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Will figure out if this needs to be moved until then meh. I apologize for the language
Ok, this has been a long time rant coming and from gathering the facts and making sure before I actually go off on this woman I have to "practice rant here" or at least get this off my chest so that when I do discuss it, its not in blind anger.
I understand MIL has three kids of whom she loves, two having grand kids. I understand you have worked raising three kids and basically worked your arse off most of your life and had many bad things happen to you some traumatic some that still cause anger so that what money you have now is yours to spend. Congrats that you and your spouse have a good hobby with your new pontoon boat (hope i have that right, its a boat with a motor but has those metal air filled things under it and just railing around it this thing only its used and no shade thing that i saw. Good for you that you got the motor fixed however if you don't want repercussions or back talk or even negative response about it when you brag then WHY are you bragging about it or the $6 thou. you casually mention.
Ok if you don't want to hear about what we have to say about it then why mention it or brag about it. DUH. So...my thing is this, KNOWING that if any of your kids EVER ask you for help we ALWAYS pay it back and when we ask its NOT for us but stuff for the grand kids or stuff that we NEED. IE your youngest while busting her behind applying every day in nice clothing in the blistering heat to get a job when not many people are hiring or no better than part time and doing some of the stuff that your lazy ass needs to be doing WHY is it suddenly such a big deal for her to ask without hesitation in adding that her first paycheck will be to pay you back for some help paying her car insurance for the month? ( i have the right to call them lazy their house is an absolute mess! and has been for months. thats another rant i will answer questions on later)
Or better yet why is it any of your damn business if after talking with you she comes to our dad for help instead since all you do is throw excuses or flake anyways.
Why should it matter which parent she goes to, as she is going to pay them back!
And the biggest issue, when hubby and myself come to you for a little help with getting a new car. And we specified new car to us, but used car period. And when we ask for help either a little money or at least have you seen any used cars for sale or point us in the right direction. SPECIFICS!
So yeah, I feel I have the right to b***h about this because any time we have gone to you for help you throw excuses out such as let me get back to you or ask the step dad or deal with him or give me a week and never get back to us so we end up either asking dad for help or breaking into our savings. Trust me i worked hard to save up for a new car and its VERY frustrating when I have to use that to repair a van that should have been sold or left behind ages ago.
Its a big deal to me about the van because of the fact there is no a/c, and its in the middle of summer heat wise here and very unsafe for baby, the car seat has to be strapped down with rope as the car is too old to have it properly secured however the sheriff's office has approved how we have Lisa's car seat done and that she is safe when we drive with her. I could care less if i sweat to soaking however I will not endanger my daughter any more. Yet because of these things alone its difficult to go out for long period even with the windows cracked!
and my last point, I hear one more time "oh but the van has a new engine in it!" I will scream well its been two years that's now the equivalent of a new coat of paint on a rusted holey wagon! almost useless!
Oh trust me, I don't ask much of hubby, I let him come home and vent and relax and do as much work as I can at home while trying to apply for a part time job and make sure someone can watch daughter so I can try and rebuild our lost savings for the car. yeah...and then MIL wonders why we favor dad so much. Maybe because he bends over backwards for us to make sure we have what we need while you....well...no comment. So this fathers day i'm bending over backwards for dad, sucking it up and going to church and dragging hubby with me.
UPDATE: 6/16/10
after going over most of my posts and sitting up for a few hours one night I've come to the conclusion that I feel every time I open my mouth not just at cs.com but in general at home its to either put my foot in it or start something thats going to blow up in my face.
I either make it too complicated or just worse so I've decided I'm going to just lurk and figure things out on my own. Its always some complicated over dramatic internal struggle with me and every time I have a point to prove or argument with someone in life its got to be me wrong. Its not about wrong or right anymore its just me wanting to say stop dumping on me people if you don't want me to fix it. (And I don't take someone venting to me in real life as i must fix it, they say help me fix it and then it goes bad)
Its not about me wanting to prove anything anymore its just me saying stop treating me badly and leave me and my kid alone. So again. I'm sorry for sounding like a whiney b*tch or what have you. I'll just keep my mouth shut. And no its nothing personal with anyone here, I've just had it.
