A long time ago - and I do mean, a long time ago - I was involved with a guy who was manipulative in the extreme. This guy was very bad news, but he was, unfortunately for all who came into contact with him, very skilled at leading people to believe that he was a kind, caring person. He fooled everyone, including me.
Our "relationship" was a joke. He didn't want anyone to know we were involved, so I kept it a secret. (I know. HUGE red flag. But I was younger and excited at the thought of a "hidden" relationship.) He called the shots, all the time. The "rules" of our "relationship" were his, always.
When he dumped me, I hung around like a lost puppy, eating my heart out and waiting in agony for him to decide that he had made a huge mistake and come back to me, and then everything would be all right.
He never did, and everything isn't exactly all right, but it's much better than it ever could have been if he were still in my life. After he dumped me, he took up with someone else, and constantly rubbed my nose in it - he flaunted her in front of me, he talked about her all the time, he said he was in love with her, and everyone knew that they were involved, in stark contrast to our "affair", which was unknown to almost all who knew either of us.
I finally took myself out of that scene and away from him. Some years ago, I received a message on Facebook from him. I blocked him. A few years ago, I had the misfortune of running into him at an event. I told him I was leaving, and left.
Now? He's found my email address somehow. Which means, he went online and searched until he found it, because my friends would never give it to him. He emailed me to say that "I saw you on the street a while back and you were still so angry with me." He said that he'd been "looking for you for a while now".
Oh, and "just know I am deeply sorry".
It has been a long, long time since I was involved with this fucker, and I now live far away from him. Unless he's just been diagnosed with a terminal illness and wants to make amends for past abuse, there is NO good reason for him to contact me.
He's "deeply sorry". Sorry for what? He doesn't say. And I was "still so angry" with him? I don't know what the fuck he's talking about. I didn't see him on the street, and when I did see him a few years ago, I didn't say anything about being angry, so he must be thinking of someone else he screwed over. That would make sense, actually; I'm sure he's abused everyone he could.
This is irritating in the extreme, but it's also rather scary. Even this idiot should know by now that I have no intention of reestablishing contact with him, but he's still trying. To the extent of searching for my email address online. He's still trying to get a response. He's still trying to manipulate me. He's really that stupid - and that ruthless.
Lesson to all of us; when you leave an abuser, they will keep trying to get their hooks into you. They will try various means, including attempts to contact you through mutual acquaintances. They will think that what worked before will work again.
I blocked his email address.
Our "relationship" was a joke. He didn't want anyone to know we were involved, so I kept it a secret. (I know. HUGE red flag. But I was younger and excited at the thought of a "hidden" relationship.) He called the shots, all the time. The "rules" of our "relationship" were his, always.
When he dumped me, I hung around like a lost puppy, eating my heart out and waiting in agony for him to decide that he had made a huge mistake and come back to me, and then everything would be all right.
He never did, and everything isn't exactly all right, but it's much better than it ever could have been if he were still in my life. After he dumped me, he took up with someone else, and constantly rubbed my nose in it - he flaunted her in front of me, he talked about her all the time, he said he was in love with her, and everyone knew that they were involved, in stark contrast to our "affair", which was unknown to almost all who knew either of us.
I finally took myself out of that scene and away from him. Some years ago, I received a message on Facebook from him. I blocked him. A few years ago, I had the misfortune of running into him at an event. I told him I was leaving, and left.
Now? He's found my email address somehow. Which means, he went online and searched until he found it, because my friends would never give it to him. He emailed me to say that "I saw you on the street a while back and you were still so angry with me." He said that he'd been "looking for you for a while now".
Oh, and "just know I am deeply sorry".
It has been a long, long time since I was involved with this fucker, and I now live far away from him. Unless he's just been diagnosed with a terminal illness and wants to make amends for past abuse, there is NO good reason for him to contact me.
He's "deeply sorry". Sorry for what? He doesn't say. And I was "still so angry" with him? I don't know what the fuck he's talking about. I didn't see him on the street, and when I did see him a few years ago, I didn't say anything about being angry, so he must be thinking of someone else he screwed over. That would make sense, actually; I'm sure he's abused everyone he could.
This is irritating in the extreme, but it's also rather scary. Even this idiot should know by now that I have no intention of reestablishing contact with him, but he's still trying. To the extent of searching for my email address online. He's still trying to get a response. He's still trying to manipulate me. He's really that stupid - and that ruthless.
Lesson to all of us; when you leave an abuser, they will keep trying to get their hooks into you. They will try various means, including attempts to contact you through mutual acquaintances. They will think that what worked before will work again.
I blocked his email address.
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