Creepers And Their Hopelessness

[GingerBiscuit]

Me and you both, Blas, me and you both.

Try being a gothy or punky girl. There is this stereotype that 'dose sexxy deth chiks will do anyone there all such hors' so the creepers circle like sharks attracted by blood.

My favourite one so far was I was in a pub, this guy was creeping at E, my friend (who was only 15 at the time but looked older) and I stepped in to talk to her. Her look of gratitude was immense. However it attracted his attention to me.

He puts on this fake french accent, tries to kiss my hand, is going on and on about how beautiful I am until I'm mouthing at Jos "Kill him kill him kill him"

Luckily when your finace is 6'5" and about the same across the shoulders people tend to go away.

[Damien]

I know it's not much consolation Blas, but us decent guys dislike the male creepers almost as much as you women.

It's tough enough to approach someone like you and your friend with that nice "Hello" and get stomped because you're worn out from fending off the riff-raff. What's even worse is seeing one of these jerks in action and knowing he's just made someone you might like to talk to pissed off.

I think most of us (guys) try to squelch this sort if (dog forbid) they are one of our acquaintances, but it's a tough row to hoe....

totally agree.

I have had the female creeper annoy me - they say hi, then ask to get married almost instantly

[blas]

I just knew female creepers existed as well, it's just you rarely hear of them.

I'm so happy I have people's sympathy...I remember once ranting and raving (of course, this was when I was under 21, so instead of the scenery being the bar, it was the mall or restaurants or wherever...it still can be, but it's almost always the bar) about creepy guys to one of my gal pals. And she totally ripped me a new one.

"You know, blas, most of those guys are probably NOT creepy. They are probably just average guys who would give anything in this world to have a chance with you, and you act like such a bitch and turn them down. Girls like you are the reason so many guys are so insecure and afraid of girls!"

That hurt, but at the same time, I learned to take what she said with a grain of salt over time, because she was quite a hypocrite. There was a guy we worked with that she had a huge crush on. He was a few years older, old enough to go to the bar, and when he'd tell stories of girls leeching on to him, she'd always get mad/jealous and go "Those STUPID whores thinking they have a chance with you! God I hate stupid slutty girls strutting all over the place trying to mack on guys!"

Maybe some of the creepers are legitimately nice guys, just extrememely socially awkward. But I'm a bitch and proud of it. People can be creeped out quite easily, and it's better to not make such awful first impressions or be so forward and downright scary.

I really shouldn't need my muscular, ripped 200 pound boyfriend to go everywhere with me (as much as I enjoy spending time with him) just to intimidate the creepy dorks......but I can honestly say, if I'm not with him and I'm alone or just with girlfriends....the creepers leech on and don't give up. It's nice to have a boyfriend who is built like a heavy weight UFC fighter with arm muscles larger than the girth of my waist....but still.....you'd think by now, it'd be safe for women to go out and have fun.

I need to figure out a way to look more intimidating, without gaining a metric shit-ton of muscle or shaving my head and wearing camoflauge. I always thought certain girls were intimidating just by looking good, but nope. Creepers latch on to anything and everything that they think is weak. I need to NOT look weak. Dirty looks and insults don't work on them. Sometimes even threats of violence don't work. Fortunately, I haven't acted on any of those threats, otherwise we'd be communicating via prison satellite.

[Misty]

Kinkoid, I think you forgot about the fact that I like to wear very pointy stilleto high heels. They make perfect tools for bashing a man's skull in if needed.

Perhaps, but why ruin a perfectly good pair of heels?

[blas]

If they were name brand shoes, perhaps. This "recessionista" prefers Payless' cheap funky heels.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Yeah, I never use the fake boyfriend ploy. I do not want to give the impressing that I can't handle my own shit.

I'm scary enough on my own, I don't need any fake muscle.

[Jester]

Blas, I would say that some of these guys probably are nice but socially awkward, but the behavior you describe suggests that most of them are just creeps.

If you look good--and by all of your accounts, you do--it is inevitable that these slugs are going to ooze out of the woodwork. Accept that as part of reality, my friend, and hopefully you won't get so angry about it. Then you can go about figuring out how most effectively to deal with them.

You can always try one of my favorite lines from a movie, from "The Long Kiss Goodnight," where Geena Davis utters the immortal words: "No thanks. I'm saving myself for rape."

Whatever lines you use, don't raise your voice, don't get angry, just deliver it in a calm, cool, firm voice.....and the more evil the line, the more effective it will be when delivered in that manner. "If you don't go away, you're gonna have to learn how to chew with someone else's teeth" is another favorite of mine, and one that is utterly deadly when delivered as above.

Just some random waking up time thoughts.

[HorrorFrogPrincess]

"No thanks. I'm saving myself for rape."

Yeeeaaahhh... I wouldn't. You don't know anything about these creeps, and any of them could be a rapist-in-waiting, and take that as an excuse.

"But she ASKED for it! Literally!"

[artifical sweetner]

i'm ok with the creepers if they buy me drinks

[blas]

I would never accept anything from a creeper. As much as I like saving money or not having to pay for drinks.....if you accept a drink from a creeper, odds are, they're so desperate, they'll clingon to you the rest of the night. If they don't already follow you around for several minutes or until someone threatens to pound them into the concrete if they don't leave you alone.

[XCashier]

I just knew female creepers existed as well, it's just you rarely hear of them.

Too bad the male creepers won't hook up with them and spare everyone else their creepiness.

Blas, are there any gay bars in your vicinity? You and your friends might consider those as a place to hang out without worrying about getting hit on. I don't go to bars myself, but many of my friends love going to gay bars, especially when all they want to do is talk, drink and dance.

[blas]

In this homophobic part of Wisconsin, there's only one gay bar. I've only been there a handfull of times. Those times, we had to worry about creepy women hitting on us.

We can never win.