Dating/Girl Horror Stories....

[Eisa]

Oh god...the idiot called today while I was gone...he wants to know if I'm going to his halloween party...and my mum said maybe. So he's going to call back later when I'm home. I'm not answering the phone, and if hubby has to, death will occur.
She's the reason I'm not over anything yet...I was so glad when we moved out of here the first time, and now that we're back, I'm having panic attacks and flashbacks on a weekly basis.
When you guys come and get rid of King Idiot number 1, could you kind of like lecture my mum on "Hey don't tell the raper that your daughter will go to his party" because you know, that's kind of a bad idea to do.

Oh Gawd, that sounds like something my mom would do. She doesn't understand why I'm so mad at my ex and why I hate him. [Even though she knows what happened.] She's all like, "Well, yeah, but hate is such a strong emotion, you shouldn't hate him." Ok, what is wrong with you again, Mother?

*hugs*

[Victory Sabre]

I'll also agree with the others, bardicwench, you're very pretty, and anyone who says otherwise is on something.

Here's another "wonderful" dating story of mine.

I knew her from her sister (who is an awesome friend). When she was 21 I started seeing her in bars. She kinda wanted me when she was younger, but she was underage at the time, and I wasn't going to get involved with jailbait. Now that she was older I got interested in her even though she gained weight.

For several months I didn't see her when I went out, till sometime that summer when I saw her again. She lost A LOT of weight, and still looked good. We got close. I totally liked her, and loved her, because she liked me and told me she loved me.

I found out what caused her weight loss: she was using meth

I still stuck with her to try to help her get off the shit. I cared about her. We were on again off again for a few years. Finally we were off, and I never saw her again, because she's in prison for selling that shit.

I should have gotten away from her as soon as I found out, I know that now. I believed a pysco bitch who told me "a drug addict was the best that i could do", and I thought that it would work out.

I hope that when she gets out that she does not try to contact me, because I have no desire to talk to her, or see her again, because of the pain she caused me.

I may be single, at this time, but I KNOW that I can do better.

There's a lot more to the story, but, this is the quick version.

[zombiequeen]

Oh Gawd, that sounds like something my mom would do. She doesn't understand why I'm so mad at my ex and why I hate him. [Even though she knows what happened.] She's all like, "Well, yeah, but hate is such a strong emotion, you shouldn't hate him." Ok, what is wrong with you again, Mother?

*hugs*

Yeah my mum is doing the whole "You made it up, you're an attention whore, and if it did happen it's your fault." She also thinks that because the guy is my brother's friend, I should be his friend and just forget it all.

[Victory Sabre]

Yeah my mum is doing the whole "You made it up, you're an attention whore, and if it did happen it's your fault." She also thinks that because the guy is my brother's friend, I should be his friend and just forget it all.

There are some things that should never be forgiven or forgotten.

[zombiequeen]

Yeah, and I understand the philosophy of "Love the sinner, hate the sin" but there are things people do that make love no longer possible. I don't cry myself to sleep every night anymore, but if the guy shows up again, hubby has made it crystal clear what will happen.
All I can do right now is let people know that yeah, stuff happens and you'll get blamed for it. All you can do is find a way to get over it (which is super hard) and then tell others, warn them so that everyone knows. When everyone knows, it becomes less of a negative.
Well, social negative for the victim of it. It will never become less negative, but maybe we won't get blamed for what others do to us.

[Wenchie]

I'll also agree with the others, bardicwench, you're very pretty, and anyone who says otherwise is on something.

Thank you, though I wasn't fishing for compliments by posting the story, I hope people know. It's just something to explain why I am who I am.

I may be single, at this time, but I KNOW that I can do better.

*hugs* Yes you can.

There are some things that should never be forgiven or forgotten.

Very true. You can try to get over things are much as they can, but they're still in your history and part of you. And there are some people who you can never deal with again after they've hurt you and betrayed your trust.

[Victory Sabre]

Thank you, though I wasn't fishing for compliments by posting the story, I hope people know. It's just something to explain why I am who I am.

I know you weren't, but I thought I'd say it anyway.

Damn honesty.

[Wenchie]

I know you weren't, but I thought I'd say it anyway.

Damn honesty.

Thanks hon. *huggles*

[Mytical]

It would lead into fratching if I posted what I thought about anybody (male or female) who doesn't take no for an answer..so I won't.

All I can say to those that have went through that, is I am sorry you had to go through that. Nobody should ever have to go through that. *hugs to all*

[Eisa]

Post it on Fratching then, Mytical? *perks up, interested*

My mom pulled that on me, too. Only she acted like I shouldn't even hate the sin. WTF. She's...an evil, evil bitch, I guess you could say.

