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  • Apparently, My Sister is a Bigger Bitch Than I Thought

    I have to vent, I really do! Rage is burning it's way through my heart, and I don't know how to handle it.

    Backstory:

    My parents and I lived in the family house. My sister was grown-up and gone. Parents and I move to condo 5-years ago, sister wanted to buy house. Gave her really good deal on house. House goes in her fiance's name. She gets to keep pool, all tools in shed, washer/dryer, furniture, etc. In the basement were Dad's upright piano that belonged to his grandfather and that he learned to play on. Sister would store that for him because no room at the condo. Also in the basement was my 18 foot wooden sea kayak that we also had no room for. I eventually wanted to use it again, or sell it, so she was storing it as well. Both were out of the way, plenty of room to spare. Dad even specifically said if sister ever sold house, let him know so he could arrange other storage for the items. Sister said of course, she loved the piano because she learned on it too, and knew how important the kayak was to me because I build it. I eventually moved to an apartment, where again, no room for the kayak. That was about 3-years ago. My sister even helped me move.

    Parents call me today. They had heard from someone that my sister had GIVEN AWAY BOTH ITEMS!!! AND SHE HAD DONE SO 3-YEARS AGO! So she's been stringing us along all this time. Parents didn't want to believe it and confronted sister. Sister admitted it. Someone had done electrical work for her and she'd given him the piano as payment! She had a 'buddy' who kayaks and since I 'wasn't using it' she gave it to him as payment for some odd jobs he did! (Knowing the intelligence of her friends, the piano is by now firewood and my kayak is at the bottom of a white-water river where it was never intended to sail!) Dad was heartbroken and upset, and cried when he had to tell me. He still doesn't know how to tell my grandma who is in the hospital right now. My sister's excuse: "I forgot I was storing them for you!"



    If you had forgotten, why did you not ask? Why did you not tell us until it was too late to do anything about it?

    I want Dad to take legal action (he still has the original bill of sale from when great-grandpa bought the piano!), but he's upset now and has to think about it. I want the full cost of materials that I put-into building my kayak. However, my sister has dug herself into a deep financial pit and wouldn't be able to pay anyway. What she did was a crime, legally and morally. Dad doesn't even want the piano back unless it is in the same condition in which he left it; he said it would break his heart if he saw it destroyed. He said he didn't want to tell me, but since I am moving into a house soon, I was planning on returning for my kayak anyway, and then I would have found out.

    My sister has no morals or ethics and spends a lot of time doing nice things for friends and complete strangers because her family knows the type of person she is, and she can't play us anymore. She gets others to like her by giving giving giving, to convince herself in her mind that she's a good person. She never does anything for anyone unless it profits or benefits her.

    I never want to speak to the snake-tongued bitch for doing that to my, our, Dad. He had been working part-time as a driver for a small business she runs. When she saw how upset he was the first words out of her mouth were "You're not quitting, are you!?" Yes, she was more concerned with hiring a new employee than she was breaking her father''s heart. He told her he was putting in 2-weeks notice, because he could not stand to talk to her right now, and did not know when he'd want to do so again.

    I hate her, I want to call her and scream. I don't even care about her paying for my kayak, I just cannot believe she would be so deceptive and cruel to us. Of course, any attempt to make her accept wrongdoing has always resulted in her laying a guilt-trip on us a mile long and threatening suicide. I think this is the last straw though. Someday, she needs to pay for what she does to people, especially her own family who have always been there for her. But anything that doesn't have to do with her is pretty much beneath her caring; unless it will get her something and make her money.

    Karma's a bitch sister dear, and don't call me to cry when life becomes 'unfair!'
    "If anyone wants this old box containing the broken bits of my former faith in humanity, I'll take your best offer now. You may be able to salvage a few of em' for parts..... " - Quote by Argabarga

  • #2
    Hell YES what she did was illegal and immoral! Time to quietly cut her out and walk away. She is NOT your sister anymore.

    ....why is my first response to cut someone out and leave? Nevermind that.

    I'd go after her for the costs.
    Now a member of that alien race called Management.

    Yeah, you see that right. Pink. Harness.

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    • #3
      Personally, I'd give her one chance to return the items, intact, and in perfect condition.

      She is guilty of theft, and those who received the items are guilty for receiving stolen items. Tell her that you intend to press charges against her and those she gave the things to if they are not returned.

      Take it from there. If she cannot return them, file a police report. Even IF she cannot pay for said items, she CAN spend time in jail for it.


