More deaths by bullies.

[Plaidman]

Read it in people magazine. Did a google search. Two eleven year old boys, in two different towns/states both hung themselves within ten days. Both due to bullying, both because the bullys precived them as /gay/.


Because people who like to dance are /gay/.
People who like to draw flowers are /gay/.
People who ask their freinds if they wanted to see a movie are /gay/.

Jaheem Herrera and Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover. I can't find a good newsites on it, since its mostly just blogs. I'm sure someone with better googlefu skills then me will post one.

I hate bullies. Alot. I was bullied. I won't get over it. I will never get over it. It does give me a bit of a hero complex, since no-one would save me then. I make it a point to do it now. Two of the worst cases when I got the living shit beat out of me in class, and the teacher claimed she didn't see it. Despite all the kids cheering on the kid beating my face in. The other time was just a physical threat against some bullies gang memebers in high school, who then proceeded to mention they will piss on my corpse. The teacher just shrugged. I was the one transfered to a different class, rather then, you know, expelling the fuckers.

But this is bullshit. Had a slight flashback. I understood before, but I didn't at the time. I started experencing bullying in 1st grade. At the time I thought it was a game. Kids were on the jungle gym, yelling gaylord, gaylord against some kid who was attempting to pull off kids and hug them. I thought it was just a game. I joined in. Kid pulled me off, and hug me. I thought I was it. I tried to pull one off, and got grabbed by the head and slammed into the steel bars. Nothing broke, but the kid climbed way, as my mind scrambled and I could say was that he was it too now. He said he would never be a faggot.
I learned that day from my mom never to say that word. I also learn my sister was gay that day along a bunch of crap I didn't understand for the longest time. I didn't understand what adult males hugged or not had to do with the point the kid was tagged.

But this isn't about me. This about two kids who didn't deserve any of this shit.

[Greenday]

As long as morons continue to say dumb ass shit like "Boys will be boys" and it's perfectly normal, it will continue on. Punishment, if it occurs at all, is not nearly severe enough for those who harass and bully. It breaks my heart to hear stories like this. Once again, the bad people win.

[ditchdj]

I agree. I had to deal with them too growing up. My 12-year-old daughter has had kids mess with her. I've physically chased bullies away from her before. I stare 'em down no matter who they are, whether they're 10 years old or 50.

[edible_hat]

I was always bullied, but it dropped off after one incident...

I'd said something to imply one of my bullies was gay. He went to the teacher about it. The teacher said "You're always giving him crap, so good on him."

From that day the teachers at my school learned to gather all the facts before punishing the victim, and the bullies learned they could no longer lie about what happened.

[raw456]

I remember being the target of bullies in my first year of high school. We had an interschool netball game and infront of both teams and spectators (my grandmother amoung them) these 3 girls decided they didnt like the way I breathed (or something as idiotic as that) and preceded to knock me to the ground and kick me repeatedly in the head and body until some parents pulled them off me (the teachers did nothing)

They got a week suspension, which would have been a holiday for them - No school.

I got, persistant headaches for the next 8-10 months, occasional blurred vision various bruises and other injuires. As well as being the butt of jokes for the rest of the school because of it.

I really hate bullies but the trouble is, if you look at the parents of the bullies, they are almost always bullies too, so it's not really all the kids fault. They are only acting how they have been programmed to act.

[Chanlin]

I had to put up with bullying myself. It sucks when kids feel that their only out is to commit suicide. All it really takes is having at least one adult that you can confide in and who you know will be there to talk with you when things go south.

The bullying for me stopped when I finally realized what the age old "just ignore them" really meant. No one tells you that its going to get alot worse before it gets better when you try that tactic. But in the end once I started trying to retaliate, once I made it vocal that I didn't care people started leaving me alone. I would come back with "can't you be more original?" or "yep, heard that one before" delivered as flatly and nonchalantly as possible and one day it just stopped.

As much as I hated putting up with it, if I had the chance I don't think I would go back and change it. It seems sappy to say so, but the bullying back then is what made me who I am now.

[Bright_Star]

Now why is it when 2 girls hug nobody blinks an eye BUT when 2 boys hug that's when a lot of people really get upset? I mean, aren't there more things to be concerned with than if two people of the same sex are hugging? IF somebody has the time to let that kind of stuff bug them then they have wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too much time on their hands.
I got bullied myself all through high school & somehow got through it. Nowadays all this talk about getting rid of bullying is nothing but talk. NOTHING serious has been done about it cause it still goes on more than ever.
It's just a bunch of political posturing by people who think they they're doing something by addressing the bullying issue but not doing anything about it.
What I don't understand is that when someone is bullied it's often the victim that is blamed & the bullier most times gets away with it.

[edible_hat]

As much as I hated putting up with it, if I had the chance I don't think I would go back and change it.

I'd change two things... (1) talk to that girl who used to stare at me but we were both too shy to make the first move and (2) on my first day of high school, kick everyone in the nuts.

[Nyoibo]

I had enough of bullying while I was in school, my usual response to bullies now is "I put up with this crap in school, since then I've spent years practicing martial arts designed to either cripple or kill someone..."

[Toujin]

I was bullied severely in school, and still have alot of repressed rage from it.

What angers me about it is how femininity in males is still seen as an abomination. I'm just sick of how some people think that being a 'real man' means being a sadistic jerk who dominates everyone who is weaker than they are. I know kids can be cruel, but still...

What's worse is that the parents of these bullies probably condone and encourage it, even without meaning to...

[Lace Neil Singer]

I was bullied in school, and bar saying crap like "Just ignore it/Walk away" and "Tell a teacher", the school did nothing. Walking away and ignoring it just makes the bullies think you're scared of them, and telling a teacher does nothing; all they ever did was tell the bullies off or give them detention, and then you're labeled a grass on top of that. When I was in third year, I snapped and beat the living hell out of this girl who scratched my face. I was suspended for a week, but she wasn't punished at all. After that, I was labeled a troublemaker for hitting anyone who picked on me, and my parents eventually took me out of school. I'd say that schools don't know how to deal with girls who have masculine traits like fighting just like they don't know how to deal with boys with feminine traits. -.-

[iradney]

I found links simply by googling the victims' names:

Jaheem Herrera
http://edition.cnn.com/2009/US/04/23/bullying.suicide/

Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/0..._n_186911.html

[McGoddess09]

Add me into the bullied crowd. My time at the last Catholic school I went to was hell. The teachers basically did nothing. They kept telling me to tell them, but when I told them, they shrugged it off. On top of that, my mom's then husband was bullying me at home.

And these kids were only 11. They haven't had a chance to even start their lives because of these bullies. When will teachers learn to do SOMETHING?

[Sandman]

The teachers will start doing something when the parents start suing the schools for wrongful death.

I'm hoping the kids who are doing the bullying get nailed with involuntary manslaughter, and tried as adults. That will start to put the end to bullying.

[draggar]

I never understood why, as someone who got bullied even though high school, why I always got in trouble for trying to defend myself from being bullied yet the bullies never got in trouble because "boys will be boys".

F*ck that.