{{{Kanalah}}} I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I don't have an attitude problem. You have a perception problem.
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Thanks guys.
Mom and moocher Uncle have already had 2 fights. One to hire a lawyer because the will "isn't clear" (Everything split equally between the two of them.) And another over the Obit (which thankfully was resolved this morning) Uncle wanted the obit to say "in lieu of gifts, please send checks to: his address" Classy, right?
Grandma prepaid for her service, and we're all having a family luncheon before the funeral. I hope they can be civil. Hubs promised to defend me if they start getting snarky.
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It doesn't matter how much Moocher Uncle gets left...it won't be enough. The good news is at least your family's ire will aimed at him then.
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Funny coincidence--my grandma died last Saturday. Her lungs filled up with fluid, she went into a coma, and then she was gone. Didn't have time to get to La-La Land to say goodbye. She was my last remaining biological grandparent, my late father's mother.“There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged.
One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world.
The other, of course, involves orcs." -- John Rogers
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Funeral is over and I'm exhausted. We were shunned by my family. They refused to speak to us or sit by us. We were told by the ushers that we had to sit in the "friends" section of the church. I overheard several passive aggressive comments over my shoulder, which I'm sure was done on purpose. I was told I didn't love Gma because I wasn't crying, then I was called fake and over dramatic because I was crying. Thank god I don't have to deal with family for at least 6 months, hopefully longer.
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Serious sympathy for you - I am in the same boat - my mom stopped recognizing me about 2 and a half years ago, and finally passed Jan 31st. I caused a *lot* of negative chatter in town [don't you just lurve small towns? *sigh*] because I left for a cruise on the 12th that we had been planning and was paid for back in August [25th wedding anniversary.] Sorry I didn't feel up to adulting after spending since last MAY when my brother died dealing with his legal issues while trying to gain her guardianship from the state because my brother was her guardian and died suddenly without reassigning guardianship to me ... and I feel that I have been mourning my mom's loss for over 2 years already, and my husband is still alive, and we are important to each other. I am the last person in my family other than some cousins alive. Screw you if you think I don't miss my mom, but I am alive and have a life.
People seem to feel that life has to stop and freeze in the whole sack cloth and ashes mourning when not everybody mourns the same way. I am horribly sorry your remaining family seem to be assholes, but I don' think anything you could have done would have made them happy or change anything. Mourn in your own way and in your own time.EVE Online: 99% of the time you sit around waiting for something to happen, but that 1% of action is what hooks people like crack, you don't get interviewed by the BBC for a WoW raid.
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They aren't my family. They don't love me and don't know how to act like a family. Which is sad. I wish they could understand, but for my sanity I have to avoid them as much as I can.
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Quoth AccountingDrone View Post*snip* ... and I feel that I have been mourning my mom's loss for over 2 years already *snip*
Kanalah, I'm sorry about your family's attitude. Obviously no matter what you did it would've been the wrong thing. Best thing is to do what you're doing: avoid them any time you can.Customer service: More efficient than a Dementor's kiss
~ Mr Hero
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I feel terrible for you, Kanalah, and quite disgusted with your 'family'. If you need emotional support, don't hesitate to ask.Customers should always be served . . . to the nearest great white.
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So sorry for your loss, Kanalah
As for the rest of your family: time has a way of taking care of things. And sometimes the less said to them, the better for your sanity.
We're all here for you. Just take one day at a time and whatever way of coping (or mourning) works best for you, do that. There's no one size fits all approach when it comes to death.Human Resources - the adult version of "I'm telling Mom." - Agent Anthony "Tony" DiNozzo (NCIS)
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Quoth Kanalah View PostWe were shunned by my family. They refused to speak to us or sit by us. We were told by the ushers that we had to sit in the "friends" section of the church.
I overheard several passive aggressive comments over my shoulder, which I'm sure was done on purpose.
I was told I didn't love Gma because I wasn't crying, then I was called fake and over dramatic because I was crying.
Thank god I don't have to deal with family for at least 6 months, hopefully longer.Aerodynamics are for people who can't build engines. --Enzo Ferrari
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