Kara: An Abridged History of Truth and Loss (Epic Length)

[Barefootgirl]

Oh boy, Kara, what a saga, and what a crappy place for you to be right now. I don't have anything to add beyond what the others have said. I don't hate you in the least, you're one of my longest-standing friends on this board and I don't think I COULD hate you. You're a lovely person.

Stay strong.

[Treasure]

Kara - Adding my wishes for a speedy and positive outcome to this mess.

Others - many of you have asked "who reported it?" well, I know here in TX its supposed to be kept anonymous - it could've been a teacher (not one of the kids regular teachers, even could have been a sub) who asked "little Johnny" how was your morning to which the answer was - "Daddy(mama Kara) kicked me".... It could've been a parent in the car behind them who saw Kara put her arm out to stop the daughter from antagonizing her brothers - the driver can't guess force, doesn't know the whole situation....

The only way for Kara to find out is a demand to confront her accuser - (4th amendment) but the Police and CPS/DFS (child protective services/department of family services) can claim they are the accuser - even though they are operating on behalf of the person who reported it.....

Kara, wishing you the best of luck. please keep us updated.

[RootedPhoenix]

I don't have anything but hugs for you. I can't claim to understand everything, but I feel for you.

*hugs and cookies*

[Mikkel]

I am one of those who has always thought you were a (very tough) girl. I even retold some of your stories to my daughter, when she was thinking of applying for a job in a prison (to encourage her, that is ).
I really hope your troubles will be over soon.
Hate you? For being born in the wrong body? That's not your fault at all. I admire you for having the courage to tell us about it.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Juuuust gonna leave these here...

[Ben_Who]

Kara:

Can I just take a moment to thank you for being the bravest person I've ever met? All right, then.

Love, Who?

[Taboo]

(big hugs)

Everything I'd like to say has already been said more eloquently than I could put it. I was just a lurker when you were really active here, so you don't really know me anyway. All I can really say is that I wish you the best of luck as well and a quick resolution to all of this drama so that you can get on with your life. You sound like an incredibly strong woman and I'm sure you're going to come out of this fine, as much as all of it sucks right now.

Also seconding or thirding that you should bring up your kid's behavioral issues. Perhaps also something to look into therapy for, at least to consult someone. It does sound like something that might be benefited by therapy.

[Kara]

Juuuust gonna leave these here...

Thanks. These were MUCH needed this evening.

Went to court this afternoon and got the continuance. Next date is scheduled for Feb 7th. Sigh, at least another month of this.

Came back to my house at 6pm for the first time in almost a month. Nothing could have prepared me for how awful and lonely it is here. Those of you who were in chat at the time know I wasn't taking it well. Not that I'm all sunshine and rainbows now, but I'm in a more stable condition at the moment. The emptiness is unbearable. Not like, just the material things that are missing, but the presence of the family is gone. There are traces of it, here and there, but for the most part it is gone. But I have a very sweet lovable border collie to keep me company (who is also very confused and lonely without the kids - she keeps going to their rooms looking for them), plus 2 bunnies and a chinchilla. So there is at least some small comfort to be found here still.

So now I get to try to move forward. I will, I have to. I'm not letting them tear my family up just because someone decided they have the authority to do so. I just want this over with, so we can be a family again.

Honestly, I don't even want to be in this house right now, not like this. But someone has to take care of it so I will. Not going to be easy sleeping the next couple of days, thankfully I'm on my weekend and don't go back to work until Thursday.

[cinema guy]

The legal system is incredibly frustrating and slow sometimes.

I too thought you were a woman. I hope things work out for you in a speedy and positive fashion.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Not that I'm all sunshine and rainbows now, but I'm in a more stable condition at the moment.

I'm glad to see that, at least.

[Andara Bledin]

Knew this would be a heavy thread...

First, gonna leave more here... Always useful.

Next, I'm gonna put in my oar.

Do what you can (or what your wife can) to see about getting your son diagnosed. Whether it's some form of autism or anxiety (you called out for a panic attack, yourself) or something else, the self-abuse is likely adding to this mess and needs to be documented to protect everybody involved.

Otherwise, do your best to keep on keeping on. We're all rooting for you.

Also, your text voice is very much feminine.

^-.-^

[BookstoreEscapee]

How often do people on the internet get told "I always though you were a girl" and take it as a compliment?

[Mikkel]

How often do people on the internet get told "I always though you were a girl" and take it as a compliment?

Depends, the female people will probably be happy enough. At least I hope Kara is.

[Talon]

Wow. Just... wow.

I never doubted Kara was female either. Other than that, I have no words except to hope you get through this with both your sanity and your family (not necessarily in that order) intact.

There's also this. I know it doesn't help now after the fact, but this might help for future dealing with the cops. It's a lecture from a law professor who advises that you NEVER talk to the cops, even if you're innocent.

The professor is also hilarious. Check it out for both laughs and good advice:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8z7NC5sgik