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A little explanation so this all makes sense: M is my bf, and evil Mom is his sister. My brother, who will not make any appearance in this story line because he's a deadbeat who has never been there, had K with Evil mom. So the bf and I share a nephew but are in no way related. M has been there for K since day one, he's the one who would get up with him in the middle of the night when he would start crying. M won't admit to it, but he's the closest thing K has had to a real dad with the exception of B, the man evil Mom was married to for a few years. B is a very good man, but not much more to say about him for this post.
So my nephew, K, is 8 now, and a good kid. Albeit rambunctious and stubborn, but all around, still a good kid. His mom however, not so much. She started out a decent mom, but over time has steadily become cold and flat out cruel to K. Within the last year and half she has seperated from her (awesome) husband and that's where the trouble has started. Mom has new men in and out of her home on a daily basis. Tonight when my mother dropped K off at their apartment, there were 3 strange men sitting on the couch. The way she described it, it almost sounded like they were lined up for a fuck and a meal.
K had been complaining to my mom about how he only eats ramen noodles and when he asks his Mom for food, she tells him no or just won't get up to make it. She has a job, a roommate and food stamps, for those reasons, she should at the very least be able to provide food to her child. When my mother brought K home tonight, K was immediately made to serve the food his grandma had just bought for him so he wouldn't be hungry to the 3 strange men sitting on the couch. His Mom wouldn't even come out of her room to acknowledge my mother. (I'll admit, my mom has her faults and our relationship isn't the best, but she's still a good person and was a hell of a lot better mom then most. You don't have to like my mother, but if she was decent to watch your kid for you 3 hours later then she was told, she at least deserves a freaking "thank you").
My mother went on to tell me how she took K to church today and he fell asleep (he fell asleep when I took him to see HP6 a few days ago, that doesn't seem so much a coincidence now) and she noticed he was just completely covered in grime like he hadn't bathed in days. Evil Mom hasn't had hot water in the apt in 3 months, and managed to scald K with boiling water while attempting to give him a warm bath once. Apparently the little guy reeked to high heaven, and not just like a sweaty little boy. He straight up stank like a hobo. K even admitted to my mom that he has been wearing the same underwear for FIVE freaking days in a row.
Apparently the little guy (he's itty bitty for his age, like, 5 year old size) had an abcessed tooth. In case some of you aren't aware, an abcessed tooth can KILL you if not properly cared for. In fact, certain types of abcesses in the mouth have an 80% death rate if the pus-goo is swallowed. Anyway, grandma mentions to Mom that he has this infected tooth and she makes an appointment for a freaking month away to see a dentist. Her reason? She doesn't like the health insurance that the kid is on right now and wants to wait til the insurance from her current job kicks in. So W (his maternal grandma) was like eff you stupid cow and got him an appointment for this week with a dentist.
I am fed up with this BS, she doesn't parent, she just yells at K and smacks him (like right on the ear, ya know in that way that can burst your ear drum if you do it right) and then ignores him otherwise. She posts on her Myspace that her son is her whole world and she loves him so much, but she won't let her ex hubby or my bf see him. She thinks they're "bad influences". By bad influence, I can only infer she means, "they'll poison my son against me!!!" M and B are K's favorite people in the whole world, by the way.
The kid definitely needs some strong discipline, but the kind that involves patience, understanding and some god damn hugs. He's one of those difficult kids that only responds to positive reinforcement. The more you smack him, the more he acts out.
So I told my mom that's it and gave her the number to child protective services. She has witnessed a lot more of this then I have, so I made her promise to call them this week. If she doesn't, then I'm going to do it. I'm only 20, but I'll foster him if need be. W would be happy to fully adopt him. My mom will help with the fostering too. There are so many people who love that little boy, it needs to end now. This cannot happen anymore. I won't let it. My brother (the biological sperm donor) bowed out of the kids life early on, I'm not going to do the same.
In case anyone is curious what the mom's deal is. I'm certain there is some serious mental illness possibly along the lines of Bi-Polar disorder and some other stuff. She definitely needs counselling and probably medication, but she has always been determined that she does no wrong and her problems are someone else's fault. I can guarantee nothing would make that woman get the help she needs. Not even in the face of losing her child. She bitch and scream and get violent, plead with the judge. But she would never take the necessary steps to keep/get back her child. She would just hate us all for "ruining her family". It does seem to me that K is all she has, but she sure doesn't cherish him like he's all she has. Especially having so many different men in and out of that place. Pedophiles target single mom's, and if anything were to EVER happen to my nephew because she let some freak into her home. I'd freaking beat her til she couldn't move. That's just something I can't even think of though. Because I probably would spend a long time in prison for what I would do.
I know violence isn't condoned here, but that's my family and an innocent little boy. I'm not even a violent person to be honest. I talk big game, but I've been in very few fights, all of which have been self defense.
