I have had enough!

[Kanalah]

The pop culture convention went well, no thanks to Mom. She threw an epic bitch fit the entire weekend, complaining about everything. Her best friend, her boyfriend, her mother, me, my sister, the "freaks" attending the con, you name it - she threw a fit about it.

Thank god that's the last show I'll ever do with her. I'm paying the booth fees, it's *my* booth. She can stay at home. One thing she kept repeating for the whole weekend was that she loves doing shows with me and spending time with me since she hardly gets to see me, but they mess up her schedule and "inconvenience the entire family over your (my) selfishness." Like WTF? Asking for help is "selfish" now.

And my dad came over to visit Saturday and told my son that he was "a little shit" and that my daughter is an "obnoxious brat". For those who are unaware, my 10 year old daughter has autism and my 9 year old son has ADHD. We may be a little different, but it was totally uncalled for to speak that way to my children.

What they don't know is that we are actively looking for a new house. When we move - they won't get our new address.

[Deserted]

I hate to say this, but I think you need to officially uninvite your parents from your current house.

[Argabarga]

Toxic people always find a way in, no matter how many times you throw them out. The only thing that keeps them away is distance great enough that they're too cheap or lazy to follow......

[Aragarthiel]

Toxic people always find a way in, no matter how many times you throw them out..

IME it's only if you let them in and/or didn't get rid of them thoroughly. If you cut off all contact, move away, don't read their letters, don't answer their phone calls, no contact at all, they tend to give up eventually.

And then, you sit back and relax because you did a damn good job taking out the trash.

[KuariKaydrith]

You kick 'em out and stand your ground. You may have to keep doing it until it sinks in or it becomes bad enough to class it as harassment. Then you look at your options for restraining orders.

Or you move across the country to a place one of your parents despises and swears to never visit. Call display is a wonderful thing, and so is changing your phone number once contact has been stopped.

[Ironclad Alibi]

... and swears to never visit.

And we all know how that works with the subjects of this forum.

[Crossbow]

I hate to say this, but I think you need to officially uninvite your parents from your current house.

I don't hate to say it. I agree completely. Calling your mom and dad toxic is an understatement.

[KuariKaydrith]

And we all know how that works with the subjects of this forum.

I know that it's usually wishful thinking. Usually. In my case, I haven't seen my mother in nine years - she refuses to step foot in Newfoundland and I wouldn't have it any other way!

[MoonCat]

Once you find a house, don't even tell them you're moving. They'll pitch an epic bitch fit. Say nothing for as long as possible. And watch out for them trying to wheedle it out of your kids. I can't even imagine the cruelty of saying what they said to your kids, but if they think they can get information, suddenly they'll be sweet as pie.

[Kanalah]

We are making appointments to look at promising houses this weekend.

I've already told both kids to not say anything to Grandma and Grandpa about moving. My son said "I never want to see him again, he's a grumpy old man."

[XCashier]

I've already told both kids to not say anything to Grandma and Grandpa about moving. My son said "I never want to see him again, he's a grumpy old man."

It's too bad Grandpa is so toxic and mean. He's completely destroyed what should've been a long and loving relationship with his grandchildren.

You are doing the right thing. You've put up with far too much crap from them. Move away, don't call, don't even send Christmas cards from a PO Box.

[iradney]

Definitely do not give them your new address. And if anyone does, rip them a new one. Your parents are shockingly toxic and your life would be far better without them!

[Marmalady]

What Iradney said ^^

I've read your posts about your parents (especially your mother) before, Kanalah, and you have given them far more chances than I would.

It's time for a de-tox. Forget DNA - the ones who you know have your back, the ones who are always there even in the worst times, they're your family.

[Crossbow]

Forget DNA - the ones who you know have your back, the ones who are always there even in the worst times, they're your family.

I have to keep reminding people that "Family" and "relative" are not the same thing.

[notalwaysright]

I have to keep reminding people that "Family" and "relative" are not the same thing.

Yeah, I know I might sound a little cold hearted but that's how I think. You know that phrase, you can't choose your family? I tell people I can't choose my blood relatives, but I can absolutely choose my family. We're not a super close family, and I think that's why we are able to get along so well.