I just got an apology 17 years after the fact

[Dave1982]

I just got a message on Facebook from a girl I went to school with, apologizing for something that happened in 4th grade that I don't even remember. She said that people were making fun of me for turning in a crappy solar system model, when the model they were making fun of was actually her's, and she was too scared to stand up for me, and that it's always bothered her. So - 17 years later - she sent me a message saying she was sorry.

Um....ok. I don't even remember this. I do remember that this would have been right around the time I came back to school after missing 7 days straight with chicken pox, and I was probably made fun of then because my skin hadn't quite fully healed so I looked terrible. I honestly don't remember being teased about a solar system model.

I wonder if it's her new year's resolution to make right past mistakes or something.

[Gawdzillers]

Well, whatever it is, it's nice of her to do that.

[NightAngel]

Well, it was nice of her to try anyway. It may be it wasn't you- someone with your name or another kid in the class or something. Who knows?

I remember once I ran into a guy at a bar that had teased and been really mean to me in school. He bought me a drink and apologized, then we talked for awhile. Despite the fact that I was grown, moved on, had lots of friends and had left all that behind- I was surprised at how nice it felt to hear and to have a real "human" moment in time with him.

[Dave1982]

Yes, it was nice of her to do that, and I told her so. Honestly, I have no clue if it was really me or if it was someone else, but our class sizes were fairly small back then, and I think I was the only Dave, so odds are it probably was me.

[Food Lady]

Sometimes people do still remember stuff that was done to them for a long time. I did, and acknowlegements would've been nice to hear. But now that I'm older I don't care anymore.

[Dave1982]

Actually, in the same vein, I once did something similar with a long-time friend of mine. We'd gotten into a huge argument about something stupid in middle school, then I discovered years later that I'd had my facts all wrong. The next time I spoke with him I told him I was sorry about that argument, and that he'd been right all along. He just laughed and said that my apology was unnecessary, but he's accept it anyway.

ETA: This is getting me to thinking about various other things that happened in school, such as the fact that another girl still owes me $5 that I loaned her in 7th grade.

[Plaidman]

Congrats! I'm very jealous. I wish that happen.

But if anything, they'll just laugh. And attempt to insult me more.

Or, in the case of D, try to act like I'm his best friend, and really wants to hang with me. Despite the fact he is always coming in high as a fing kite, is as crazy as his whole family was, and the fact he was a major bully of mine back in middle school. He may be a customer of mine, but I'll be damn if I ever be a friend to that sonofabitch.

[Amina516]

Maybe shes having a "My name is Earl" moment.

[Soulstealer]

It was nice of her to do that, I'm sure we all have people in our past who we'd like to apologise to or receive an apology from. In my case it's the boys in my 8th grade class. To this day I don't know what I did to them but I suspect it might just be the hormones. Probably didn't help that it was around this time I started getting breasts.

It would probably be harder for me though, we live on different continents as far as I know.

[El Pollo Guerrera]

Amina516, I was thinking that too...

Lucky Dave... he gets apologies for minor stuff that happened almost 2 decades ago, and I can't get my sister to remember the $1000 she 'borrowed' from me 5 years ago...

I must be doing something wrong...

[Jester]

Dave, stop questioning and just enjoy it. Hell, it may spark a new friendship.

[Pig Mode] And who knows? If she's hot, you might even get some tail out of it. [/Pig Mode]

[Dave1982]

I'm not questioning it. I'm just commenting on how bizarre and unexpected it is.

(And she's engaged, btw).

[Rapscallion]

Maybe her therapist recommended it as a cleansing thing?

Rapscallion

[AccountingDrone]

I just got a message on Facebook from a girl I went to school with, apologizing for something that happened in 4th grade that I don't even remember. She said that people were making fun of me for turning in a crappy solar system model, when the model they were making fun of was actually her's, and she was too scared to stand up for me, and that it's always bothered her. So - 17 years later - she sent me a message saying she was sorry.

Um....ok. I don't even remember this. I do remember that this would have been right around the time I came back to school after missing 7 days straight with chicken pox, and I was probably made fun of then because my skin hadn't quite fully healed so I looked terrible. I honestly don't remember being teased about a solar system model.

I wonder if it's her new year's resolution to make right past mistakes or something.

Or she is a recovering addict and working on whichever step is apologizing for everything - which can be very difficult for people some times [or so I understand] as it really can be this involved. I got apologized to for something back in vacation bible school that I also dont even remember, but to the person it was important to their recovery, so one simply thanks them for the apology and assures them that you understand and accept it. Doesnt matter if you dont remember a thing, it doesnt cost you anything and it helps them.

[Jester]

Unless, of course, you remember them and their "crime" against you all too well, and refuse to accept their apology, knowing full well that that may screw them up as they try to turn their lives around.

Which is why it is never good to be too much of a douchebag. You never know who won't forgive you later on.