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My grandmother left my mother about a quarter million dollars when she died (more precisely, the house sold for a million - the land had appreciated vastly in value over three decades - and there were four daughters it was divided between).
My brother had become partly disabled, so my parents effectively spent the money on keeping a business they had, thus enabling them to keep him employed. Essentially spending it all on him.
I got nothing - despite having been fully disabled for more than a decade at that point.
Last week I gave Mum a call for mother's day. For the first time in the twenty-plus years that I've been disabled, she gets it. She was crying, upset because both my brother and I are now fully disabled, it's genetic, and she feels like it's her and Dad's fault.
(A big change from implications that I wasn't trying hard enough to get well.)
And then she spoils it by bringing money into things, and making a fuss over how she and Dad have no money anymore.
My grandmother left my mother about a quarter million dollars when she died (more precisely, the house sold for a million - the land had appreciated vastly in value over three decades - and there were four daughters it was divided between).
My brother had become partly disabled, so my parents effectively spent the money on keeping a business they had, thus enabling them to keep him employed. Essentially spending it all on him.
I got nothing - despite having been fully disabled for more than a decade at that point.
Last week I gave Mum a call for mother's day. For the first time in the twenty-plus years that I've been disabled, she gets it. She was crying, upset because both my brother and I are now fully disabled, it's genetic, and she feels like it's her and Dad's fault.
(A big change from implications that I wasn't trying hard enough to get well.)
And then she spoils it by bringing money into things, and making a fuss over how she and Dad have no money anymore.
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