check on him, I want to cry. I've now made a decision...at 6am tomorrow I'm going to be ready for work. I'm going to go downstairs at that time, if the male roommate isn't here...I'm letting Cloud out.

I'm going to put down food and water, fix myself breakfast, and at 6:20 or so I'm going to take him for a walk. I bet ANYTHING even tho I KNOW I will be home late that Cloud will not soil his cage cause he will have had a chance to go before I leave. If however the male roommate is here I'm not going to be able to do this. I really hope he's not going to be here cause I feel for this puppy. He deserves better then this. Hell even when I was broke my dogs ate even when I couldn't...especially when I had to go to every other day they had both meals a day.