I added the "2.0" for giggles. But anyways...I get a call from my mom Saturday morning and she and the step-dad are going out to shop for yet more presents. She asks what the girls are interested in, if their dad has already bought a certain gift, where to find said gifts, blah blah blah. She then asks me what I'm getting the kids for Christmas. I told her flat out "money". The reason???
Let me take you back about 5 yrs ago when I still bought my kids obscene amounts of presents. I bought some cute outfits for the girls. Dummy me relied on their dad to get me their clothes sizes and I ended up buying clothes too small for my older child and her gifts went to her sister and making christmas suck for her
I wasn't about to let that happen again so I started giving gift cards or cash so they can get stuff they need in the correct size and whatever they want.
This logic seemed to work for the last few years until this year. My mother made me feel like crap about it. I want my kids to have the things they want and need for Christmas but I want THEM to pick out what they like. I don't want to pick out what I think they would like. My oldest is all about the black, anime, goth and such while my younger is still a girly girl but is not about the pink and frilly.
My mother was never this materialistic regarding Christmas. NEVER!!!! Her favorite phrase growing up was "We won't be having Christmas this year" while bringing in new stuff she bought for herself. She was selfish when we were growing up. I think we were just a nuisance to her although I don't remember asking to be brought to life!! I grew to hate the holidays and still do. I keep it bottled up because I don't want the kids to hate it. I give them great presents each year. I think it's all about the kids and making them happy but i don't think you need 300 wrapped boxes under the tree to prove it.
Either way, I will continue to give the kids cash for Christmas but I just hate being made to feel like crap about it. Am I wrong to feel angry and annoyed or is she justified?
Sorry, I just needed to get that off my chest. It's been bugging me all weekend and needed to vent. Otherwise, I'd probably tell her where to stick her Christmas!!
Let me take you back about 5 yrs ago when I still bought my kids obscene amounts of presents. I bought some cute outfits for the girls. Dummy me relied on their dad to get me their clothes sizes and I ended up buying clothes too small for my older child and her gifts went to her sister and making christmas suck for her
I wasn't about to let that happen again so I started giving gift cards or cash so they can get stuff they need in the correct size and whatever they want.
This logic seemed to work for the last few years until this year. My mother made me feel like crap about it. I want my kids to have the things they want and need for Christmas but I want THEM to pick out what they like. I don't want to pick out what I think they would like. My oldest is all about the black, anime, goth and such while my younger is still a girly girl but is not about the pink and frilly.
My mother was never this materialistic regarding Christmas. NEVER!!!! Her favorite phrase growing up was "We won't be having Christmas this year" while bringing in new stuff she bought for herself. She was selfish when we were growing up. I think we were just a nuisance to her although I don't remember asking to be brought to life!! I grew to hate the holidays and still do. I keep it bottled up because I don't want the kids to hate it. I give them great presents each year. I think it's all about the kids and making them happy but i don't think you need 300 wrapped boxes under the tree to prove it.
Either way, I will continue to give the kids cash for Christmas but I just hate being made to feel like crap about it. Am I wrong to feel angry and annoyed or is she justified?
Sorry, I just needed to get that off my chest. It's been bugging me all weekend and needed to vent. Otherwise, I'd probably tell her where to stick her Christmas!!
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