Sorry if none of this makes sense, I'm freaking angry right now. I'm kinda close to tears too. This is just the final straw. I can't sit back and say "oh she's such a bad mom" and tut tut anymore. I'm getting that little boy out of that shit hole if it's the last thing I do. I swear to god, thor, and every other single deity who has ever existed throughout history. I will not sit by and watch.
So my nephew, K, is 8 now, and a good kid. Albeit rambunctious and stubborn, but all around, still a good kid. His mom however, not so much. She started out a decent mom, but over time has steadily become cold and flat out cruel to K. Within the last year and half she has seperated from her (awesome) husband and that's where the trouble has started. Mom has new men in and out of her home on a daily basis. Tonight when my mother dropped K off at their apartment, there were 3 strange men sitting on the couch. The way she described it, it almost sounded like they were lined up for a fuck and a meal.
K had been complaining to my mom about how he only eats ramen noodles and when he asks his Mom for food, she tells him no or just won't get up to make it. She has a job, a roommate and food stamps, for those reasons, she should at the very least be able to provide food to her child. When my mother brought K home tonight, K was immediately made to serve the food his grandma had just bought for him so he wouldn't be hungry to the 3 strange men sitting on the couch. His Mom wouldn't even come out of her room to acknowledge my mother. (I'll admit, my mom has her faults and our relationship isn't the best, but she's still a good person and was a hell of a lot better mom then most. You don't have to like my mother, but if she was decent to watch your kid for you 3 hours later then she was told, she at least deserves a freaking "thank you").
My mother went on to tell me how she took K to church today and he fell asleep (he fell asleep when I took him to see HP6 a few days ago, that doesn't seem so much a coincidence now) and she noticed he was just completely covered in grime like he hadn't bathed in days. Evil Mom hasn't had hot water in the apt in 3 months, and managed to scald K with boiling water while attempting to give him a warm bath once. Apparently the little guy reeked to high heaven, and not just like a sweaty little boy. He straight up stank like a hobo. K even admitted to my mom that he has been wearing the same underwear for FIVE freaking days in a row.
Apparently the little guy (he's itty bitty for his age, like, 5 year old size) had an abcessed tooth. In case some of you aren't aware, an abcessed tooth can KILL you if not properly cared for. In fact, certain types of abcesses in the mouth have an 80% death rate if the pus-goo is swallowed. Anyway, grandma mentions to Mom that he has this infected tooth and she makes an appointment for a freaking month away to see a dentist. Her reason? She doesn't like the health insurance that the kid is on right now and wants to wait til the insurance from her current job kicks in. So W (his maternal grandma) was like eff you stupid cow and got him an appointment for this week with a dentist.
I am fed up with this BS, she doesn't parent, she just yells at K and smacks him (like right on the ear, ya know in that way that can burst your ear drum if you do it right) and then ignores him otherwise. She posts on her Myspace that her son is her whole world and she loves him so much, but she won't let her ex hubby or my bf see him. She thinks they're "bad influences". By bad influence, I can only infer she means, "they'll poison my son against me!!!" M and B are K's favorite people in the whole world, by the way.
The kid definitely needs some strong discipline, but the kind that involves patience, understanding and some god damn hugs. He's one of those difficult kids that only responds to positive reinforcement. The more you smack him, the more he acts out.
So I told my mom that's it and gave her the number to child protective services. She has witnessed a lot more of this then I have, so I made her promise to call them this week. If she doesn't, then I'm going to do it. I'm only 20, but I'll foster him if need be. W would be happy to fully adopt him. My mom will help with the fostering too. There are so many people who love that little boy, it needs to end now. This cannot happen anymore. I won't let it. My brother (the biological sperm donor) bowed out of the kids life early on, I'm not going to do the same.
In case anyone is curious what the mom's deal is. I'm certain there is some serious mental illness possibly along the lines of Bi-Polar disorder and some other stuff. She definitely needs counselling and probably medication, but she has always been determined that she does no wrong and her problems are someone else's fault. I can guarantee nothing would make that woman get the help she needs. Not even in the face of losing her child. She bitch and scream and get violent, plead with the judge. But she would never take the necessary steps to keep/get back her child. She would just hate us all for "ruining her family". It does seem to me that K is all she has, but she sure doesn't cherish him like he's all she has. Especially having so many different men in and out of that place. Pedophiles target single mom's, and if anything were to EVER happen to my nephew because she let some freak into her home. I'd freaking beat her til she couldn't move. That's just something I can't even think of though. Because I probably would spend a long time in prison for what I would do.
I know violence isn't condoned here, but that's my family and an innocent little boy. I'm not even a violent person to be honest. I talk big game, but I've been in very few fights, all of which have been self defense.
Sorry if none of this makes sense, I'm freaking angry right now. I'm kinda close to tears too. This is just the final straw. I can't sit back and say "oh she's such a bad mom" and tut tut anymore. I'm getting that little boy out of that shit hole if it's the last thing I do. I swear to god, thor, and every other single deity who has ever existed throughout history. I will not sit by and watch.
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