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Okay, I am not happy.
So, I moved to Japan to study Japanese. It's HARD. It's a LOT of money, and I'm thousands of miles away from home. So I don't appreciate it when people whine that I'm rich or have an easy life. But that's not what I'm ranting about this time.
I got a roommate in October, when I first came here. I think she might have lasted almost a whole entire month before she moved out to live with someone else.
I got a second roommate sometime in February, just before my birthday. She lasted a whole shiny year! Just kidding. She moved out before May.
So my ex-fiancee's ex-fiancee (we were both being cheated on with each other, among other people- long and complicated story which would take me days and days to bother explaining the short version...) says, "I want to go learn Japanese in Japan!"
To which I say, "But of course, I have a roommate opening! Come frolic in the Rising-Sun Land with me!"
And she pays for most of her tuition and books a flight and everything is shiny and green and All Is Well. Right?
Yeah, sure.
She got here the same night I did- Saturday night. July 4th my time. She was omg so excited and I was like, yay, roommate!
I don't get along well without people around. I am more than a little unstable on most days and not being around people makes it worse. I was so fucking HAPPY (excuse my French) that I'd have someone who understands me, who is well-acquainted with the voices in my head and has a few of her own, who I get along with SO well...
She is leaving on Sunday. Why?
She misses her family. She's too far from home. She didn't realize she still owed the school almost three grand (!!). It's too hot out. She doesn't KNOW ANY JAPANESE. ...
I put myself out there for her. I contacted the school for her, I researched answers to her questions, I made myself available almost 24/7 during FINALS in case she needed something, and we became really, really close during all of this, which is the saddest part of all.
Yes, your family is far away. You knew this before you left. I've heard her crying on the phone almost twice a day though, so I believe her, but.... grow a SPINE. You are 21 years old and you complained that you have no freedom and no direction in life, and when you're given total freedom and three months to figure out what you want to do you decide it's too hard? I've been here for nine MONTHS and I am JUST as close to my family as she is to hers, if not even more so.
I am not very organized. But I'm sure I'd know how much money I owe when it's anything over, say, $75. And she'll get a good bunch of it back in the form of her security deposit, not to mention she'd planned to stay for six months so she admitted she could afford three months.
Yes, it's hot. She also went on and on about how much hotter it is where she lives. We went out and bought a fan, I paid for half and don't use it- I let her use it 24/7. It does NOT get turned off. I also let her turn the AC on almost all day and it gets so cols in here she uses her blanket sometimes. My dad offered to pay the entire month's electricity bill because she doesn't have much money- but neither do we. We're barely scraping things together for me to be here and I am damn well making sure I get as much education here as I can.
Speaking of which, I know she doesn't know any Japanese. She told me this before she got here. I mentioned she'd need to learn at least the two basic alphabets before you got here. Which sounds like a lot, but she had months and months before the quarter started. In fact- it HASN'T EVEN STARTED YET. Yep, that's right- she's quitting because it's too hard and there hasn't even been ONE class yet! Yes, it's hard. It's a whole new LANGUAGE. If she thought it was too hard why did she bother coming here at all?
Also, I think I may owe the school a few hundred dollars. Since my roommate was my friend from the States and I introduced her to the school I got a special rate for my apartment (it's more expensive if the school assigns a roommate).
I'm just really disappointed and upset and I don't deal well with being alone... and ALL my friend have already graduated. I have no one.
Pairou.
So, I moved to Japan to study Japanese. It's HARD. It's a LOT of money, and I'm thousands of miles away from home. So I don't appreciate it when people whine that I'm rich or have an easy life. But that's not what I'm ranting about this time.
I got a roommate in October, when I first came here. I think she might have lasted almost a whole entire month before she moved out to live with someone else.
I got a second roommate sometime in February, just before my birthday. She lasted a whole shiny year! Just kidding. She moved out before May.
So my ex-fiancee's ex-fiancee (we were both being cheated on with each other, among other people- long and complicated story which would take me days and days to bother explaining the short version...) says, "I want to go learn Japanese in Japan!"
To which I say, "But of course, I have a roommate opening! Come frolic in the Rising-Sun Land with me!"
And she pays for most of her tuition and books a flight and everything is shiny and green and All Is Well. Right?
Yeah, sure.
She got here the same night I did- Saturday night. July 4th my time. She was omg so excited and I was like, yay, roommate!
I don't get along well without people around. I am more than a little unstable on most days and not being around people makes it worse. I was so fucking HAPPY (excuse my French) that I'd have someone who understands me, who is well-acquainted with the voices in my head and has a few of her own, who I get along with SO well...
She is leaving on Sunday. Why?
She misses her family. She's too far from home. She didn't realize she still owed the school almost three grand (!!). It's too hot out. She doesn't KNOW ANY JAPANESE. ...
I put myself out there for her. I contacted the school for her, I researched answers to her questions, I made myself available almost 24/7 during FINALS in case she needed something, and we became really, really close during all of this, which is the saddest part of all.
Yes, your family is far away. You knew this before you left. I've heard her crying on the phone almost twice a day though, so I believe her, but.... grow a SPINE. You are 21 years old and you complained that you have no freedom and no direction in life, and when you're given total freedom and three months to figure out what you want to do you decide it's too hard? I've been here for nine MONTHS and I am JUST as close to my family as she is to hers, if not even more so.
I am not very organized. But I'm sure I'd know how much money I owe when it's anything over, say, $75. And she'll get a good bunch of it back in the form of her security deposit, not to mention she'd planned to stay for six months so she admitted she could afford three months.
Yes, it's hot. She also went on and on about how much hotter it is where she lives. We went out and bought a fan, I paid for half and don't use it- I let her use it 24/7. It does NOT get turned off. I also let her turn the AC on almost all day and it gets so cols in here she uses her blanket sometimes. My dad offered to pay the entire month's electricity bill because she doesn't have much money- but neither do we. We're barely scraping things together for me to be here and I am damn well making sure I get as much education here as I can.
Speaking of which, I know she doesn't know any Japanese. She told me this before she got here. I mentioned she'd need to learn at least the two basic alphabets before you got here. Which sounds like a lot, but she had months and months before the quarter started. In fact- it HASN'T EVEN STARTED YET. Yep, that's right- she's quitting because it's too hard and there hasn't even been ONE class yet! Yes, it's hard. It's a whole new LANGUAGE. If she thought it was too hard why did she bother coming here at all?
Also, I think I may owe the school a few hundred dollars. Since my roommate was my friend from the States and I introduced her to the school I got a special rate for my apartment (it's more expensive if the school assigns a roommate).
I'm just really disappointed and upset and I don't deal well with being alone... and ALL my friend have already graduated. I have no one.
Pairou.
I'd love to be able to do what you're doing. But language isn't my thing at all...
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