Dating advice

[TexasT]

So I'm trying the online dating scene due to the fact that real life isn't brining me much luck. I'm also practicing abstinence (waiting until marriage to have sex).

My question-At what point should I tell the guy this? When we chat? On a date (if I ever get that far)? If so, which date?

[Rapscallion]

If it's online, I'd really look at dropping it into your profile (if a bit of text is allowed). From this amused spectator's view of romance, it makes sense to weed out the horndogs on the prowl at the early stages, and you may attract someone else of similar attitude.

Rapscallion

[Plaidman]

Yo, I'm doing the same thing. It is something to put up in profiles.

In anycase...

How YOU doing??

[trailerparkmedic]

Hooray for online dating! It's how I met my boyfriend

Since this is obviously something you feel strongly about, I'd put it in your profile. I believe that profiles should include any deal breakers (eg a friend of mine won't date anyone more than 5 years older than her). If you don't put it in your profile, I'd bring it up when it comes up in conversation, whether that is when you first chat or a few dates in.

[blas]

I think it's a great idea to add that to your profile.

It's a very good idea to be specific about what you are looking for.

[TexasT]

I followed your advice. Lets see what happens. I'm actually kinda sad because I was getting a lot of positive feedback and it's probably going to significantly go down. Of course, my brain knows that I'm weeding out the guys I wouldn't want anyway, but my ego doesn't like the hit.

Plaidman, even on here, eh? (I kid)

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Well, keep this in mind.

That was my acid test.

Guy wants to be with me, that was understood. If he still wanted to be with me knowing he wasn't gonna get laid...well...I gotta figure he wants to be with me.

Weeded out a lot of insincere, false people.

I ended up getting exactly what I wanted, who I wanted, and on my terms. And you know what else? I never had a shortage of guys who wanted to date me.

You'd be amazed how much power you have as a woman who controls her own sexuality.

[TexasT]

Well, so far I've gotten one, "Is that a challenge? I'd like to change your mind."

[BookstoreEscapee]

Well, so far I've gotten one, "Is that a challenge? I'd like to change your mind."

You had to know there'd be at least one...

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Oh, trust me. He isn't the first and he won't be the last.

There is, unfortunately, no shortage of losers who just know they are sooo charming and soooo hot that surely, SURELY they will change your mind. They will be The One.

Their name is Legion.

Weed them out quickly.