Assumed pregnant?

[cindybubbles]

Have you had anyone assume that you were pregnant, yet you weren't?

My sister did, even though she had a hysterectomy right after the birth of her second child. People offered her a seat on the train because of that assumption, took advantage of the offer and sat down.

What about you? I haven't had that happen to me, though it would be interesting if it did.

[April]

only once, about 2 days after I had my daughter. We went to Target, and I was standing in line to get a drink, my husband was standing up against a wall, with the baby carrier at his feet. A lady walked up to me and asked when I was due. I gestured to the baby carrier and said negative 2 days?

She was very embarrassed, but I just laughed about it

[Kogarashi]

Once, but it was a case of mistaken identity (I think).

I was home for Christmas break five months before my now-husband proposed to me. My mom, my sisters, and I went to the dollar store to pick up a few things my mom needed for something. I was standing at one wall looking at things while my family was down one of the aisles, when a woman walked up next to me. She asked, "Oh, home from college?" and started up a conversation when I nodded. I didn't know who she was, but the town was relatively small and my parents knew quite a few people my sisters and I didn't. I figured this lady just knew my mom (she even alluded to this in the conversation).

And then she suddenly patted my very flat belly and asked, "So, when are you due?"

I gave her a completely boggled look and replied, "I'm not pregnant." At that point she peered more closely up at my face, then her eyes widened and she gasped, "I'm sorry, I thought you were someone else!" and scurried out, leaving me behind with a bewildered expression on my face.


EDIT: I just recalled another related instance, but it was less being mistaken for pregnant as opposed to someone confused in the other direction.

I'm very tall and have a long torso, so even when I'm full-term I don't look as pregnant as I should. With my second daughter, I had already spent the last month lead-up to her arrival fielding confusion about her duedate, as people kept thinking it was in July or August (she was born at the end of May). It even got to the point where I was at someone else's baby shower (there were three of us in our church due within a week of each other), and they conversationally asked when I was due. My reply was "Five days ago." Cue surprise.

When September rolled around, My two kids and I had just gotten back from an errand and were sitting outside while my older daughter played on the slide and ran around a small playground. The new baby was asleep in her carseat, so I had her sitting in the shade by our apartment building while I followed my older daughter around. We ran into someone else from our church who was visiting someone in the apartment complex, and got to talking. When it was time to head in, I called to my older daughter, saying, "We need to get Bear (new baby) and head inside." The lady from my church said, "Oh, are you babysitting someone's baby?" I gave her a confused look and replied that no, that was my baby. "Oh!" she replied, "When did you have a baby?" "About four months ago." Somehow this woman had completely missed not only my gradually swelling belly in church, but also the fact that my husband and I had had a new baby with us for the past three months (skipped church for the first month to avoid germs and get back in the swing of things).

[Sliceanddice]

http://www.customerssuck.com/board/s...d.php?t=112795

yes every time i knit. Im overweight so people just assume that that belly has a baby behind it.

[Gilhelmi]

Confession time. I was that guy.

She was glowing and happy...... and had put on a few pounds. I assmed (like assumed except only making an ass out of me)

Fortunately, for me, she is also a happy person by nature and accepted my apology.

I was that asshole, and I felt like one. I deserve all of the shaming for that one.

[jedimaster91]

I've had the opposite problem with Minion. It didn't help that I was at least 6 months along before I started showing. Even then it depended on what shirt I was wearing. These days, I'm definitely showing, but apparently I still don't look like I'm going to have a kid any day now. Even my ob says I'm not measuring very big so they're going to do an ultrasound at my next appointment to make sure Minion is growing ok. Neither Mr Jedi nor I are particularly tall, so Minion's just going to be a little fella. And if he doesn't come out soon, I'm seriously going to lose it. >.<

[Food Lady]

I just did the opposite. One of our LP people is female and has always been big. I haven't seen her much the last few months because, well, she's in a room watching cameras. We were both in the break room and someone said something about her due date. I asked how many months she was and she said, "Nine!," laughing at my ignorance.

