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Well yesterday I finally got to sit down and talk to my roommate about how I wouldn't be comfortable with his girlfriend (JB) moving in (a conversation I have been trying to have since Sunday, and they threw the situation on us Saturday, but S has kind of been avoiding me) and after initially feeling like a bad person for having to tell him and then tell her (because he couldn't man up and do it himself) that I just couldn't have her move in and all of the reasons why I now just feel angry and hurt.
See now that we won’t let her live here S is going to move out (he will continue to pay rent until we find a replacement) and the two of them are going to get a place. I could see him wanting to do that because he is upset with us (it wasn't just me but I talked to them first as J was in a meeting and I wasn't going to let this conversation get postponed again), that isn't the case, he is moving in with her because she won’t move in with "people she doesn't know”. I tried throwing out ideas, my friend E has a room for rent that is quite affordable, but J didn't even want to talk to her (even though she has met her a few times and they got along rather well), I told them that JF, who is friends with S from doing her student teaching in a classroom right down the hall from S's class and who now works with me, may have managed to get a teaching job very close by and that she was looking for a roommate, but no, JB didn't want to live with her, no more explanation was given. That started to paint a pretty clear picture, especially when I said that I'm just trying to throw out some ideas because I know JB is in a tight spot (she "can't afford" to live on campus anymore and about a week ago put in paper work to get out of her contract but she doesn't have anything lined up, mostly because she didn't consider the fact that we may say no and I have can’t afford in quotes because she doesn’t have a credit card and spends money like crazy so she has the money, it just goes elsewhere) and I asked what can I do to try and help. He said "If you guys really want to help you can just let me go."
Yeah that ain't gonna happen, we can't afford to do that plus you signed a fucking contract, that may not mean much to the two of you but that means something to me and J, I'll be damned if I'm not going to hold you to it until something gets worked out.
Even if we did let him out where the fuck are they going to go? She will find out in a week if her request to be let out of her housing contract with CNU is approved (no clue if S would still want to move out if that gets denied, but if we get someone lined up I think it would be best) and then she has 24 hours to be out (not sure if she actually knows this as she hasn’t even packed anything but she may just be figuring that her roommates will pretend it is theirs until it is all out, she tends to not think of what to do if other people don’t go along with her plan). They haven't looked anywhere and they are going to be hard pressed to find something available this time of year. Not to mention that, to be perfectly honest, her credit score was one of the reasons why J and I didn't feel comfortable with her moving in, if it worried us you can bet that it will worry most leasing agents, coupled with the fact that he is leaving a lease 10 months early they don't make the most desirable tenants. Over the summer she can live with her mom (too far from campus for a commute to work but still in the general area) but what will S do if we find someone before they find a place? Anybody that we line up will surely have a time they need to move by so we can't just let S stay here if it would prevent someone else from being able to live here.
I guess they thought that springing it on us after she had already put in the paper work and her sitting right there looking all pathetic would force our hand, and we did initially said “I guess so” but that mean we would consider it, I’m not going to add someone to my lease without having a very long conversation with them, and that changed less than 24 hours later (okay well about 4 hours later when J and I talked but I didn’t try to call S and then send a text6 saying that we need to sit down and talk one on one until the next day) to a very firm no. But now they are trying to make us feel like we are the ones who have somehow put her in a worse situation than she was in. We asked them what has changed in three days that her situation is worse now. They were very confused by this so we clarified if we had said no as soon as they asked what they had planned to do. S switched the topic pretty damn fast. I just hate that they are acting like spoiled children about this. We didn't give them exactly what they want so now everyone is in a bad spot. They aren't even willing to consider anything other than living together and they have been dating for less than a six months (yet another reason we weren't comfortable with her as a roommate, especially since this is a two bedroom with no space that could be converted to a bedroom, unless she wants to live in the storage room outside with no heat or A/C) and they are both pissed that once J and I were given a chance to think about it we both realized it would be a massive mistake to let her move in.
Oh and the cherry on top of this sunday of suck is the fact that this morning S called JF (yeah the same JF that JB "wouldn't" live with
) and asked if she wanted to move in with him and "his girlfriend" (the wording is important) because his roommate were being hostile to them so they were looking for a new place. Too bad for them that she already new the situation and turn them down because she wasn't comfortable moving in with them because he had been dating JB for only a couple of months. They hadn't talked since her student teaching was over, back in December so he never could have told her JB's name or when they started dating, it dawned on him that OMG I may actually talk to some one who I see every god damn day and who I am rather good friends with. She could have told him that she got a job offer up in northern Va (which is true, she decided today to accept it, no matter what offers she gets in this area) but she wanted him to know that she knew and to make him feel like the dick that he has turned into.
