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I feel like I'm such a horrible daughter. But this issue is becomming a real annoyance for me...and I don't know what to do about it.
My mom is not in the best of health - due to a lifetime of smoking cigarettes, she has problems with her breathing, and is obese due to overeating. Until recently, my dad (they are separated by still friends) had been driving her to the grocery store each week. But then his car broke down, and he may never drive again anyway, because he's in even worse health.
So now the responsibility of doing all of my mom's grocery shopping falls on me. Which would not be an issue at all, except that I do not drive. I could, and have, walked from my house, to the grocery store, then to her house, then back home. Overall that takes three hours, but doing it that way I have to make repeated trips. Not to mention, a lot of the stuff my mom requires is heavy, and I can't carry it that far, anyway.
So that means I have to find someone to ride me to the store and wait while I do the shopping. That is where the trouble comes in. I'm a loner. While I have a lot of acquaintances, I don't have any of what you would call "friends." There is no one who is exactly chomping at the bit to take time out of their lives to drive me to the store, wait for me, then take me to my mom's house. I had asked this one friend (the only one I could think of) to take me the past couple of weeks, but then the last time I asked they exploded "Jesus Christ, why do you have always have to go to the damn store?!" So...
...I HATE asking
I don't have a problem helping my mom, but I have to drag other people into doing the helping. I want to suggest that she find someone - a relative of hers with a car, or else take a taxi. She does not realize that it is such an issue for me to find someone to take me to do her shopping. She seems to assume that I know lots of people who would gladly do it.
What do I do??! Do I suggest she find someone else, or another way, or just keep sucking it up and asking for favors? This is really stressing me out.
My mom is not in the best of health - due to a lifetime of smoking cigarettes, she has problems with her breathing, and is obese due to overeating. Until recently, my dad (they are separated by still friends) had been driving her to the grocery store each week. But then his car broke down, and he may never drive again anyway, because he's in even worse health.
So now the responsibility of doing all of my mom's grocery shopping falls on me. Which would not be an issue at all, except that I do not drive. I could, and have, walked from my house, to the grocery store, then to her house, then back home. Overall that takes three hours, but doing it that way I have to make repeated trips. Not to mention, a lot of the stuff my mom requires is heavy, and I can't carry it that far, anyway.
So that means I have to find someone to ride me to the store and wait while I do the shopping. That is where the trouble comes in. I'm a loner. While I have a lot of acquaintances, I don't have any of what you would call "friends." There is no one who is exactly chomping at the bit to take time out of their lives to drive me to the store, wait for me, then take me to my mom's house. I had asked this one friend (the only one I could think of) to take me the past couple of weeks, but then the last time I asked they exploded "Jesus Christ, why do you have always have to go to the damn store?!" So...
...I HATE asking
I don't have a problem helping my mom, but I have to drag other people into doing the helping. I want to suggest that she find someone - a relative of hers with a car, or else take a taxi. She does not realize that it is such an issue for me to find someone to take me to do her shopping. She seems to assume that I know lots of people who would gladly do it.What do I do??! Do I suggest she find someone else, or another way, or just keep sucking it up and asking for favors? This is really stressing me out.
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