      Eric the Grey
      In memory of Dena - Don't Drink and Drive

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      • #4
        When I read the title, I was thinking to myself, "I could never use that title, since I KNOW how big a bitch my sister is." And I was expecting some minor brouhaha that paled in comparison to The Witch and her domineering, mean, rude exploits.

        I was wrong. This was not minor. This is either in the same class as The Witch or perhaps even beyond her level of Bitchitude. Considering the fact that she is no longer a Queen Bitch due to having been promoted to Empress years ago, that is saying something!

        Your sister is a conniving manipulative little fudge cunt. And I would be willing to bet that the story she told your father about why and how the items left were not entirely true. My bet is that she hired someone to do some work, couldn't pay them, and they threatened legal action, so she paid them with something she knew they would want--in this case, the piano to one guy and the kayak to the other.

        I have no suggestions about how to handle your sister. None that I can print here, though. Or that don't involve duct tape and some place remote and quiet.

        I do, however, have suggestions about the missing items. It is a long shot, but it might work. Have your Bitchster provide you and/or your father with the names of the people who acquired the piano and kayak. Contact them directly (rather than through Bitchster), and explain the situation to them. That Bitchster gave them your items but did not have the right to do so. And, if possible, you would like to get the items back, depending on their condition. If you are reasonable with these people, they may help you out. As for recompensating them, you can suggest to them that Bitchster still owes them in cash for their work, and legal action may be necessary, or you can offer to buy the items (condition dependent) from them for the cost of the work they did, and then bill Bitchster yourself for the amount she cost you. While the latter option sucks more for you, it is probably the one that the people in question are more likely to agree to.

        Just a thought.

        Another thought is to take a photo of Bitchster and tape it to either a dart board, a punching bag, or some other item that you can use to get out your aggression and anger against Bitchster without actually doing anything that will land you in the pokey. It won't help you recover the items, but you will be shocked at how much better it will make you feel!

        "The Customer Is Always Right...But The Bartender Decides Who Is
        Still A Customer."

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        • #5
          Quoth Eric the Grey View Post
          Take it from there. If she cannot return them, file a police report. Even IF she cannot pay for said items, she CAN spend time in jail for it.
          She has a house. She can be made to pay, if you want to really make her decisions cost her.

          Of course, you also have to decide if she's even worth that much of your time. But definitely file a report against her. Give her a record, even if you can't reclaim the items.

          But try Jester's suggestion to get the info on the people she gave them to, first. Then burn her... bridges.

          ^-.-^
          Faith is about what you do. It's about aspiring to be better and nobler and kinder than you are. It's about making sacrifices for the good of others. - Dresden

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          • #6
            I'm sorry about the items, it's likely that you won't be able to get them back. What you can do is cut her out of your life.
            If she tries a guilt trip don't let her, just leave or hang up. If she threatens suicide tell her to go ahead and leave or hang up. That threat is for drama and you know she won't go through with it.
            How was I supposed to know someone was slipping you Birth Control in the food I've been making for you lately?

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            • #7
              hugs and comforts
              its up to you if you want to pursue this and waste time on her. as you said she lays a guilt trip and threatens suicide...that is your call on dealing with that specifically

              second, would above be worth it or would it be easier to cut all ties with her completely?

              i am angry on your behalf as that is just....no words for it just instant rage.
              Last edited by Midnight12; 04-08-2010, 08:04 PM. Reason: first response was inconsiderate, needed to change

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              • #8
                If you want to make her suffer, report her suicide threat to a mandatory reporter. She'll find herself under psychiatric assessment - and that's not a pleasant situation.

                It will also make it clear to her that threatening suicide is no longer going to work on you - which is the more important part. Do NOT let guilt trips work. Call her on her bluffs.
                Seshat's self-help guide:
                1. Would you rather be right, or get the result you want?
                2. If you're consistently getting results you don't want, change what you do.
                3. Deal with the situation you have now, however it occurred.
                4. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

                "All I want is a pretty girl, a decent meal, and the right to shoot lightning at fools." - Anders, Dragon Age.

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                • #9
                  I like that...use the system to destroy her life! Mandatory snooping, no privacy, maximal inconvenience. THAT is what will get through and really make her miserable.
                  "English is the result of Norman men-at-arms attempting to pick up Saxon barmaids and is no more legitimate than any of the other results."
                  - H. Beam Piper

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