[MoonCat]

It's only happened to me once, I even wrote about it here on CS. A couple of months ago I think. The weirdest part is that I have lost at least 30 lbs and don't really have a big belly (at least not if I don't slump). I wasn't offended, just confused.

[WishfulSpirit]

Early in my marriage I weighed about 25 lbs more than I do now (I wouldn't recommend depression and zoloft as a weight loss program, but they do work). I carried that weight almost exclusively in my tummy, and I did in fact look like I could be expecting. The only person who outright asked was an elderly client with diagnosed Alzheimer's-type dementia (which for him manifested as a lack of any type of brain-to-mouth filter...the "are you pregnant" question was on the milder end of things he said). I think a few other people thought I had a bun in the oven based on the number of times I was offered a seat, but nobody else actually mentioned it. I think I was right in the middle of the "could be pregnant, could be fat...don't piss her off by assuming" range.

[Kogarashi]

Even my ob says I'm not measuring very big so they're going to do an ultrasound at my next appointment to make sure Minion is growing ok.[/size]

My sisters and I can all sympathize. Sure, we're all tall, but all four of us who've had children so far have had an OB who measured and then expressed concern that we weren't measuring very big for how far along we were supposed to be. Every time they called for an ultrasound, and every time it ended with, "oh, you're fine, you just have a lot of room in your torso." Every time. Eight babies so far among the four of us.

[Kanalah]

I am like a beanpole. When I was pregnant it was very obvious to me, but not apparently to other people. I had my daughter at 31 weeks (pre-ecclampsia) and my friends at church only knew because one of my friends emailed out asking for prayers for me. And of course the next time I was at church I was covered in wicked looking purple bruises. Daughter had to spend a month in the NICU.

When I was pregnant with my son, I was sure that I looked like a house, but I scared people when I showed up with a baby carrier because they had no idea that I was pregnant.

[Sliceanddice]

so my moms favorite story was how she was finishing her degree while pregnant with me and was in her student teaching part of her degree. She spent the first semester dealing with early pregnancy stuff and teaching, came back from winter break and started having people ask when she was due around February and getting shocked looks when she said early march because ever though it looked like she was at like 4-5 months when she was really about to pop. She was a bit on the heavy side so she didn't show until about 8 months. All three times.

[AccountingDrone]

My sisters and I can all sympathize. Sure, we're all tall, but all four of us who've had children so far have had an OB who measured and then expressed concern that we weren't measuring very big for how far along we were supposed to be. Every time they called for an ultrasound, and every time it ended with, "oh, you're fine, you just have a lot of room in your torso." Every time. Eight babies so far among the four of us.

LOL Before I started shrinking, back in my very early 20s I got all the way to 7 months one time. Being at the time 5'7" and normally weighing in at a seriously muscular 130 pounds without sprog weight I was barely showing as I have a moderately large diameter ribcage from swimming as one of my favorite exercises growing up so all my internal organs neatly tucked themselves up and inside. [The issue that my body was slowly killing me and I really wasn't gaining the weight I should have been was also an issue, but oddly the sproglet was growing fine up til the last month when it died.]

On the other hand, my friend Pat in her reproductive years was a dainty 5'2" blue eyed blond china doll, who always immediately showed - towards due date she always looked like a cocktail olive on toothpicks. She was always *immense* and looked about 14 months pregnant and always got asked if it was twins

[jedimaster91]

I've had this conversation a few times the last couple days:

Them: When are you due?
Me: Monday
Them: 0.0....WTF ARE YOU STILL DOING WORKING?!
Me: Not sitting at home wasting my PTO

[Aragarthiel]

I went to high school with a girl who couldn't have topped five feet, and was due sometime in December. We started school in August and she already looked overdue, by the time December rolled around I was wondering how she was still walking.