Dating Advice

[Jack T. Chance]

3 strikes, and I'm out???

What a douchenozzle. And yet, guys like him catch the eyes of the ladies, while a guy like me sits at home alone. There's no justice in this frakkin' world.

I've got an advantage over the rest of the commentators in this thread in that I've met you. You're attractive, intelligent, and fun to be around. You don't need to put up with idiots like this.

Rapscallion

To Raps you should listen. Life's too short to put up with shitstains like that guy. Move on and find someone worthy.

[Rapscallion]

Been thinking about this, and since GK is likely to fly over and kick my arse for the last post, I'd better make a more serious one.

I've got an advantage over the rest of the commentators in this thread in that I've met you. You're attractive, intelligent, and fun to be around. You don't need to put up with idiots like this.

Rapscallion

[BookstoreEscapee]

"Commitment issues" is right...he can't even commit to a date...well, it sucks but at least he saved you the hassle of telling him to forget it...

[Rapscallion]

Don't waste time on him. Plenty of other unreliable jerks to be let down by.

*nod*

What? What? I was trying to help!

Rapscallion

[SteeleDragon78]

wow, from what I've read here, i think you might be better off without him jen. I do know what you mean about not having people beating my door down, but this one has serious commitment issues. you definitely deserve better. i wouldn't give up on dating just yet though. after i broke up with K, it took me trying 5 different dating sites and one speed dating night to find anything on level with who im looking for.

i think this guy was intimidated by the combination of your beauty and intelligence. you might give him another try if he can prove he grew a pair and can truly commit. otherwise keep fishing, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

[technical.angel]

3 strikes, and I'm out???

I can't do this evening. I'm not ready for a real date. I thought I was, but I'm so not. Now I'm also worried about moving to KC in a few months so that's making it even harder. I don't want to lead you on. I don't want to get your hopes up more than I already have. I feel like a complete jack ass as it is. Please forgive me. I'm so sorry Jenni. Know that I really do care, I just can't put myself back out there just yet.

I'm so so so so sosososososososososososososososososo sorry. I hope we can still be friends, I really enjoy talking to you. I'm just not ready for this and, honestly, if we go out this evening and I'm not ready, I won't be myself and you won't enjoy yourself. It's happened before, I don't want it to happen to you.

[Shards]

Yeah, I'm with smiley here. I've had relatives call to say "Hey, we're on our way." When my folks didn't even know the relatives were coming. These relatives live five hours away. It can happen. Just because it seems alien to you doesn't make it unheard of.

[smileyeagle1021]

So this family from hundreds of miles away didn't tell him they were coming for a visit until the night before they were due in? That's driving a long ass way to visit someone without even confirming they were gonna be there beforehand.

Playing the devil's advocate here... I've before called up my mom and said "hi, leaving salt lake in about half an hour, I'll be there in time for dinner"
so it is possible.

[crazylegs]

TA,

Just get shot of him (not literally, that's a bit too much paperwork). He's been a no show for two potential dates. If he is that nervous do you really want to deal with his neurotic behaviour, and if he's that flaky do you really want him bailing out all the damn time?

[Rapscallion]

"Dear Potential Boything.

Sorry, but I decided I prefer my men attractive."

Any better?

Rapscallion

[technical.angel]

Thanks, Kittish, that's exactly the kind of thing I was looking for.

[Kittish]

How about this:

"I'm sorry, but this just isn't working out. I need someone with a bit more stability in their life. I wish you all the best."

Short, sweet, to the point and polite. Not that I really think the guy deserves polite, he really does appear to be yanking your chain deliberately. I mean, really, he didn't KNOW, weeks beforehand, that his family was going to be in town that night?? TA, honey, he's playing you, seeing just how far you'll let him go.

He might come across as 'a nice guy', but trust me on this one, he isn't. He isn't worth any more of your time or emotion.

I don't have guys beating down my door either, but I'm absolutely NOT desperate enough to put up with BS like that. You need to ask yourself 'am I really that desperate?'

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I'm sure he does have feelings, and if he'd like to have them considered by others, maybe he should start by considering those of others.

[evilminion007]

that happened to me many times also.............after three strikes move on ....you dont deserve him....do what i did, move on !!

[Fufu487]

Intended as a finish

Rapscallion

ummm...maybe some editing required before sending?? FANTASTIC start to the letter, but this guy may, in fact, have feelings.....maybe??? Good start tho