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  • Haven't you done it enough? (epic length)

    Some background: I have a friend, whom I affectionately call Tattoo on here. Why? Well, he's 6 foot something, is very muscular, and has(you guessed it) lots of tattoos. I believe he has 66. That was the last time I asked,which was about a year ago. Anyway.

    I met Tattoo almost four years ago, during my year as a wee Freshman. I met him through some friends. Him and I got to talking and became inseperable. One day, as he was driving my friend and me to my house after school, he revealed that he liked me. Which was great because I liked him too. Trouble was, he had a girlfriend.

    So, we continue our friendship until one day, after giving me a ride home from a Future Business Leaders of America Halloween party, he kissed me on my doorstep, int he most romantic way possible.

    I was in love.

    To get the story going. He dumps then girlfriend, goes out with another girl. He fools around with me. Dumps that girl. I have the bow chicka bow bow for the first time and then many, many,many,many,many times afterwards. He breaks my heart. I try to get away from him. He gets mad. I go back.

    Endless cycle.

    The last time him and I decided to try again was a year ago. I had felt that I wanted to be in the family way and discussed it with him. So, we try.

    Later on, I find out that he is with another girl.

    So, I call him up and ask him about it. He got all pissy and broke up with me.

    I was scared and alone. I was afraid that we had succeeded in making a child and that he was leaving me to mother it alone.

    Then he told me that he had made sure we weren't having a baby. RELIEF.

    One day, he called me up out of the blue and told me this other girl was pregnant.

    My whole world came crashing down. I felt rejected. I felt as if something were wrong with me. I was there for him,though.

    In September, he introduced me to a friend of his. Him and I got together. Well, this ended not too long ago.

    Yes,ladies and gents. Tattoo was the one who hooked the ex and I up. Then he got pissy because we were together.

    Now, onto the thing that pissed me off last night.

    I had gotten a funny text forwarding thing. I decided to send it to Tattoo because I knew he would appreciate it.

    He texted me at 8:30, asking me if I could come out. I told him that I couldn't because my school night curfew is at 9. By the time I went clear across town, I would have to turn right back. He tried telling me to sneak out, but I argued and said that since my mom wasn't home, it would be obvious that I left because the car wouldn't be there. He tried making up dumb excuses for me. I told him that I would rather not get in trouble and spend my graduation weekend having fun.

    He wouldn't stop. So I called so he would know the seriousness of my voice.

    T=Tattoo
    Me= who else?

    T: "Hello?"
    Me: "Hey! I can't come out because I have a nine o'clock curfew. I would, but you asked me too late in the evening."
    T: "I know about your twenty four year old boyfriend."
    Me: "And? He lives farther away. He's not the reason why I can't hang out with you."
    T: "You tried keeping this a secret from me."
    Me: "No. I didn't. I told you about it. You just don't care."
    T: "I do care. That is why I'm pissed off."
    Me: "Why?"
    T: "Because you should be with me! You date every other loser but me!"
    Me: "That's because we have proven for three years that we CAN'T work. YOU broke it off with me last year."
    T: "That was then. This is now. We should be together."
    Me: 'No. I can't do that."

    Then, he brought in my past sex life and even threw in some names of people I never even did ANYTHING with.

    My past sex life is nothing I'm proud of. I made mistakes. I did things I shouldn't have. Although, he shouldn't talk. He has slept with so many girls, it is a wonder that he doesn't have an STD (not that I wish it upon him.).

    So, we argued and he passed the phone off to his friend,K. K told me that Tattoo had to go. So I hung up.

    I cried. I texted Tattoo, saying "Thanks for making me cry for the thousandth time."

    We argued some more over texting.

    Then we calmed down.

    Then he started talking about seeing me that night and crawling through my window.

    I told him no and stopped texting.

    A while later, he texted me back, asking if I liked his friend K.

    Of course I don't.

    How the hell could he get so pissy about me being with Plaid and yell about how i'm not with him and then go and ask if I like one of his friends?

