Fear me for I am the destroyer of dreams and crusher of hopes

[shankyknitter]

So off to a "date". I just want to let the guy down gently since I'm not interested. Hell doing it in person is to avoid friend drama as my friend is this guy's housemate. Friend is also in trouble for trying to set me up with a guy he knew I wouldn't be interested in. Sucky thing is this guy is really sweet and nice ect... but just not someone I'm interested in. However he's interested in me. Hence the whole destroyer of dreams and crusher of hopes bit.

Here's to hoping this gets resolved with as little friend drama as possible. Wish me luck?

[Midnight12]

suggest the whole not using the lets be friends or its me not you lines
but instead say you REALLY are nice and sweet ( and other good qualities) and that those are awesome qualities but our interests don't match and i am very sorry but i don't think it would work.

the though of using not interested but that may be mean sounding too. or go with what you think best?

[shankyknitter]

That... could have gone better. I attempted all the nice ways of saying 'No'. My ace in the hole to make him uninterested backfired (In an epic fashion- I rolled a 1 on that saving throw). I told him in no uncertain terms that I was not interested.

He's texting me about a second date. 5 minutes after I left the bar we were at.

[ArcticChicken]

He's texting me about a second date. 5 minutes after I left the bar we were at.

Oh, dear, that is not good.

[Eireann]

Guy just can't take "no" for an answer. Don't answer any attempts to communicate with you; don't let him involve your friend in the little drama; just cut the association off and don't respond to him. It's the best way.

[Whiskey]

He's texting me about a second date. 5 minutes after I left the bar we were at.

Him: hey want to go out on a second date
You: No.
Him: Why?
You: No.
Him: But why?
You: NO.


leave no room for confusion. Don't give him ANYTHING that can be twisted into "Oh if X wasnt happening she'd totally go out with me."

[teh_blumchenkinder]

... I have to agree with Whiskey. Leave no room, say no other words than "No I will not go out with you."
... I've tried other ways. Man/=/ Woman in regards to words. The shorter the better. Don't try to explain yourself further. It'll just confuse the man.
... That hurt to say, 'cuz I refuse to believe guys can be stupid.

[BlaqueKatt]

and remember "No." is a complete sentence.

[Green_Fairy]

maybe if he doesn't listen, talk to your friend that he lives with and be all "hey tell him to back off!" or something maybe?

[lordlundar]

... That hurt to say, 'cuz I refuse to believe guys can be stupid.

heck, I'm a guy and I'll say that guys can imitate bloody monkeys depending on the situation.

[Mytical]

Yes, guys can be dense, and slow. Most of us probably should even ride the short bus, but that doesn't excuse anything.

[shankyknitter]

thanks guys. So far not responding to text messages seems to be getting the message across. At least he hasn't messeged me in the last couple days. I'd been telling him no whenever he messeged me looking for another date but I don't think the point was getting across. I think he was taking the 'no' to mean 'not that place/day/time' and not 'no. not ever'. So I finally stopped responding.

Though if he messeges me again I'm telling him I'm a bi-sexual poly Domme with one male sub and in negotiations with a female sub and don't have room in my happy little family for another person. We'll see if that works

[Whiskey]

That will backfire tremwndously

[ArcticChicken]

How about "I am not going out with you. Ever. If you continue to contact me I will be forced to go to the police."

[shankyknitter]

That will backfire tremwndously

you cursed me Whiskey! That line has worked on everyone else. Apparently my determined new suitor is a poly sub who hasn't found a Domme in a year and a half.