I wasn't sure if this should go in Sightings or not, so feel free to move if appropriate.
Anyway, this seems to happen every week when my boyfriend and I play D&D. Our group used to always play at one of the player's houses, but since 2 more members joined our group, we have a total of 8 players if everyone shows up, which gets a little cramped since no one has a really big place. So we started playing at one of the local game stores that has free tables for groups to sit and play at. Almost every week since we've started playing there (almost 2 months now) some other random person will walk up to our group in the middle of our game and interrupt us or watch us.
Examples:
#1: The very first time we played there, a friend of the DM's, K, showed up. None of the rest of us knew him, so they said hello, what's up, chatted for a few minutes, then the DM got back to our game. K stood there for a while, watching us...then pulled up a chair and literally joined the table. We all sort of ignored him, although he added a few comments (stuff that I thought was unnecessary, like "Why did you do THAT?" or "That was a stupid move" etc.) Finally the DM asked us if we'd mind if his friend joined us for the rest of the game, as obviously he wanted to play. We're a nice bunch, we didn't care, so K rolled up a character. It became very apparent very quickly that K's attitude toward us didn't change a bit once he was invited to the group; he thought he knew everything and criticized all the players while trying to tell the DM how to run his game. After 1 more game like this, the rest of us approached the DM and told him that K just wasn't fitting in with our group. Our DM was one of our two new members to our group, who had only been playing with us for a couple weeks, so...we sort of had final say as to who we wanted to play with. Fortunately, the DM completely understood, had a talk with K, and we haven't heard from or seen him since.
#2: Two guys (I'll call them A and B) approached our group and said hello. We all said hello back, then one of our players, J, seemed to recognize one of the newcomers, A. They hadn't seen each other for a while, so they started chatting and catching up. That's cool, no problem. After a few minutes, A asked us what we were playing. We told him about our game, and our DM threw in the comment, "We can only play till about 5:30 today since one of our members has to leave them." It was about 4:45 at the time and we were trying to get to a good stopping point before 5:30. The DM started DMing again after this, and A...starting talking to J again. Right over our DM (The DM was seated between where J was sitting and A was standing, so A was LITERALLY having to talk right over the DM.) We all ignored A, J was a little flustered as he was trying to follow the DM while not completely ignoring A. While this is happening, B approached me (the only female in the group and typically the only female in the entire store) and stood right behind my shoulder. I looked back at him and gave him a "WTF get out of my bubble" look and he backed off a little. A finally got the message (maybe he saw the look on my face) and said, "Let's go, man, we've already interrupted them." B got all defensive and said something like, "What? We were just talking and being friendly! We don't need to leave!" By this time, they had been hanging around for at least 10 minutes, and I think the whole group gave A a nasty look, so he hastily dragged his friend away. We all commented about it after the game, after J had left; we didn't blame him for trying to be friendly to an old friend, but we seriously thought those guys were rude.
We also get a lot of people who just come up, don't say anything, and stand next to our table, watching us. I don't know, maybe it's just me, but I consider that rude. If you're curious about what we're playing, introduce yourself and ask if we mind you watching, or just ask us about the game. Does anyone else ever have these kinds of issues?
Anyway, this seems to happen every week when my boyfriend and I play D&D. Our group used to always play at one of the player's houses, but since 2 more members joined our group, we have a total of 8 players if everyone shows up, which gets a little cramped since no one has a really big place. So we started playing at one of the local game stores that has free tables for groups to sit and play at. Almost every week since we've started playing there (almost 2 months now) some other random person will walk up to our group in the middle of our game and interrupt us or watch us.
Examples:
#1: The very first time we played there, a friend of the DM's, K, showed up. None of the rest of us knew him, so they said hello, what's up, chatted for a few minutes, then the DM got back to our game. K stood there for a while, watching us...then pulled up a chair and literally joined the table. We all sort of ignored him, although he added a few comments (stuff that I thought was unnecessary, like "Why did you do THAT?" or "That was a stupid move" etc.) Finally the DM asked us if we'd mind if his friend joined us for the rest of the game, as obviously he wanted to play. We're a nice bunch, we didn't care, so K rolled up a character. It became very apparent very quickly that K's attitude toward us didn't change a bit once he was invited to the group; he thought he knew everything and criticized all the players while trying to tell the DM how to run his game. After 1 more game like this, the rest of us approached the DM and told him that K just wasn't fitting in with our group. Our DM was one of our two new members to our group, who had only been playing with us for a couple weeks, so...we sort of had final say as to who we wanted to play with. Fortunately, the DM completely understood, had a talk with K, and we haven't heard from or seen him since.
#2: Two guys (I'll call them A and B) approached our group and said hello. We all said hello back, then one of our players, J, seemed to recognize one of the newcomers, A. They hadn't seen each other for a while, so they started chatting and catching up. That's cool, no problem. After a few minutes, A asked us what we were playing. We told him about our game, and our DM threw in the comment, "We can only play till about 5:30 today since one of our members has to leave them." It was about 4:45 at the time and we were trying to get to a good stopping point before 5:30. The DM started DMing again after this, and A...starting talking to J again. Right over our DM (The DM was seated between where J was sitting and A was standing, so A was LITERALLY having to talk right over the DM.) We all ignored A, J was a little flustered as he was trying to follow the DM while not completely ignoring A. While this is happening, B approached me (the only female in the group and typically the only female in the entire store) and stood right behind my shoulder. I looked back at him and gave him a "WTF get out of my bubble" look and he backed off a little. A finally got the message (maybe he saw the look on my face) and said, "Let's go, man, we've already interrupted them." B got all defensive and said something like, "What? We were just talking and being friendly! We don't need to leave!" By this time, they had been hanging around for at least 10 minutes, and I think the whole group gave A a nasty look, so he hastily dragged his friend away. We all commented about it after the game, after J had left; we didn't blame him for trying to be friendly to an old friend, but we seriously thought those guys were rude.
We also get a lot of people who just come up, don't say anything, and stand next to our table, watching us. I don't know, maybe it's just me, but I consider that rude. If you're curious about what we're playing, introduce yourself and ask if we mind you watching, or just ask us about the game. Does anyone else ever have these kinds of issues?
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