    Now, I know that some people are going to say that I should cut off contact. Well. I have tried. Many times. It just doesn't work that way. No matter what we both do, we end up back in each other's lives.

    He is a good friend. Tattoo listens to me when I have problems. He gives me his insight. He is doing whatever he can to keep me on a good path, so I don't end up like him.

    Just when it comes to guys in my life, he is like a child with a toy. He plays for a bit and then loses interest. When someone else plays, he wants it back.

    He promised many times that he would not break my heart (and used that line again last night.). Of course, I don't believe him. Tattoo claims to love me, but I can't help, but not believe him.

    I am with Plaid. Plain and simple. But even if I were single, I wouldn't go with Tattoo. EVER.

    Just wanting to vent here.
    "Kill the fat guy first?! That's racist!" - my friend Ironside at a Belegarth practice after being "killed" first.

    I belly dance with tall Goblins!

  • #2
    Oh...I've been there and been there, more times than I'd like to count.

    Honey, he's not being your friend. You do need to break contact. I know, it's hard, I can't even do it right now. But I can't see this guy as anything but trouble for you. He sees you as damaged goods that nobody else would want, then somebody else wants it and he gets jealous.

    And, this has to be said and I mean it with love, anyone who would agree to getting a teenage girl pregnant is nothing but trouble. Okay? He took advantage of you, plain and simple. Move on, honey, move on.
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    • #3
      Quoth McGoddess09 View Post
      Now, I know that some people are going to say that I should cut off contact. Well. I have tried. Many times. It just doesn't work that way. No matter what we both do, we end up back in each other's lives.
      Yes, it DOES work that way. We make choices. You CHOOSE to let him into your life. You CHOOSE to allow him to toy with your head like this. These are CHOICES that YOU are making. If you want to cut contact with him, it is your CHOICE.

      Quoth McGoddess09 View Post
      He is a good friend.
      No. He's not. Dude's a fucking tool. I am sure he has his good points, I am sure he has his qualities, but that doesn't make him any less of a tool.

      You can choose to cut contact or choose to continue being friendly with this jackass. That is your choice, and we can't tell you what to choose. But since you posted this thing on here, we can give you our opinions. Your personal life is none of your business. He doesn't get that. That's not likely to change. And my opinion is that this door knob is just going to continue to be, at best, a thorn in your side, and at worst, toxic.

      "The Customer Is Always Right...But The Bartender Decides Who Is
      Still A Customer."

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      • #4
        Honey, he's not a friend. He's hoping to be able to bonk you whenever the mood chooses, and then carry on as normal. He's toxic and, quite frankly, from the way you've described him, he's a bloody idiot as well.
        You'd be so much better off without a "friend" like that. A true friend takes YOUR feelings into consideration, doesn't only think of themselves, and would be happy that you had found a good person like Plaid to share your heart with. He doesn't.
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        • #5
          Listen to Jester he is right.
          I wasnt put on this earth to make you feel like a man ~ Mary Bertone

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          • #6
            Quoth Jester View Post
            We make choices. You CHOOSE to let him into your life. You CHOOSE to allow him to toy with your head like this. These are CHOICES that YOU are making. If you want to cut contact with him, it is your CHOICE.
            What he said.

            You CHOSE to forward a text message to him, bringing him back into your life.

            Cut him loose.

            He's a toxic addiction for you.

            Drama might be exciting in the short term, but it gets old very quickly.
            Too tired of living and too tired to end it. What a conundrum.

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            • #7
              Quoth McGoddess09 View Post
              He is a good friend. Tattoo listens to me when I have problems. He gives me his insight. He is doing whatever he can to keep me on a good path, so I don't end up like him.
              Doesn't seem like it.

              If he listens when you have problems why wouldn't he listen when you said you didn't want to sneak out to see him.

              And if he doesn't want you to end up like him then why did he agree to get you pregnant?

              I understand your frustration, and it's good you didn't see him, but just deleting him from your cell phone contacts will do a world of good for you. He can still call you, but you don't have to answer, especially since it won't pop up as "Tattoo". And you won't be tempted to call/text him anymore.

