He almost redeemed himself.

[Plaidman]

So McGoddess has been in town for a few days. My best friend has yet to see her. She wanted to invite him to dinner that she was gonna make, so I sent a text since it was too early to call him. We went to the mall, and no response for a few hours, so I sent another text saying guess he couldn't make it, and I'll invite RedHeadOfDooom.

Cue 30 seconds later when one pissed off friend calls and starts screaming at me about how I went for his throat, and how dare I think he doesn't want to come and how could I invite RedHead.

Trying to calm him down, it got too loud on max, so I Said I'll call him little bit later. McGoddess and I are in the mall, when he calls. To yell more. First words
"Why don't you fucking answer your texts!!"

He had sent me a text that nether of us heard go off. A minute ago.

McGoddess tried to calm him down, and explained that nether of us heard the text, and we understand that he has to work, and its ok.

So first day of friend, not so good. Redhead and I explained aboout friends emotional problem.

But we were all shocked just how far he went the next day.

We are coming home from a pizza place I know when he calls. I answer, but no word from him. He calls again, only to ignore me. He calls a third time but he finally starts to talk. I can't hear him to well, He tells me he'll call when I get home. We do get home. He calls. McGoddess answers since I'm still a little steamed at how what little I did hear was his typical rant about how horrible life is, but refuse to elobrate.
He doesn't like that McGoddess answers. And ranted at her. Nonstop. Blah blah blah. Oh my god Fuck Muffins. McGoddess keeps telling him to not to yell at her. THREE TIMES. He KEEPS yelling at her. To the point he hangs up on her, and McGoddess is in tears.

I'm trying to comfort her, when he calls again. I answer. I'm not to happy. I normally ignore or space when he does rants, and just agree. Not this time.
I want to know what the hell he was doing. I'm not going to post the whole thing since it was just rambling, but here are a few choice words.

McGoddess is STUCK UP.
McGoddess made me Stuck Up.
McGoddess is just a fucking woman.

And the one that really pissed me off.

That he wants to PHYSICALLY HURT HER.

Now my buddy is crazed. Just a little. I know what he is really like, and this isn't it.

He gets his one warning from McGoddess. She would kick his ass if he does anything. (I personally know. She strong. OUCH!)

Hanging up on him, he calls. I ignore. He leaves a nice message of him crying and screaming and crying.
McGoddess wants to mention more crying.

Now McGoddess doesn't like my friend. But wants to meet him for me.

He tries to call her later, and makes a lame apogloy, that was more like we were all to blame.
McGoddess says don't worry, lets just forgive it and move on a new clean sleet.

He comes to my work later. And BLAMES ME for the horrible first impression he made.

I should have never sent a text telling him we would invite RedHeadofDoom.
McGoddess should have never answered my phone.


But She finally got to meet friend and his FWB on Sat. He was his normal self. Cool, funny, smart. I was very happy. McGoddess Kinda liked him. Sun was the same. It'll take time. Lots of time. But she willing to give him a second chance if he keeps his normal self.

[Jester]

I am glad to say I can't picture any of my friends acting like this, but then, you never know. Shit like this can surprise you. Just because I can't see my friends doing something like this does not mean none of them would. It just means it would surprise me.

But let's say for the sake of argument that one of my friends did the same thing about Nurse Betty, and on the phone said these thing about Nurse Betty instead of McGoddess.

McGoddess is STUCK UP.

This would irritate me.

McGoddess made me Stuck Up.

This would irritate me again.

McGoddess is just a fucking woman.

This would really irritate me.

That he wants to PHYSICALLY HURT HER.

And this would cause me to hang up, hunt him down, and slam him up against the wall with my hand to his fucking throat and the Look of Death in my eyes.

Luckily, as I said, I can't picture my friends doing this shit. Some acquaintances, perhaps, but not any real friends.

I should have never sent a text telling him we would invite RedHeadofDoom.
McGoddess should have never answered my phone.

There is only one person to blame here, that that is your buttwipe of a friend. Not you. Not McGoddess. Not Redhead. Just Buttwipe.


Now, from what you described as this not being normal for him, and him acting all normal around McG, and him calling and crying, I think there may be something seriously wrong with Buttwipe. I know I am usually the first to say "let's not blame this on mental illness," but this really sounds like some sort of emotional or psychotic breakdown, and your friend may be due for some serious professional help.

You say this guy is not normally this much of an asshole, and combined with the erratic behavior, my only guess is that this is, in fact, a breakdown of some sort. Unless he just, you know, became a complete butt nugget out of the blue for no apparent reason.

Just my thoughts.

[Plaidman]

No, just a few months ago, after his breakup. Which you should know because I asked you for advice to help me.

[Rapscallion]

I think he's jealous. He worries that he's going to lose you to McG. He doesn't know how to deal with it.

I'm not saying this to excuse him, just putting it forward as a possible reason for his behaviour. His inability to deal with this potential future is his problem and shouldn't be yours.

Many moons ago, I managed to write-off my mother's car - my only means of transport to a chum's house on a Sunday. While the insurance dudes were taking their sweet time over getting us a new car, I didn't get to see him. When I eventually did get back to see him on a regular basis, he had a young lady in tow.