*burrows into nest of blankets and peeps out*

[Mouse]

Yeah my mum is doing the whole "You made it up, you're an attention whore, and if it did happen it's your fault." She also thinks that because the guy is my brother's friend, I should be his friend and just forget it all.

I never thought i'd hear a valid reason to tell ones own mother to take a flying fuck, but there it is O.O

[Kaylyn]

I once met a guy through a dating site. He was...okay. Kinda boring. Paid more attention to his cat than to me when we would hang out at his house.

We never had sex. Sex has always been a big deal for me. For the longest time I believed in waiting for marriage. By this time I had grown out of that idea, though I've never been the casual sex type of person. We didn't date for very long, less than a month. He was still technically married, but separated and in the process of getting a divorce.

We're chatting one night. He asked me if I had started calling him my boyfriend. I told him I had, because it was a hell of a lot easier than saying, "this guy I'm dating." He smiled and said, "Good. I'm only worried about one thing now."

"What's that?"

"Unplanned pregnancy."

*screech* "Whoa. Not anywhere near ready for that."

"Oh, okay."

Which would have been fine, if he hadn't started getting VERY insistent about wanting to go there. Sorry, but if I say I'm not ready, then I'm NOT ready. I will let you know WHEN I am ready. In a situation such as this, it's generally accepted that you go at the pace of the person who wants to take it slowest. I called him on his pushiness and said, "If you're not going to respect the way I feel about this, then I'm not seeing you again."

He got pushy again, and I ended it. He had the nerve to get angry with me about it. I told him I'd warned him, and he'd pushed me again, and that was it.

He called me at work the day his divorce was final to ask me out again, as if the fact that he was still married was what was drove me away, or possibly was what made me uneasy about wanting to go to bed with him. I shot him down and he sounded so dejected.

I never led him on to think I was going to hop into bed with him so quickly. And if I'd gotten the signal that that was what he wanted from the first date, I wouldn't have let it continue.

(Note: I'm not judging anyone who is more free with their sexuality. It's just not the way I roll, personally.)

[zombiequeen]

Post it on Fratching then, Mytical? *perks up, interested*

My mom pulled that on me, too. Only she acted like I shouldn't even hate the sin. WTF. She's...an evil, evil bitch, I guess you could say.

*burrows into nest of blankets and peeps out*

Awwww.....*hugs*
Yeah my mum knows better than that, she mentioned something like it not being so wrong once and my husband (at the time he was my fiance) went and told me to start packing my stuff, because he had proof my mum didn't respect me. She decided that ok, either don't share what you really think, or don't share it with him.
I wonder if maybe our mums are going behind our backs and plotting against us...I heard mine mention last night to my dad she wished I would have dated [evil dude] before I got married.
Here, here's more blankets to hide in, and a stuffed animal *hands over* I might join you in hiding if mum keeps up with her usual bitchiness.

[cewfa]

I set my facebook status to honor my most recent horror story in this thread to the following:

To all my adoring, crazy, jealous type lady admirers: I just saw a blond headed member of your species....I mean gender that had pretty decent T and A. Mostly A, but fairly decent T as well. I just thought I would let you girls know that I noticed another one of your species...I mean gender. Love, xoxo, Your Favorite Player.

Yes, I am an evil bastard, why do you ask.

[Eisa]

Awwww.....*hugs*
Yeah my mum knows better than that, she mentioned something like it not being so wrong once and my husband (at the time he was my fiance) went and told me to start packing my stuff, because he had proof my mum didn't respect me. She decided that ok, either don't share what you really think, or don't share it with him.
I wonder if maybe our mums are going behind our backs and plotting against us...I heard mine mention last night to my dad she wished I would have dated [evil dude] before I got married.
Here, here's more blankets to hide in, and a stuffed animal *hands over* I might join you in hiding if mum keeps up with her usual bitchiness.

*hugs* Thank you! *cuddles stuffed animal* You're welcome to join me, it's quite comfy.

Good for your husband! My bf would insult/call my parents out/bad bad things for the stuff they've done. He DID manage to call my mom an idiot without her realizing it for her not standing up for me one time. It was awesome.

I think they are plotting behind our backs, it would make total sense. I'm just glad my mother has/had no way of contacting my ex, as I'm sure she actually would have. Might even have tried to get us back together. [Kind of personal, but you know the biggest reason she was upset about what he did? The fact it was my 'first time.' Not that he did it in the first place. But that it was my first time. Oh, and that we weren't married. Gee whiz, Mom, I'm sorry, you're right, I'll go marry my rapist first, thanks... ]