Kara: An Abridged History of Truth and Loss (Epic Length)

[KiaKat]

Kara, your stories are one of the reasons I originally joined CS (rather than just lurking). You have a wonderful way with words and expression, and an absolutely florid vocabulary that you put to good use.

In regards to being TS - you're one of half a dozen people I know who are TS/IS, either openly or mostly-stealth, and I have a ton of resources. If you want me to connect you to a few, I will happily do so. Toss me a PM if you want any.

[Amethyst Hunter]

Will keep you in my thoughts, Kara. *offers *

[Seshat]

I can get friends to pass on resource URLs, too.

I agree that it sounds like your son is high functioning autism spectrum, OR something that is somehow similar.

[DeltaSierra]

Kara, how could anybody hate you for being who you are? This isn't just a "fly-by-night" thing you up and decided, after all you have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with others. Add my *HUGS*, support, and a listening ear to your list, and I hope that everything works out and sunnier days are not far off.

[Plaidman]

Qauddriple on the resources. I know a dozen or so, bulk that are transexual however. (There is a difference, even if it doesn't seem like it).

[telecom_goddess]

First off I know how hard it can be to admit that you are TS ....even in this so called progressive day and age. I admire people who can admit it and it's even better if you can find the means to correct your body if that's what you want to do.

As for the family situation I hope it works out.....how is your wife going to be once it's over? And who in the hell reported this in the first place?

[JustaCashier]

Hate?

When there are 20 replies of love, understanding and support, in just over twelve hours?

Hate?

Naw, I don't think so.

I can't really add anything to what has already been said, Kara, but hang in there, and know that there are a lot of people here that care.

Mike

[Eisa]

I don't hate you. Not at all.

Also, wow, really, police and CPS? Jump on her cuz she tried to stop her kid from hurting himself...completely ignore my parents when they would hit me so hard instant bruises form. Yeah, thanks, guys. Granted, that was in Montana, but...nice.

I hope it all gets cleared up. I think you are now the third transperson I for sure know. You ARE a girl.

[trailerparkmedic]

I'm so sorry to hear about the crap the cops are putting you through.

As for being transgender? You're the first person I've met that is open about it and it doesn't change a thing. I'm so sad that the religion you were raised in didn't accept it, and I'm happy for you that you've made peace with who you are.

[fireheart]

Kara, I don't know any TS people before you, but I'll say this: as long as you can continue to throw verbal swords towards your prisoners, it really doesn't make a difference to me whether you're male, female, both etc.

In the meantime though, *sends you hugs and Anzac cookies*

[BookstoreEscapee]

I said in chat that it was 'unlikely' that anyone was going to hate you, and I guess I was right.

Hope everything gets sorted out soon.

[Mishi]

I hope everything works out well and that you get your family back. It's very unfair that this has happened, but it's great that you're getting positive counselling. Hopefully the judge will take that into consideration. So you are a girl after all! As everyone else said, it's the inside that counts, not the outward appearance.

[42_42_42]

Kara,

I am flabbergasted at what the stupid authorities are putting you and your family through. Have they ever said who reported abuse in the first place? The whole thing just doesn't make any sense.

I used to have fits when I was a kid, heck even as an adult I've thrown a few temper tantrums, with me it was always when I was just too stressed out, I'd reach my limit and when I was pushed over it, I'd flip out. When I was 22 I was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder...basically all those temper tantrums were really anxiety attacks, yes, kids can have anxiety attacks. That could be what's up w/ your son. If it is, he has my totally sympathy and understanding, it's hard enough to deal w/ stress as an adult, kids don't really have the tools do that yet.

I hope you see by my response and those of others here how much we love you just as you are. We're here for you!

Hugs,
42_42_42

PS - I never had any inkling that you were anything other than a girl and, honestly, I still think of you as a girl and will continue to do so.

[Cat]

Hang in there Kara...I hope everything works out for the best.

[Mr. Anubite]

That's the thing. I was really confused and caught off guard when the detective talked to me. I said he was having one of his fits, but didn't go into detail about him hitting himself. I don't know why, it just didn't occur to me to say anything about it. I don't think it would have made a difference though. So right now, none of my accusers know about this, mainly because they never bothered to clarify.

Ah. That may be something that you would want to clarify. Any rational person would understand that you can't allow your son to injure himself, even if that means having to physically restrain/stop him.