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So I had kind of a weird (to me) encounter last night that I figured I'd run by here.
There's a nice little pizza joint in town that's run by an Italian family, the real deal. They're pretty nice folks and we remember each other from when I was down here the first time around. The head of the group is probably 60 - 70-something old, and likes to hug/kiss all the women that come in. Really likes to. Normally I'd be used to this, since I've dealt with it before. Maybe it's just me, but it kind of felt...different, last night. Allow me to asplain.
So I order a pizza last night and he comes over to me and he's all nice and stuff, like he usually is. And I know that the whole touchy-feely thing comes naturally to Italians. But to me, last night, it just kind of almost felt like he was hitting on me. (Though I can't say for sure as nothing he did was truly inappropriate - no trying to grab-ass or anything like that. Also, my ability to accurately interpret social cues is made of Fail. I am, depending on whom you talk to, a social reject or a feral beast. Personally I lean towards feral as I like hissing at things that displease me.
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But anyhoo. I am VERY picky about being touched. Doesn't matter if it's a stranger or family member. Hugs, I'm fine with. Pats on the shoulder or back, whatever, that's ok too. But the whole getting-up-close with the face-kissing and all...that...kinda bothers me. Even with family members, if someone tries to kiss me on the face, I do a duck-and-cover thing where I tuck my head in under and they can't get at my face.
I should also mention that it bothers me more with guys than it does if women do it. Yeah, I don't deal well with male attentions. Long story. *shrug*
So, poll time: Is this just an Italian quirk and my radar is on the fritz? Or do I have a point in being weirded out by the excess of physical expressions?
There's a nice little pizza joint in town that's run by an Italian family, the real deal. They're pretty nice folks and we remember each other from when I was down here the first time around. The head of the group is probably 60 - 70-something old, and likes to hug/kiss all the women that come in. Really likes to. Normally I'd be used to this, since I've dealt with it before. Maybe it's just me, but it kind of felt...different, last night. Allow me to asplain.
So I order a pizza last night and he comes over to me and he's all nice and stuff, like he usually is. And I know that the whole touchy-feely thing comes naturally to Italians. But to me, last night, it just kind of almost felt like he was hitting on me. (Though I can't say for sure as nothing he did was truly inappropriate - no trying to grab-ass or anything like that. Also, my ability to accurately interpret social cues is made of Fail. I am, depending on whom you talk to, a social reject or a feral beast. Personally I lean towards feral as I like hissing at things that displease me.
)But anyhoo. I am VERY picky about being touched. Doesn't matter if it's a stranger or family member. Hugs, I'm fine with. Pats on the shoulder or back, whatever, that's ok too. But the whole getting-up-close with the face-kissing and all...that...kinda bothers me. Even with family members, if someone tries to kiss me on the face, I do a duck-and-cover thing where I tuck my head in under and they can't get at my face.
I should also mention that it bothers me more with guys than it does if women do it. Yeah, I don't deal well with male attentions. Long story. *shrug*
So, poll time: Is this just an Italian quirk and my radar is on the fritz? Or do I have a point in being weirded out by the excess of physical expressions?
when people walk around in sandals with socks. In some cultures they do the cheek kiss greeting one or two times..shit even three.
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