DING! DING! DING! Here we go again!

[Soulstealer]

I'm going to have to agree with you Jester about the scenario. Even with sucky situations you need to suck it up and be responsible. As for Nurse Betty, I'd like to amend the all women are insane to all humans are insane. There is not a person on the planet that isn't crazy to an extent. It's a species thing, we're fucked in the head. I question the whole premise of logic since it's a field that was made up by crazy people.

[Jester]

Yes, all humans are insane to a degree, but taking that as a given, women have a special type of insanity that men will just never get. Not all women are PSYCHOTIC, like a couple of my exes, but all of them are pretty much nuts. (A girl I met last night said, "Yep, women are pretty much all batshit insane." Rather perceptive for a 23 year old, I thought!)

Now I do have to say something here. A couple of my friends, upon hearing this story, wondered aloud why I would bother with this woman. One actually asked if the sex was so good that it was worth putting up with this kind of shit. These are fair questions, but the fact is that this particular kind of batshit craziness is not an every day thing with her. Generally speaking, she is unbelievably sweet, affectionate, loving, witty, funny, intelligent, and just fun.

Yeah, she is nuts. But more often than not, the insanity will manifest itself positively rather than negatively. A perfect example of this came yesterday, when as I was finishing up at work, I got the following text from her: "You should be kissed, and often, and by somebody who knows how." And I was blown away by that, and thought it was unbelievably sweet.

Of course, dopey me, I did not recognize that it was a quote from one of her favorite movies, "Gone With the Wind," which I have never seen. (We both love movies, and often throw quotes back and forth at each other.) I simply thought that she was saying that to me and that it came out of her head. She WAS saying it to me, but of course, it was not from her brain....she was watching GWtW at the time. But it was still very sweet.

Yeah, there are times when she makes me want to pull my nose hairs out with rusty pliers. But overall, her nuttiness is one of the reasons I adore her so much. That is not to say that you won't be hearing more about some craziness on her part that drives me to scream. But for the most part, she is one of the most wonderful women I've ever had the pleasure of being involved with.

Even if she is nuttier than an almond tree.

[Hobbs]

Reasoning and logic apparently have no home here.

And please don't ask me "why." I cannot explain the rationale, if there is any, behind what this woman says. Seriously. I can't.

It's like Jack Nicholson said in that movie about how he writes such realistic women, "First I take a man; then I take away reason and accountability."

God, I hate those kinda tests.

[Gravekeeper]

Initially:

I would ask him to control his kids.

After learning back story:

I would ask him to control his kids. Slighter nicer.

The only acceptable answers I would take for why they were running wild would be "I broke my neck when I sat down and cannot move. Please help." and "They aren't mine, they followed me here. Please help."

Circumstance does not negate responsibility to your children.

[Jester]

Precisely what I said!

Actually, I pointed out that I would probably say "screw this" and just find another train car to sit in so I could ignore the hellions, their absentee father, and the resulting mayhem. But of course that was not an option in this little psychological playlet.

[monolayth]

In my opinon of the situation I would say nothing. Just flee as quickly as possible. I would think him horrible no matter the situation. Wife dead or not, there is no reason to let the kids run wild.

Just because your partner died does not mean your job as a parent ends. Life doe not end, and you need to pay more attention to the children. they need more of your athority because it does let them know you care.

you as a parent signed on to be there for the children no matter what happens when you concieved them. even if you do it alone. it is not somthing that will go away.

[Primer]

Ask her what she would do if she were in the position of the father. Would she still allow her kids to raise hell on the train?

[strawbabies]

Just because your partner died does not mean your job as a parent ends. Life doe not end, and you need to pay more attention to the children. they need more of your athority because it does let them know you care.

I was 25 and had long been out of the house when my mother died. I noticed that it actually made my father a better parent.

[strawbabies]

We finally got off of that (I thought) and she starts asking me questions that no guy in his right mind wants to be asked, let alone answer. Like, "What part of my body don't you like? What would you change about me?" You know....The questions that beg Answers of Certain Male Doom. Once again, she was not happy with my answers. Not because she didn't like the answers themselves, but because they did not fit in with her idea of how the answers should be. She was looking for A or B, and I answered her, quite honestly, M=2V/P.

When I first got together with my now fiance, I was told right off the bat never to ask those kinds of questions. He didn't like hearing them, and I wasn't going to like the answers. The agreement has worked out quite well.