Dating Advice

[Rapscallion]

Intended as a finish

Rapscallion

[technical.angel]

Um... it's a start?

[Rapscallion]

All I want is help phrasing a " off" letter. :: sniffle ::

Yeah, I'd better make sure you don't get your hopes up. You've blanked on me twice. Forget the whole thing. If you're that unlucky I don't really want to be around you, and if you're just chicken then I don't want to be around you. Bye.

How's that? Covers the essential bases, methinks.

Rapscallion

[technical.angel]

Well, I know what to do if he cancels, I just don't know how to do it.

And it's not like I have a bevy of guys knocking down my door...

[Fufu487]

I with RK on this one. He should have known well ahead enough about the family to have known. And even thoy ouve talked to him alot, you dont really know him. I dont usually take anyone I meet online seriously unless I actually meet them . If you want to give him the benefit of the doubt, I can understand that. But stay sceptical and keep your guard up, cuz it seems a lil iffy........

[RecoveringKinkoid]

You know, GK, I was just thinking about that.

1.Nothing is known about this guy at all. A person can be anything they want online.

2. I can't even get my head around the statement "I don't knowwhat to do if he cancels again."

TA. Honey. Come on.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Given the extra info in your follow-up posts, I can understand you want to give him the benefit of the doubt...if you think he's telling the truth, go ahead and give him one more chance. Really, you're the only one who can decide that. But be cautious and if he cancels again, I'd say the hell with him. Either he's chickening out or he's jerking you around. Either way, do you really want to deal with that? It's not like you've got years of history invested in this person. He may be a nice guy, but if he can't follow through on plans you're just going to be frustrated, at the very least, if you try to pursue him. And hey, guys generally understand baseball...tell him it was strike three if you feel you must give him a reason.

[technical.angel]

All I want is help phrasing a " off" letter. :: sniffle ::

[The Gatekeeper]

Well you wanted feedback TA, and your getting it. RK is right to be suspicious. You know him better than us, but still like I said you don't really "know" him.

Your question was what to do if he cancels again. I think if you read in between the lines, you'll see the answer. And I really can't help you out with anything other than deleting him, because neither Roomie or I have passports, so getting over the border is not happening

Hopefully the 3rd time is the charm.

[technical.angel]

No no no, we haven't talke on the phone, only Google talk. And he's always the who initiated the conversations. And conversations about dates.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

So this family from hundreds of miles away didn't tell him they were coming for a visit until the night before they were due in? That's driving a long ass way to visit someone without even confirming they were gonna be there beforehand.

That guy is full of shit.

And judging from GK's post, I am assuming the guy wasn't even gonna bother to tell you, except you called him. I'm willing to go so far as to say you most certainly would have ended up sitting alone in a restaurant if you had not called him to confirm.

After the first cancellation, did you reschedule or did he?

And chickening out is still standing her up. Only thing is that now instead of just being stood up, she's been stood up by a complete and utter pssy man.

[technical.angel]

That's a little of what I think happened the first time. He just got a case of the nerves. Of course, we talked all night that night.

[gremcint]

It could be not that he's standing you up but he's really nervous and chickened out.

[technical.angel]

He told me he felt like an ass, but had to cancel. I mean, I really couldn't argue with him canceling because he was feeling sick. I wouldn't want to have to go on a date when I was feeling crappy. And who am I to say anything about family that lives a couple hundred miles away?

[The Gatekeeper]

For clarification, he did let her know a day or so ahead of time that he "had to reschedule". TA remind me how he canceled again? Did you contact him to confirm on the Friday(s) and that's when he postponed, or did he contact you first?