Massive Whine and Bitchfest :cry:

[SteverinoNY]

Great FSM, there are so many things wrong with that I hardly know where to start. Since the Jester hasn't shown up in this thread yet, I hope he doesn't mind my taking a shot as his act of being the honest asshole.

Firstly, unless you're wearing vagrant's rags, or a driver-by scans you with a telescope, nobody's even going to notice you have dirty clothes.

Secondly, who the FUCK cares if you're wearing dirty clothes to wash a car? Apart from Mommie Meddler that is. Does she mow the lawn in 4 inch spiked heels and a Pravda dress, or does she only expect that from you?

Thirdly, you'll make HER look bad? What is she running for public office? Can't afford to alienate her constituency, the Society for Proper Carwash Apparel?

Fourthly again, you'll make HER look bad? How sanctimonious and self-absorbed can you get?

Your mom is a real piece of work.

Ohh it's only expected of me...she can run about all over town doing her errands in gym clothes but if I look like a supposed dirtbag at any time, there is hell to pay. Needless to say, I went to my grandparents and washed the car, then helped my grandpa with yardwork. They didn't seem to have an issue with me wearing yesterday's clothes for chrissakes. I'm fed up with the double standard. And god forbid if I sneeze or anything like that...I got yelled at for sneezing in her car once.

Also, there's a wicked double standard in regards to phone usage. If she calls me, I need to pick up right away no questions asked. But if I call her, she just lets it ring and ring and ring. I don't leave messages because I only call when I need her. But I'm supposed to be at her beck and call?

[gremcint]

I should come down, my sneezes will shake the house.

It sounds like it's time to fight fire with fire, if she calls let it ring, if she bugs you about your clothes then just say I wear what I want when I want and if you have a problem with it, tough.

Basically if she is going to treat you like a child, then act like one.

[Broomjockey]

Basically if she is going to treat you like a child, then act like one.

Normally, I'd disagree with this approach, but acting mature hasn't yielded much. Just say "I'm going to act how old you treat men." Being immature can be fun.

[gremcint]

Normally I say be nice and mature, do your best to get along but basically this woman for whatever reason has decided to make your life hell, quite frankly if it looked like even for a moment you might be able to get through to her then I'd say keep trying but if it's not going to work you might as well do what you want.

[tropicsgoddess]

I moved out of my parents' house when I was 21, but unfortunately it was under very bad terms. SO and I met and started dating at 19 (he's 6 months older than me), my mom was the one that ran the roost in the house and no matter what the outcome was with her and my father's decisions, it was always her way or the highway. She always made me do chores around the house before I left, insisted that our dates were at the house. Not only that, but she would always try and find a way to keep me from going out on dates with SO. She threw bitch fits if SO didn't show up to every single family function (even though he's gone to so many of them with me) and if we decided to go somewhere else instead. She pretty much dominated what was supposed to be my middle sis' 18th birthday party. The youngest one and I have birthdays on the same month (April) and I'm 5 years older than the youngest sis and even though she and I said that we didn't want another joint birthday party, mom still got her way on us having a joint party and again dominated something that was not about her. Besides those points, she was very unreasonable and we couldn't go out if she didn't want us to because she said so kind of deal and would tell us how she's the adult we're the children and had to do as she said not as she did kinda crap. Besides that she would bitch if it wasn't done HER way if I cleaned up or how no matter what was done it wasn't good enough. So glad to be out of there. Sorry if I threadjacked you, Steverino. I agree with the ditch the vacation with the parental units and look around like hell for a place of your own bandwagon. Time away from them would sound more like a real vacation for you.

[SteverinoNY]

Tropicsgoddess...all is forgiven for the thread jacking.

I know its immature, but I've been doing the little tiny things that drive my mother insane in the past couple days and greeting her with nothing but fake smiles and the bare minimum plesantries. She seems to be getting more and more steamed and I'm waiting for her to go apeshit over something mundane. I'm also hoping she does it when my father or brother are around so they can see how much of a lunatic she is when she goes off on me for no reason. I know being immature is not the wisest strategy, but clearly being an adult isnt working, so I may as well be a kid if she wants to treat me like one.

(P.S: I'm doing things like not making my bed or leaving empty water glasses on the floor...nothing malicious)

[artifical sweetner]

i can relate so much. im 23 and my parents treat me like im 13 still! I also have immense loans and live in a pricey area so moving out is not an option at this point. DRIVES ME NUTS!

[gremcint]

Just remind your parent that in 30 years you'll be choosing a retirement home for them and they may want to be a bit nicer.