Here we go again...

[RootedPhoenix]

Oh Lupo, I'm so sorry. I don't know what gets into people. That's just so....I just don't know what to say!

*hugs you tight* I wish I had great advice. *offers herb tea....*

[iradney]

Can you not call the police? Surely that's theft?

[Rapscallion]

Usually, victims of abuse want nothing to do with the goods of the abuser. They weren't abused, so they're trying to profit.

Can't choose your family.

Rapscallion

[lupo pazzesco]

Can you not call the police? Surely that's theft?

Not if the next of kin doesn't make the complaint. My grandmother is the next of kin, and she never said a word about it. So, it puts the rest of us in a unique and painful situation. With everything she's had to go through in such a short amount of time, we don't want to add to her stress with family squabbles. At the same time though, I don't think we're doing anyone any good by keeping quiet, but apparently I'm the minority. And I've been told in no uncertain terms that I'd pretty much be outcast in the family if I chose to say anything because I'd just be a petty little bitch, etc, etc. (Granted this didn't come from any of the family members, all 4 of them, I actually give a fuck about, but it hurt all the same.)

Usually, victims of abuse want nothing to do with the goods of the abuser. They weren't abused, so they're trying to profit.

Can't choose your family.

Rapscallion

No kidding. They already said they want his PS3, his stereo, his DVDs, and (and this is what REALLY pisses me off) His medals. My uncle, before he became so morbidly obese, competed in the Special Olympics regularly. And did so well, he actually got the gold in several events. They want his medals! ALL of them.

Shit, they annoy me, and REALLY piss me off.

[lupo pazzesco]

And he's officially gone.

My uncle has passed away today. He is officially gone.

And of course now the fucked up uncle and aunt are really frothing at the mouth for his possessions. At this point, no one wants to upset my grandmother, but I swear to gods, if she calls me and starts talking about how their going to get his stuff, I'm going to tell her what I think, what EVERYONE in the family has kept from her because they don't want to upset her.

I don't want her to change her thinking about me, but I'll be the bitch if I have to be. My dad said he would try to maybe get one of his medals for me, my sister and my brother, and possibly one of his movies, if THEY'LL let him.

I'm done with this shit. I swear, I really am. They get away with highway robbery and practically murder, and the rest of us have to suck it in and smile because they're family. Grandma wants us to stop squabbling and get along. Can't do it. end of story.

<Sigh> helluva a week...

I need a drink. Or 12.

[Evil Queen]

All things considered (and if this is the grandma that I know), I would think she would be relived if you told her what's going on. Some people can't understand some of the things that's going on while they're busy tending to a dying loved one.

Go ahead and tell her, but use some tact. She deserves that much.

*hugs and gives cookies*

(omg, you have to try these "strawberry shortcake" cookies! They have pieces of dried strawberries and white chocolate and it's actually quite tasty!)

[Bella_Vixen]

*many many hugs*

[Peppergirl]

I'm so very sorry, hon. Please hang in there and keep us posted.

[SG15Z]

Maybe I should come over and we can have drinks together!

I'm so sorry for your loss Lupo. This year just has not been treating you well. Just remember it's always darkest before the dawn. It'll get better eventually.