(Side note: I love JF, she is awesome, I will miss her when she moves.)
See now that we won’t let her live here S is going to move out (he will continue to pay rent until we find a replacement) and the two of them are going to get a place. I could see him wanting to do that because he is upset with us (it wasn't just me but I talked to them first as J was in a meeting and I wasn't going to let this conversation get postponed again), that isn't the case, he is moving in with her because she won’t move in with "people she doesn't know”. I tried throwing out ideas, my friend E has a room for rent that is quite affordable, but J didn't even want to talk to her (even though she has met her a few times and they got along rather well), I told them that JF, who is friends with S from doing her student teaching in a classroom right down the hall from S's class and who now works with me, may have managed to get a teaching job very close by and that she was looking for a roommate, but no, JB didn't want to live with her, no more explanation was given. That started to paint a pretty clear picture, especially when I said that I'm just trying to throw out some ideas because I know JB is in a tight spot (she "can't afford" to live on campus anymore and about a week ago put in paper work to get out of her contract but she doesn't have anything lined up, mostly because she didn't consider the fact that we may say no and I have can’t afford in quotes because she doesn’t have a credit card and spends money like crazy so she has the money, it just goes elsewhere) and I asked what can I do to try and help. He said "If you guys really want to help you can just let me go."
Yeah that ain't gonna happen, we can't afford to do that plus you signed a fucking contract, that may not mean much to the two of you but that means something to me and J, I'll be damned if I'm not going to hold you to it until something gets worked out.
Even if we did let him out where the fuck are they going to go? She will find out in a week if her request to be let out of her housing contract with CNU is approved (no clue if S would still want to move out if that gets denied, but if we get someone lined up I think it would be best) and then she has 24 hours to be out (not sure if she actually knows this as she hasn’t even packed anything but she may just be figuring that her roommates will pretend it is theirs until it is all out, she tends to not think of what to do if other people don’t go along with her plan). They haven't looked anywhere and they are going to be hard pressed to find something available this time of year. Not to mention that, to be perfectly honest, her credit score was one of the reasons why J and I didn't feel comfortable with her moving in, if it worried us you can bet that it will worry most leasing agents, coupled with the fact that he is leaving a lease 10 months early they don't make the most desirable tenants. Over the summer she can live with her mom (too far from campus for a commute to work but still in the general area) but what will S do if we find someone before they find a place? Anybody that we line up will surely have a time they need to move by so we can't just let S stay here if it would prevent someone else from being able to live here.
I guess they thought that springing it on us after she had already put in the paper work and her sitting right there looking all pathetic would force our hand, and we did initially said “I guess so” but that mean we would consider it, I’m not going to add someone to my lease without having a very long conversation with them, and that changed less than 24 hours later (okay well about 4 hours later when J and I talked but I didn’t try to call S and then send a text6 saying that we need to sit down and talk one on one until the next day) to a very firm no. But now they are trying to make us feel like we are the ones who have somehow put her in a worse situation than she was in. We asked them what has changed in three days that her situation is worse now. They were very confused by this so we clarified if we had said no as soon as they asked what they had planned to do. S switched the topic pretty damn fast. I just hate that they are acting like spoiled children about this. We didn't give them exactly what they want so now everyone is in a bad spot. They aren't even willing to consider anything other than living together and they have been dating for less than a six months (yet another reason we weren't comfortable with her as a roommate, especially since this is a two bedroom with no space that could be converted to a bedroom, unless she wants to live in the storage room outside with no heat or A/C) and they are both pissed that once J and I were given a chance to think about it we both realized it would be a massive mistake to let her move in.
Oh and the cherry on top of this sunday of suck is the fact that this morning S called JF (yeah the same JF that JB "wouldn't" live with
) and asked if she wanted to move in with him and "his girlfriend" (the wording is important) because his roommate were being hostile to them so they were looking for a new place. Too bad for them that she already new the situation and turn them down because she wasn't comfortable moving in with them because he had been dating JB for only a couple of months. They hadn't talked since her student teaching was over, back in December so he never could have told her JB's name or when they started dating, it dawned on him that OMG I may actually talk to some one who I see every god damn day and who I am rather good friends with. She could have told him that she got a job offer up in northern Va (which is true, she decided today to accept it, no matter what offers she gets in this area) but she wanted him to know that she knew and to make him feel like the dick that he has turned into.(Side note: I love JF, she is awesome, I will miss her when she moves.)
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