Dating/Girl Horror Stories....

[Jester]

Seriously! I've been called a number of things, crazy included, and sometimes I wonder if its true. Then I remember there are bitches like this in the world.

All women are crazy. It's just that not all of them are psychotic like that one!

[Becks]

All women are crazy. It's just that not all of them are psychotic like that one!

That's true.

I am crazy, I admit.

I can't wrap my head around, or get the hang of, psychotic.

[zombiequeen]

I make redheads look both sane and tame. But...I'm not some super-psychotic freak that will follow you and stuff...that's creepy.

[dalesys]

All women are crazy. It's just that not all of them are psychotic like that one!

Whereas us men are simple-y nutz.

[Whiskey]

Whereas us men are simple

QFT

[Andara Bledin]

I honestly believe she wasn't crazy, as in crazy with a mental disorder. There was no amount of therapy or drugs that could correct her. She was just Evil, and not in the good sexy way.

Oh, no, it is a mental issue. Not all mental issues can be corrected. Some just have to do with the way the brain is wired and are what they are.

Of course, it could have been that the woman had no soul and was just trying to eat FARchivist's once she got her hands on it... >_>

All women are crazy. It's just that not all of them are psychotic like that one!

I ... have no rebuttal to this.

^-.-^

[AdamaGeist]

Sadly, I'm not a known regular here, so this is a story from a stranger. Still, talking helps to vent and I hope my story qualifies as a bad relationship thing. Lastly, this will ramble a bit. It's an on-the-fly kinda thing, so...

I started dating the girl, my first girlfriend ever, when I was in my early twenties. Overweight in high-school, reclusive gamer, emotional issues, I was not dating material in my teens, but at least I knew it at the time.

But a pair of my high-school friends (Twins. This comes in later.) were Assistant managers at a KFC in my former home town, and as all my friends lived there, I'd come from an hour away (Was living with my father at the time. Working full-time night shifts, looking for an apartment) to visit with people and game with the group.

One of the people that worked there was this cute tiny blond girl. Found her to be rather attractive, and on valentines day I worked up the nerve to ask her out. Things pretty much went well... I was mildly broke, but I'd make the time to drive and see her when I could, and called her of nights pretty often.

But there were warning signs. Like her referring to taking someone else at her work on a pity date, and odd dreams she had about my twin friends. Yeah. I didn't think things were THAT bad, but...

Turns out my friends were not as adverse to dating within their own workplaces as I was expecting them to be. Or to taking a girl away from a friend. I get to find this out when she calls and dumps me one night. Her best friend had started dating one of the twins, so she decided to date the other. Only a few months after she'd started dating me. But in her own words, "Well, I did say I was attracted to them, so you had to expect something like this."

Almost a year after I first asked her out, I get a call from her. We meet, I help her move in to her new duplex. She'd still dating my friend, and I get to remember the exact date it was when she pointed out I'd have to go before it gets too late, because he was picking her up for dinner. It was valentine's day, after all.

Of course, before I left, she did ask if I'd like to move in with her...

(I'm actually leaving out a few details, but it's been about ten years since then, and it's still a semi-sore spot for me.)

I don't hear from her again. A few months later, I hear that she and my somewhat former friend had broken up. A month after that, I get a call...

It's her new roommate. Apparently she'd been arrested for solicitation. Somewhere between when I last saw her and then, she'd gone from being AM at a KFC to being a waitress at a strip club, and got arrested by an undercover cop. I was apparently in her address book as someone to call in an emergency. I apologized for being unable to help make bail for her, told her to call the girl's more recent ex, and once the phone was hung up I laughed my ass off, pounding my fist into the floor.

Wasn't my best moment, but honestly? I still think I did the right thing.

[Jester]

Whereas us men are simple-y nutz.

No, we're not nuts. We're just stupid.

I have said it before, but I'll say it again. The Universal Law of the Sexes is very wimple:

All men are stupid.
All women are insane.
There are no exceptions.

Wasn't my best moment, but honestly? I still think I did the right thing.

Absolutely. After all, why would you make bail for a cheating ho bag who used and abused you?

[blas]

I would have laughed my ass off, too. Probably would have soiled myself or gotten ill from laughing too hard and too long.

