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they couldn't officially do anything till I complained, since most of the complaints were about his behavior toward me.
Bullshit. They could have come to you privately and asked you about it. Back in my first stint at Store1, I worked with a guy who I was friendly with, he was a nice guy, but he would joke around a lot and tickle me. It didn't bother me in a "sexual harrassment" sort of way, but sometimes it hurt, and I would tell him to stop but he still kept doing it. I didn't like it but I wasn't all that forceful about telling him to stop (I was in my early 20s and pretty shy). Another girl that I worked with went to the store manager and mentioned it, and the manager came to me, privately, and told me that this girl had expressed concern and asked if I would like her to talk to him. I said yes, she did, and it stopped. It sounds like it wouldn't be quite so simple with this guy, but your manager could still have stepped in if they wanted to.
I don't go in for ancient wisdom I don't believe just 'cause ideas are tenacious It means that they're worthy - Tim Minchin, "White Wine in the Sun"
I am glad you got a restraining order against FS, who knows what he's capable of. Obviously he's got a screw loose; I'd say he hasn't got a single screw fully tightened.
And what is it with his Dad encouraging him to date a married woman?! Why would anyone encourage their kid to do something that's likely to get him in a major heap of trouble, possibly arrested, beaten, even killed? Is he trying to prune the family tree?
I wish you the best of luck in your new place; hopefully FS won't be able to find you. You might want to consider an unlisted phone number and a post office box address. I'm sure you've already told all your friends and family to NOT give FS any contact info at all.
And what is it with his Dad encouraging him to date a married woman?! Why would anyone encourage their kid to do something that's likely to get him in a major heap of trouble, possibly arrested, beaten, even killed? Is he trying to prune the family tree? .
We've narrowed it down to two options. One, he's tired of his shiftless son and therefore, wants to get rid of him by any means necessary. Two, the father is stirring up trouble for this own amusement.
"The Dane? The DANE? I don't go on messages boards calling you 'The Southern Belle,' do I?!"
"I don't know, your message boards are all in Danish!"
We've narrowed it down to two options. One, he's tired of his shiftless son and therefore, wants to get rid of him by any means necessary. Two, the father is stirring up trouble for this own amusement.
Or, he inherited his loose screws from somewhere....?
I don't go in for ancient wisdom I don't believe just 'cause ideas are tenacious It means that they're worthy - Tim Minchin, "White Wine in the Sun"
Or, he inherited his loose screws from somewhere....?
That could be it, too. The father did seem sort of off when we initially moved.
We're still talking over apartments, and taking some safety measure. Phone numbers have been changed, as well as GoldAries's shifts at work. We've gotten a PO box for mail, and are generally vigilant in our movements. We're taking steps to get a concealed weapon permit for GoldAries (I've had one for about a year now). Better safe than sorry. We've both agreed we'd rather have them and not need them then need them and not have them.
"The Dane? The DANE? I don't go on messages boards calling you 'The Southern Belle,' do I?!"
"I don't know, your message boards are all in Danish!"
*ahem* Sorry, got a little carried away. I'm not sure if you'd want to... how to frame this delicately...You can, but I should warn you, (highlight for TMI) the clones will most likely be masochists that favor riding crops and mesh belts. And possibly into bondage. And into various types of porn (although that could just be the Danish upbringing ).
If you can deal with that, then let's get the cloning started.
I still vote we clone him. We need more of The Dane out there, and less of the stalking, creepy fuckers like your little stalker friend.
Glad I could help you. I have had a stalker before and I had a thread like this, and I didn't think I could qualify for a restraining order, thankfully it never got to that point, but I learned a lot from the other members here, and was ready and armed for if things got any worse.
One of the things that work to the advantage of stalkers is that the victims think that if they just sit down and talk things over with them, calmly and rationally, they will stop.
Or, that the victims think that saying, "Leave me alone; I'm not interested in you," will work.
It doesn't, because stalkers just aren't wired that way. ANY attention, WHATEVER it is, is what they live for. They thrive on it. You DON'T explain. You DON'T ask. You DON'T beg. You don't threaten, either, because that puts you on the wrong side of the law, making the stalker look like a victim, and they just LOVE it.
The only thing to do is not to engage them in any way, and to let the police know what is going on. Nothing else can be done. They're that way until they die; they never, NEVER change.
(highlight for TMI) the clones will most likely be masochists that favor riding crops and mesh belts. And possibly into bondage. And into various types of porn (although that could just be the Danish upbringing ).
If you can deal with that, then let's get the cloning started.
Oh, I can deal with that.
Must be from being part Danish, myself.
Unseen but seeing oh dear, now they're masquerading as sane-KiaKat There isn't enough interpretive dance in the workplace these days-Irv 3rd shift needs love, too
RIP, mo bhrionglóid
I do, too. Maybe I'll turn it into my avatar one of these days.
Unseen but seeing oh dear, now they're masquerading as sane-KiaKat There isn't enough interpretive dance in the workplace these days-Irv 3rd shift needs love, too
RIP, mo bhrionglóid
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