Will figure out if this needs to be moved until then meh. I apologize for the language
Ok, this has been a long time rant coming and from gathering the facts and making sure before I actually go off on this woman I have to "practice rant here" or at least get this off my chest so that when I do discuss it, its not in blind anger.
I understand MIL has three kids of whom she loves, two having grand kids. I understand you have worked raising three kids and basically worked your arse off most of your life and had many bad things happen to you some traumatic some that still cause anger so that what money you have now is yours to spend. Congrats that you and your spouse have a good hobby with your new pontoon boat (hope i have that right, its a boat with a motor but has those metal air filled things under it and just railing around it this thing only its used and no shade thing that i saw. Good for you that you got the motor fixed however if you don't want repercussions or back talk or even negative response about it when you brag then WHY are you bragging about it or the $6 thou. you casually mention.
Ok if you don't want to hear about what we have to say about it then why mention it or brag about it. DUH. So...my thing is this, KNOWING that if any of your kids EVER ask you for help we ALWAYS pay it back and when we ask its NOT for us but stuff for the grand kids or stuff that we NEED. IE your youngest while busting her behind applying every day in nice clothing in the blistering heat to get a job when not many people are hiring or no better than part time and doing some of the stuff that your lazy ass needs to be doing WHY is it suddenly such a big deal for her to ask without hesitation in adding that her first paycheck will be to pay you back for some help paying her car insurance for the month? ( i have the right to call them lazy their house is an absolute mess! and has been for months. thats another rant i will answer questions on later)
Or better yet why is it any of your damn business if after talking with you she comes to our dad for help instead since all you do is throw excuses or flake anyways.
Why should it matter which parent she goes to, as she is going to pay them back!
And the biggest issue, when hubby and myself come to you for a little help with getting a new car. And we specified new car to us, but used car period. And when we ask for help either a little money or at least have you seen any used cars for sale or point us in the right direction. SPECIFICS!
So yeah, I feel I have the right to b***h about this because any time we have gone to you for help you throw excuses out such as let me get back to you or ask the step dad or deal with him or give me a week and never get back to us so we end up either asking dad for help or breaking into our savings. Trust me i worked hard to save up for a new car and its VERY frustrating when I have to use that to repair a van that should have been sold or left behind ages ago.
Its a big deal to me about the van because of the fact there is no a/c, and its in the middle of summer heat wise here and very unsafe for baby, the car seat has to be strapped down with rope as the car is too old to have it properly secured however the sheriff's office has approved how we have Lisa's car seat done and that she is safe when we drive with her. I could care less if i sweat to soaking however I will not endanger my daughter any more. Yet because of these things alone its difficult to go out for long period even with the windows cracked!
and my last point, I hear one more time "oh but the van has a new engine in it!" I will scream well its been two years that's now the equivalent of a new coat of paint on a rusted holey wagon! almost useless!
Oh trust me, I don't ask much of hubby, I let him come home and vent and relax and do as much work as I can at home while trying to apply for a part time job and make sure someone can watch daughter so I can try and rebuild our lost savings for the car. yeah...and then MIL wonders why we favor dad so much. Maybe because he bends over backwards for us to make sure we have what we need while you....well...no comment. So this fathers day i'm bending over backwards for dad, sucking it up and going to church and dragging hubby with me.
UPDATE: 6/16/10
after going over most of my posts and sitting up for a few hours one night I've come to the conclusion that I feel every time I open my mouth not just at cs.com but in general at home its to either put my foot in it or start something thats going to blow up in my face.
I either make it too complicated or just worse so I've decided I'm going to just lurk and figure things out on my own. Its always some complicated over dramatic internal struggle with me and every time I have a point to prove or argument with someone in life its got to be me wrong. Its not about wrong or right anymore its just me wanting to say stop dumping on me people if you don't want me to fix it. (And I don't take someone venting to me in real life as i must fix it, they say help me fix it and then it goes bad)
Its not about me wanting to prove anything anymore its just me saying stop treating me badly and leave me and my kid alone. So again. I'm sorry for sounding like a whiney b*tch or what have you. I'll just keep my mouth shut. And no its nothing personal with anyone here, I've just had it.
We can take it!
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