[KiaKat]

No, we're not nuts. We're just stupid.

I have said it before, but I'll say it again. The Universal Law of the Sexes is very wimple:

All men are stupid.
All women are insane.
There are no exceptions.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P03pqoBf-Xg

Yup.

[Amethyst Hunter]

Whaaaaa? How? How can an organ being gone fail?

It's as NSI said, two different surgeries.

Hysterectomy is great but for the tubes/ovaries still being there: one loose egg plus one stray sperm, you've got a serious problem. (Ectopic pregnancy WILL kill you if left to progress; death from organs rupturing and internal bleeding is why any female with even a shred of plumbing left is still cautioned to take care with personal matters, no matter how small or great the risk.)

Tubal ligation is great but for the (very slight) risk of the tubes *growing back*. (Rare, but it can happen) Again, one stray sperm is all it takes, and you're somewhere you don't want to be without a paddle.

There is also endometrial ablation (they basically use a probe to cook the inside of the uterus so your periods go away - I'm currently looking into having this done myself), but again, there's a slight risk the lining might grow back. And if the garden has enough soil and gets watered...!

Basically, any form of surgical sterilization will still give you great protection against unwanted pregnancy - just be aware that there is a small risk of failure involved and have a plan in place to handle that just-in-case scenario, whatever you decide to do.

[bsaana]

After reading all those, I feel bad I can't really contribute (although I did read some where I would like to do something about some evil people....).

I only went out with 1 person, met her at the McDonalds we both worked at when she was 15 and I was 16. We've been married 9 years now. In a way I'm glad I haven't dealt with the psychos much (my wife is crazy enough for me).

[Seshat]

Whaaaaa? How? How can an organ being gone fail? I need to know these things, I'm supposed to get that done!

As Amethyst Hunter said, a hysterectomy doesn't necessarily include removal of the ovaries and fallopian tubes - find out if that's the plan for yours, and be prepared for the risk of ectopic pregnancy if it doesn't.

Also, sometimes they do a hysterectomy that leaves the tip of the cervix there. The cervix has a little bit of uterus surface, and thus uterine lining, and an egg can embed in that. Of course, that's also a 'pregnancy' that's doomed to fail, just as an ectopic pregnancy is, but it's another possibly way to get pregnant (though not viably pregnant) despite a hysterectomy.

Now, if they take out the ovaries, it'd take an Act of God for you to become pregnant.

That's true.

I am crazy, I admit.

I can't wrap my head around, or get the hang of, psychotic.

The most important element about understanding psychosis is delusion. As an example, I have a persistent delusion that I'm worthless, useless, and a burden on everyone. It doesn't matter what evidence is offered, it doesn't matter what assurances I get - as soon as I get depressed, I KNOW that as an absolute FACT. The rest of my world ends up built around that "fact".

(A great deal of my training in becoming emotionally healthy has been recognising that I can't trust that 'fact' to be actually true; and figuring out how to construct a world-view that accepts that I have delusions.)

Not everyone who is delusional is psychotic. And probably not everyone who's psychotic is delusional. But if you can figure out their core delusion/s, a lot of psychotic behaviour can be understood.

[Eisa]

^Seshat, I'm not the only one? As soon as I get depressed, I feel like that, too. That sorry, it is a fact I'm a worthless human being. And people tell me that I'm not and point out how strong I am and do this and that and the other thing...and until I'm out of that depressive hole, I CANNOT believe them. I try...I want to believe...but my mind throws up all the reasons it's not true or the reasons why they don't know me, they don't know the REAL me, they don't know all the things I've done or the problems I've caused...

...conveniently forgetting, of course, that even though I've done bad things, so has everyone, and at least I'm remorseful and repentant about mine. And they don't outweigh all the good things.

It's hard to remember that, even during my good episodes.

[zombiequeen]

First off, I'm not sure what the doctor wants, it's either cut everything out because I'm super sick, or something else. She thinks it might be the first one though.
I understand with the depression and how it makes people go psycho though, I keep freaking out because I'm hearing voices, and I know it's bothering my husband because he can't get me to calm down...but I can't, and so on.