I am hurt.

[BookstoreEscapee]

OK, so I've been talking to a friend of mine via text lately, mostly about my situation with Ex. Today I told him how Ex has de-friended me on Facebook (I'm assuming this is what I get for filing against him in court). So my friend said "Be my friend on Facebook" (which I didn't know he was on but I guess he joined recently) and he sent me a friend request. So when I got home I accepted it and looked at his page. Relationship status: Married.

Married? I knew his girlfriend was pregnant (after only a few months together, I do believe...he told me that one via text) but I was not aware that they got married. Judging from the comments on the page it's only within the last couple months. In late July there's a status update (one of those auto-posts that goes up when you change or do something), Guy is engaged to Girl, and someone's comment on that (which is the only place there is a date). Then a few more random auto-posts and then Guy is married to Girl.

So I sent him a text that said, Um, excuse me but when the hell did you get married? He hasn't answered yet.

I imagine this was something of a short-notice type of wedding but he didn't even tell me about it?!

[MaggieTheCat]

For what it's worth, my husband and I didn't tell anyone except our parents and one friend on each side when we got married. It just wasn't a big deal to us. We didn't even have a ceremony. So maybe they eloped?

Edit: Okay, I guess you can't really elope if you're announcing your engagement. My husband and I didn't do that, either; we were unofficially engaged for a long time and basically just decided, "hey, let's get married next weekend."

Sorry that your friend left you out.

[Plaidman]

Ouch. I don't think I could stand if an ex defriended me, though I'm likely due for it.

For what its worth, it might have been a short-term quick marriage. Hell one of my best friends just causelly mentioned to me, that it was his three month anverstity. I didn't even know he got married. It was just him, the wife, and like two other people.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I'm thinking they did a quicky, private ceremony, probably because the girlfriend was knocked up.

Might have been something he didn't want a big to-do over. I wouldn't be too hurt over it. Might not even be married, might have just wanted the status on his page so that he was clearly unavailable.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Might have been something he didn't want a big to-do over.

They didn't, though their families managed to turn into a to-do, anyway. They got married on Saturday. I'm not upset I wasn't invited, just that he didn't bother to tell me. I don't like finding out big news like that on Facebook...and it wasn't like I hadn't talked to him several times recently. I found out my friend's baby had been born the same way...a week later, because my old computer did not do well with facebook, so I didn't check it very often. I didn't expect a personal phone call but if you can update your facebook you can send an email to your friends.

Ouch. I don't think I could stand if an ex defriended me, though I'm likely due for it.

I'm not hurt over it. He did it because I filed against him in court over the money he owes me, and this was his reaction to receiving the papers (I'm assuming, since he hasn't tried to talk to me like an actual grownup). Frankly, I find it rather childish.

Edit: He hasn't just dropped me as a friend, he has completely blocked me. He has also dropped a friend of mine that we both used to work with (though she said she can still see their mutual friends so I guess he didn't actually block her). I can only guess I am the reason why, since she said she doesn't really talk to him, anyway. Maybe he thinks I talk to her more than I actually do.

[DesignFox]

Yea, can sympathize with how you feel. A friend of mine is getting married and he announced on Facebook. I only found out because my SO is a also his friend, and SO told me.

I wasn't really *hurt* by it, but I did take a moment to bitch him out for not A) emailing me, B) texting me, or C) telling me via AIM.

It's not like he doesn't occasionally email or text me random stupid shit, so I don't know how he didn't have the time to actually say something important.

I don't have Facebook. I don't want Facebook. Why is it so freakin' hard for people to contact me some other way?

I think I'm fighting a losing battle, though. I seem to be the only person who isn't "with it."

[Fire_on_High]

. I didn't expect a personal phone call but if you can update your facebook you can send an email to your friends.

To be the devil's advocate, I always considered that to be rather egotistical and attention whorish. If someone posts something personal on a site where you can come and read at your convenience, that's one thing, but intruding directly into someone else's day and fishing for gratz or "look at me!" just seems rather entitled.

I've always had a rather odd view of things, tho.

[Sliceanddice]

I think I'm fighting a losing battle, though. I seem to be the only person who isn't "with it."

bite your tongue i still have my soul as well

[BookstoreEscapee]

To be the devil's advocate, I always considered that to be rather egotistical and attention whorish. If someone posts something personal on a site where you can come and read at your convenience, that's one thing, but intruding directly into someone else's day and fishing for gratz or "look at me!" just seems rather entitled.

I've always had a rather odd view of things, tho.

I think a wedding or a new baby is a big enough event to warrant an email, at least. Not everyone is on Facebook.

[DesignFox]

bite your tongue i still have my soul as well

Wooo! I'm not alone!

What Escapee said- not everyone has facebook! If you're getting married or having a baby or something BIG, freakin' tell me!

I would agree that announcing every. little. thing. would be attention whorish...but c'mon.

Some of my friends still mail me physical photos of their new babies. That's a big deal, it's not like announcing that you got a new haircut.

[BookstoreEscapee]

I would agree that announcing every. little. thing. would be attention whorish...but c'mon.

Like posting every little thing you do on Twitter? I got an invitation to join Twitter from a friend of mine and I draw the line there.

Some of my friends still mail me physical photos of their new babies. That's a big deal, it's not like announcing that you got a new haircut.

She did mail photo announcements. He's a cutie. If we can all get our acts together I might get to meet him next week.

[TheSHAD0W]

Heheh. Your friend might be married and not even realize it!

Depends on where he lives. Many states have "common-law marriage" laws which basically say, if you're cohabiting, and make an announcement that you're married, then you're married! I doubt someone's Facebook status has ever been considered as an announcement, but if it ever came up in court your friend might be enormously surprised!

[dalesys]

I've heard that Idaho has/had a law that if you checked into a motel/hotel as man & wife... you were.

Surprised a lot of airmen at Mountain Home.

[Peppergirl]

I've heard that Idaho has/had a law that if you checked into a motel/hotel as man & wife... you were.

Surprised a lot of airmen at Mountain Home.

I would also imagine this would create alot of pseudo-polygamists, if you get my drift.

[dalesys]

I would also imagine this would create alot of pseudo-polygamists, if you get my drift.

That's a disadvantage?

If it's still an active law it could be a "He shoots.. He SCORES!" moment for gay marriage