Please! Enough is ENOUGH!!!

[Evil Queen]

I agree with your cousin.

Come to New Mexico. We'll love you. Hell, go back to El Paso. I'll visit! Everytime I have two days off in a row (which seems to be every week now!).

*snugglehugs*

[SG15Z]

"Lupo, Houston hates you. come home.".

Not all of it!

[iradney]

Lupo.....*HUGS*

That is all

[XCashier]

That scumbag. May the fleas of a thousand camels infest his groin!

You absolutely did the right thing. Don't second-guess yourself or downsize your feelings. What you are feeling is completly legitimate and understandable. I'm glad you told the police and are talking to a counselor.

We're all rooting for you here.

[morgana]

That scumbag. May the fleas of a thousand camels infest his groin!

Not his groin, scumbucket might spread 'em. His eyelashes. I promise it'll hurt as much, and no one will get within feet of him because of the way his face will look.

Lupo, you did right, and you're doing right. Hang in there, kiddo; we're here for you.

[4love]

Everyone else has said it, but it's still true. You did exactly the right thing; you got away.

Kudos, and hugs, and fruit freezer-pops to you. (Sorry, out of cookies.)

[lupo pazzesco]

I had planned to get up early to go for a morning bike ride, but talked myself out of it, and went back to sleep. While the extra sleep felt wonderful, now, it's too hot, and if I want exercise I have to do it indoors. I don't want to spend the next two days holed up inside. I'm thinking of catching a bus and going up to a bookstore, or something of that ilk, something I like that I find relaxing, see what happens.

First, though. I require breakfast. Food necessary. Food good.

I have an appointment this afternoon with a counselor, and I'm deadset on keeping it. Must not talk myself out of that.

[XCashier]

Not his groin, scumbucket might spread 'em. His eyelashes. I promise it'll hurt as much, and no one will get within feet of him because of the way his face will look.

Good point, but there's still a lot of fleas to go around...how about his eyelashes, groin, armpits, buttcrack and between his toes?

[Nurian]

I had planned to get up early to go for a morning bike ride, but talked myself out of it, and went back to sleep. While the extra sleep felt wonderful, now, it's too hot, and if I want exercise I have to do it indoors. I don't want to spend the next two days holed up inside. I'm thinking of catching a bus and going up to a bookstore, or something of that ilk, something I like that I find relaxing, see what happens.

First, though. I require breakfast. Food necessary. Food good.

I have an appointment this afternoon with a counselor, and I'm deadset on keeping it. Must not talk myself out of that.

At the risk of sounding like "W", if you allow yourself to be moved into doing things out of fear, the idiot wins. Exercise, go out for a run, go to the coffee shop, do whatever. Just don't stop doing things because you're afraid he's out there.

[taxguykarl]

At the risk of sounding like "W", if you allow yourself to be moved into doing things out of fear, the idiot wins. Exercise, go out for a run, go to the coffee shop, do whatever. Just don't stop doing things because you're afraid he's out there.

Nurian's right about that. Don't change your life because of this creep...just keep your pepper spray handy

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Lupo, that's awful and I'm sorry it happened to you. But I'm with others, don't beat yourself up.

It's real easy to imagine what you'd do in a given situation, but the fact of the matter is that when it happens, we are startled, frightened, shocked...basically caught too flat footed to think straight. One of the toughest chicks I know just stood there with her mouth agape when confronted with a innapprorpriate weirdo pervert one evening. She admitted later that she was so shocked, so dumbfounded by his behavior, that a little voice in her head was going "surely he's not doing and saying what it appears like he is." But he was, and she was shocked into inaction.

It happens to everyone. You did the best you could, and guess what? It was enough and you're okay now. You escaped, you got help, you talked to the cops. He scared the hell out of you, made you feel dirty and angry, but not a shred of that is your fault.

[Pagan]

Oh, Boo! If you like, I ask Aife and Bride to send some protection and healing your way....and ask Arawn or Macha to have a "chat" with him.

Seriously, when walking along, minding your own business, who in the hell expects to have their ass grabbed?

I vote for stringing him up by his short hairs.

Come to New Mexico. We'll love you. Hell, go back to El Paso. I'll visit!

We love everybody! And we could take her to Santa Fe for lots of general lovey feelings. That city is great for that.

But, no, not El Paso, she's been through enough!

I had planned to get up early to go for a morning bike ride, but talked myself out of it, and went back to sleep. While the extra sleep felt wonderful,

I have an appointment this afternoon with a counselor, and I'm deadset on keeping it. Must not talk myself out of that.

You didn't talk yourself out of it so much as your brain and your body needed the rest after that much stress on your system. Sleep is a wonderful healer.

Definitely go to the counselor. But, like everyone else has said, if you need to vent and it's the middle of the night, there's always somebody here.

[Andara Bledin]

Ow, wow, you poor thing! *hugs*

Don't beat yourself up over woulda/coulda thoughts. Your number one priority was to keep yourself safe, which you did quite handily.

And try to not let his ickyness rub off on you.

^-.-^

[MystyGlyttyr]

You did exactly the right thing in handling it, Lupo. You should never confront someone in this situation unless you have absolutely no choice. Running is absolutely the best option. And this is coming from a girl who would rather fight than eat most days so believe me, it's true.

There's no such thing as "just" being groped, or "just" a minor assault. If it scares you to that point, legitimately scares you, it deserves the same concern as something more "severe."

Go to the counselor, they are amazingly helpful, and do NOT be afraid of pointing this guy out to the cops if they hunt him down. Don't be ashamed to be nervous but DO NOT LET THIS KEEP YOU DOWN. And if the oppurtunity arrives, nail his ass to the wall.

[RootedPhoenix]

*gives herb tea and hummus with crackers* (I like hummus.)

Your feelings aren't minor. At some point, it doesn't matter what this guy did. What matters is how you feel. If he made you feel awful, then it's major stuff.

*more hugs* I'm here too. I hope everything's okay with your stepfather.