Emotions can do strange things to people, they can make you run into burning buildings to look for total strangers, they can make total volunteers go out onto force nine seas in an inflatable rib to rescue those from a sunken ship, they can make you devote your life to a single person, this is the power someone who is suffering from Domestic Abuse is up against.
Love is all blinding, it makes you ignore all the bad points against someone, remember that ex that used to always ask you questions and you thought that was great because they truseted your judgment and now you just find it plain annoying that they bug you all the time.
Someone in a DA situation will not have been hit straight away from the offset of the relationship, Abusers are cunning, they first destroy your self esteem, they take away your confidence, they make you feel like you cannot survive without them, then and only then does the violence start, but its not broken bones, its a slap and the victim will justify it they didn't mean to, I made him angry or He loves me, he'd never try to hurt me, he won't do it again. Only it doesn't stop, and the more the Abuser works on their victim the more the self esteem and confidence goes, so then the violence increases. Its no longer a slap, its a punch, a kick, they're thrown down the stairs, they get bones broken, but all the time the Abuser is destroying what tiny semblance of dignity and self respect the victim has left until the Abuser has total control and the vicitm cannot leave their abuser.
I'm aware of one incident where (similar to this one) the victim had had enough, they had left. They phoned the police who arranged to go back into the house and pick up some of her belongings, only they couldn't remove the abuser whilst they did this because it was his house, so all the while when she was packing her suitcase he was calling up the stairs telling her he loved her and that he could't live without her and he would never hurt her again. All the while the packing got slower and slower and slower until she stopped. She put down what she had just picked up and placed it back in the drawer, and repeated with all her belongings and unpacked her suitcase.
This is the power of emotions, the total control they have over us and the power of Domestic Abuse.
(Throughout this I have said 'He' for the abuser, I am fully aware there is a significant number of men in abusive relationships, I merely said 'He' for ease of typing).
Stay Safe
Love is all blinding, it makes you ignore all the bad points against someone, remember that ex that used to always ask you questions and you thought that was great because they truseted your judgment and now you just find it plain annoying that they bug you all the time.
Someone in a DA situation will not have been hit straight away from the offset of the relationship, Abusers are cunning, they first destroy your self esteem, they take away your confidence, they make you feel like you cannot survive without them, then and only then does the violence start, but its not broken bones, its a slap and the victim will justify it they didn't mean to, I made him angry or He loves me, he'd never try to hurt me, he won't do it again. Only it doesn't stop, and the more the Abuser works on their victim the more the self esteem and confidence goes, so then the violence increases. Its no longer a slap, its a punch, a kick, they're thrown down the stairs, they get bones broken, but all the time the Abuser is destroying what tiny semblance of dignity and self respect the victim has left until the Abuser has total control and the vicitm cannot leave their abuser.
I'm aware of one incident where (similar to this one) the victim had had enough, they had left. They phoned the police who arranged to go back into the house and pick up some of her belongings, only they couldn't remove the abuser whilst they did this because it was his house, so all the while when she was packing her suitcase he was calling up the stairs telling her he loved her and that he could't live without her and he would never hurt her again. All the while the packing got slower and slower and slower until she stopped. She put down what she had just picked up and placed it back in the drawer, and repeated with all her belongings and unpacked her suitcase.
This is the power of emotions, the total control they have over us and the power of Domestic Abuse.
(Throughout this I have said 'He' for the abuser, I am fully aware there is a significant number of men in abusive relationships, I merely said 'He' for ease of typing).
Stay Safe
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