It got to the point where they were spending a lot of time together and (I didn't know this at the time) a child was on the way. He took me to the pub for a serious chat one Sunday and said that things were beginning to change. I pointed out that things are always changing, which sort of surprised him. Just because I consider romance to be an amusing spectator sport doesn't mean to say that everyone else does.

You may need to try and have a chat with him of that nature and hope he's adult and sane enough to realise what's going on, but driving people away is not going to help him.

I still go to said chum's every Sunday. I'm good friends with his wife. Did the best man thing for them.

Rapscallion

[PepperElf]

i know he's your best friend but...

it doesn't sound healthy the way he's acting. blaming you and McG for his overreactions?

blowing his top if you invite R? I'm assuming he hates R...

but it's not healthy for him to tell you who you can hang out with, or to get furious if you hang out with friends he doesn't get along with

or to threaten to hurt them just because he's upset and having a rage


i'm frankly surprised McG didn't contact the police after that.
perhaps he needs to understand that how he was acting could have easily gotten him a vacation in a jail, or a hospital for evaluation.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

Yeesh, what a bi-polar butthole.

Frankly, I wouldn't let anybody meet my girlfriend who threatened physical harm against her. Even if it's just a moment of craziness. I wouldn't know when another one might crop up.

[blas]

I want to meet the guy who thinks he can put his hands on my little sister that way.

[DGoddessChardonnay]

I want to meet the guy who thinks he can put his hands on my little sister that way.

That makes two of us. I'm curious to know, Plaidman, has your friend always reacted in similar fashion or is this new behavior for him?

One possible explanation is that there could be a chemical imbalance in his brain, or possible mental illness that's not been diagnosed.

I think a private word with him at a neutral location could be a good idea - if nothing else, to see if you can figure out what the underlying cause of his behavior could be.

I have to agree with everyone here: his reaction is totally uncalled for.

[Plaidman]

Him being jealous? Yes. Alot. I could go into detail about why, but there isn't enough character space to do it.

I never seen him act that bad. He hates RedHeadofDoom because we get along better, and can toss jokes and insults between us. Do one towards him, and he'll be convience I mean it.


But for the most part, he really is just calm, cool and pretty smart. Sometimes he thinks he is funny, but eh. No-one perfect.

But hopefully he'll keep this up. The last two days were how I knew him before his ex broke up with him. Even that still comes up alot. Somehow 4 months of a relationship made him a raving pscyho.


He is on medication though now. But he feels we shouldn't just his actions based on what he was like before his medicince, and therefor his ex should run back into his arms and let him forgive her for not knowing what true love was.

[iradney]

Plaid? Honey? He needs to grow up some. Honestly, that's the sort of behaviour you expect from a cranky, needs-a-nap toddler.

[One-Fang]

Yeah. He either needs to get over it, or go see a professional counsellor. That is NOT normal adult human behaviour.

If it's not full blown mental illness of some kind, then at the very least he's got issues that he needs to sort out with a pro.

I'd be asking for the receipt for the session or else get out of my life.

[protege]

And this would cause me to hang up, hunt him down, and slam him up against the wall with my hand to his fucking throat and the Look of Death in my eyes.

You too, Jester? I wouldn't have bothered hanging up...instead, I'd reach through the phone, and strangle the bastard

Some of you might remember how I handled the guy who had been following my then-gf around. To make a long story short...she and I were washing the dishes after her nephew's birthday party. The asshole shows up, gf gets nervous, I let it slip that if I found out he was hurting her...I'd kill him. With those last 3 words, I stuck the knife I was cleaning...into the counter The bastard took off, never saw him again.

Getting back on-topic here, it sounds like the guy is a bit off-balanced, and probably *not* a good idea to hang out with. With people like that, you never know what'll set them off, and it's probably a good idea to stay away.

[Jester]

No, just a few months ago, after his breakup. Which you should know because I asked you for advice to help me.

1. I'm an idiot.

2. I give a lot of people advice.

3. Hopefully I gave you good advice, though I honestly don't remember. Because....

4. I'm an idiot.

Yeesh, what a bi-polar butthole.

Those of us who are bi-polar or have those tendencies object to being grouped in with this guy and with the use of that phrase (bi-polar) as an insult.

Some of you might remember how I handled the guy who had been following my then-gf around.

I remember that! I LOVED that story!

[McGoddess09]

So, John has proved to me that he is a good guy. Not going into details on how it came about, but he proved it.

[Der Cute]

When someone goes off like that - you compare it to a baseline. Is this their MO, day in and day out?

Are they possibly on drugs?
Are they possibly having a mental meltdown?
Is it possible you're out of line? (always ask this, I know you're not here.)

Possible checkmarks next to drugs/mental lines.

You're describing a person who's very very insecure and can't handle rejection. Of any kind. Even the, "No thanks, I'm not interested" from someone who already HAS a drink, when he offers one....would that set him off?

I knew a guy like this in HS. He and I were friends. But years later, we saw each other again. He called me and started ranting/raving about stuff that neither he nor I had control over. Fully Irrational. Equal to asking for me to relocate the moon cuz he wanted a fish sammich on a picnic table in Berut. That kind of wonky.

I decided to not answer the phone after that. He picked up the hint.


Ask yourself. Is it SAFE to be around this person? 24/7? Is it really, or will he have a bad day and go loco again?

If you get "uh, maybes" from that, you should really really reconsider stuff between you two guys.

Cutenoob