New things may be afoot (good things, but a bit ranty)

[Cat]

So, the boy and I *finally* talked about moving in together. We both want outta out condos, and get a house together. I also want out of my job like crazy. (don't get me wrong, I am thankful to have a job, just this one is driving insane)

He likes his job and area of the state. I hate my job and am different to my area of the state. So we'd probably get a place closer to him and I'll get a new job (I'm okay with this, IF I can find one)

One silly thing: He wants to buy it. Just him. even those my credit is much better, and I would qualify for the new home owners dealie. Fine, if he wants to spend more $$....his choice. I think its silly Not a big deal.


I'm just bummed because I think my dream will be put on hold. Its a silly dream with no logic behind it. I want to live in NH, in a log cabin, and own lots of cats. No idea what I'd do for a job, hence why I'm still in CT

*sigh* I love him, and want to live together, its just getting whacked in the face with the salmon of reality that I a *grown-up* and have to do responsible things

On the plus side, one of the places we looked at is awesome.....this lil village type place

[Flying Grype]

You sound really young... a lot of people have to go through a little wage-slaving and apartment-living before they can have their dream homes. Me, I'm paying off student debt... but when that's done, I'll bet my man and I could afford monthly mortgage payments together. I want a house that's on the east side of downtown, near Little India, with a big yard for gardening.

My ultimate dream home would be out in the country with horses and a small observatory. But at the rate I'm going it feels like that's what I would do in retirement. Remember that when you live in the woods it's a looooong commute to work, unless you're self-employed.

[Amina516]

The cynic in me wonders why he wants the house in only HIS name when both your money will go towards maintaining. You know him better than any of us here, so if you trust him then go for it. But its something worth thinking about.

[Aethian]

I have a feeling he wants it in his name alone because if anything happens to the relationship...he has the home.

I would try some couple consuling like what married couples go through. Also i would take a finacial class so that you can try and figure out if you can be on the same page money wise. Since thats often a relationship breaker.

[Cat]

It might be a Y-chromosone thing....me man, me buy house. (no insult to men....I just have a feeling this is his thing) Though when we finally find one, my name's going on it. He don't like that... then I get my own house.

Young? I'm 31


OH, in the dream scenrio I'm self-employeed,,,,just haven't figured out thatpart yet.