              Seems odd he "wants to be with you" when he broke it off and I assume hasn't mentioned getting with you, until he found out you have someone else. He doesn't want you until he thinks about you with someone else, then he wants you back.

              Seems like him trying to get you to come over, even when he knows it could get you into trouble is a booty call.

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              • #8
                the fist part of your story sounds like my ex fiance.
                yeah it generally doesn't work out* when your friends with a guy who is dating someone and fall for him
                i know you graduate really soon like in a week right? tell him that as much as you like him as a friend that he is more trouble than good when hes more than a friend.
                if he bitches about then say point blank that it sounds like he just doesn't like knowing he cant a have a sure fuck bhaw chica wawa(pardon my language) anymore and no matter what you aren't going down the road again.


                Quoth Ree View Post
                He's a toxic addiction for you.
                im sorry i cant help it...
                With a taste of your lips I'm on a ride you're toxic, I'm slipping under with a taste of poison paradise I'm addicted to you Don't you know that you're toxic?





                *i say generally because i know two other girl besides myself who meet a guy who was in a relationship with another girl and it didnt work out well at all. one now has the guys kid and loves the boy hates the guy, the other is a serial dater so ehh. Me i should have know better. god but i did love the boy, even if i wanted nothing to do with his man bits... this is way people think i hate men (in a homicidal way).

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                • #9
                  I'm going to agree with everyone else here. This guy is not a friend.

                  I had a "friend" like him many years ago. We were friends in HS, but drifted apart in college (as is usual) until he called me out of the blue. Why? He wanted to hook up with me. When I made it clear I didn't want that kind of relationship, he offered friendship instead. We would "hang out" (though looking back now I see it for what it was...sad attempts at dates), up and until the point he got a girlfriend. When they had difficulties and broke up, who did he call?

                  It wasn't until a couple of years into this that I realized what he was. An emotional abuser. He took advantage of me much the same way that Tattoo is taking advantage of you. You're too nice to turn away a friend in need, and you've spent so many years emotionally involved with this guy you feel you owe it to him to be there and allow him the oportunity to do better.

                  It's not going to happen. I'm not saying it'll be easy to let go, but like me, you're going to have to do it. Delete his numbers. Delete his email addresses. Do not make contact anymore. You don't need, or deserve this kind of abuse.

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                  • #10
                    McG,

                    Do yourself a favor and look up "Borderline Personality Disorder"....then forget about his dumb ass.



                    You deserve to be happy...concentrate on your graduation, on yourself, your true friends and your new love..tell Tattoo to fuck off if you have to.

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                    • #11
                      *hug*



                      Sadly there are many idiots in this world and some people know that all too well.
                      Otaku

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                      • #12
                        Looks like I may just have to cough up some gas money and make that trip down your way.....

                        This guy needs a good disco stick nailed to a toolshed treatment!
                        You really need to see a neurologist. - Wagegoth

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                        • #13
                          You call that jackass a "good friend"? Sorry, but good friends do not toy with you like that AT ALL and take your feelings into consideration.
                          Last edited by tropicsgoddess; 05-08-2009, 05:15 AM.
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                          • #14
                            Honey, I had a guy like him too.

                            We were "together" when he didn't have anyone else to "bow chicka wow wow" (love it!) with.

                            When he found someone who didn't see right through him, and was willing to spend more than 5 minutes with him, he tried to dump me on a friend of his. When it worked, he threw a temper tantrum.

                            Rinse and repeat until I finally found someone who was (somewhat) good for me (ex-fiance), and asked me to cut off contact with him.

                            So, McGoddess, if you want to get the drama out of your life, get him out of yours. It IS possible, if you're willing to put the effort into it.
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                            • #15
                              Quoth blas87 View Post
                              This guy needs a good disco stick nailed to a toolshed treatment!
                              I'll have to disagree. Backhand slap with these on is what he needs. I have a pair. All I need is a way to get them across the border.
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