My Son's Friend Got In A Wreck

[RavenStarr]

My son Chris's friend Amanda got into a wreck this morning. She lost control on a curve and flipped her truck. It is totaled beyond recognition. Thankfully she is okay. Just some cuts and bruises. I talked to her and she said she was thankful Chris wasn't with her. She was told that if she would have had a passenger with her, most likely that person would have been killed. She was very lucky herself.

I'm very thankful he rode the bus. I can't help but think "What If". Chris was grounded from riding with her at this time because of grades/attitude. However he has also been known to disobey us, and ride with her anyway. What if this would have happened a week ago when he wasn't grounded, and riding with her. I've been crying because I just can't get that "What If" thing out of my head. I've just been a mess thinking about it.

We are going to talk to Chris about this. I hope he will realize that when his Dad told him not to ride with her that he wasn't trying to be mean. My husband has had friends to get killed in wrecks coming to and going home from school. So he is very paranoid about his kids riding with another teenage driver. I can understand his point of view. He didn't think Amanda had enough driving experience to have our son ride with her. (She had been driving about 5 mos when this happened). I thought it would be okay, but now I realize it was a bad judgement call on my part.

I'm thinking about asking to see the truck, so I can see for myself. I would like for Chris to see it too, just so he can see where we're coming from. I just keep thining "What If".....

[Nurian]

You can't keep asking yourself "What if" all the time. It will drive you crazy and it's not productive. There's too many variables acting on the situation to draw a meaningful conclusion. Consider this: What he had been in the truck? Would her driving have been different? Maybe it rolled because the truck was over balanced on the driver side, so would his weight have kept it from rolling? Who knows?

Look at the facts, though: She drove, she wrecked, the truck rolled, he wasn't in it.

I'm glad she's okay. I hope this teaches her to be more careful.

[RavenStarr]

I'm doing better. I've stopped asking myself "What If". It was even better when he got home, because then I could see for myself that he was okay. I literally gave him a bear hug when he walked in the door. Chris was like. He's at the age where he thinks he too big to get hugs from his Mom. Teenagers.

Anyway I know God was definitely watching over us. I am very grateful.